I refuse to date a guy that wants to look at porn while he is dating me. And if I figure out the guy did look at it, I get very upset and feel bad about myself. Exspecially if he is getting plenty of sexual pleasure from me as it is...
2006-06-15 18:51:22 · 14 answers · asked by MLPT 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
That is personal, and different for everyone. Pornography can be used as a tool. That is the same case as sex toys. If you 2 do it together, it can be a way for you to enhance your sexual experiences. That does require some trust on your end. I am a guy, and not trying to be biased, but my girlfriend used to watch pornography together, and we learned many new things and brought them into the bedroom. Men are visual, and do know that it doesn't mean he loves you any less or don't feel inadaquate if he masturbates, or watches pornography. There are some things that a man can give himself that a woman can't. And that goes for women too. However, if it totally makes you uncomfortable, he should respect you and get rid of the porn, or at least come to some sort of compromise.
2006-06-15 19:00:06 · answer #1 · answered by Johnie B 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yep, that's judgemental.
Is it a bad judgement? That depends...
Is the guy in question addicted to the porn? If he looks at it constantly 24/7 or lies about looking at it, then I'd be upset about it, too.
If it's just an occasional thing, and he tells the truth when asked, then it's normal.
I don't think you should worry about it. It's not like he's using the porn to replace you or anything. You said yourself that you're giving him plenty of pleasure.
2006-06-15 18:58:23 · answer #2 · answered by IdiotGurl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I disagree wtih you. I used to feel the same way when I found my boyfriends porn magazines, but then I understood that it's very important for a men to get visual input even though they might have a really hot girlfriend or wife. It doesn't mean the guy doesn't love you or is not satisfied with you or your body, it's just a guy's thing, don't worry about it and maybe you could even have fun with him watching it together :)? Because if you try to deny it, you'll always be disappointed, because all guys do it and it' s a healthy habbit, ask any psycologist, there 's nothing wrong with it.
2006-06-15 19:01:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, it isn't judgemental of you. I consider myself to be attractive. My husband says I'm sexy and all that happy crap. He used to have mags and videos until I told him how inadequate it made me feel. He threw it all away. If a guy loves you, and really wants to have a future with you, he won't look at the stuff. PERIOD. Once he knows it makes you feel bad, he should stop! I am married, more of a commitment, but if you are just dating a guy, and he won't stop doing things that make you feel bad, plenty of other fish in the sea! Don't waste your time feeling bad about yourself for someone else who probably doesn't deserve you anyway!
2006-06-15 18:58:42 · answer #4 · answered by ktterdfurguson 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no longer as a female friend. understanding all the different adult men she's been with, it really is only a turn off. i'm effective there are countless adult men who does no longer thoughts a unclean chick like that, yet i'd somewhat devote a severe elationship to a woman who hasn't already slept with another guy on the block..
2016-10-14 05:16:57 · answer #5 · answered by valda 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm totally with you on this! no way would I date a man that engages in any of that behavior... I don't even have a high opinion of a guy that I'm not dating that needs it either lol... its demeaning to women , it means he is immature and that does not tell me anything good about his potential as a mate... you are not judgmental because of your feelings, you have every right to feel this way! why should you have to feel hurt or feel like he is comparing you to other women, especially women that have such low self esteem that they engage in that behavior for money.... if a man truly loves you, and you are his sexual mate, why should he need or want that anyway? you should be all he needs or wants... don't be hard on yourself , somethings are simply "deal breakers" and you are not alone in this one!
2006-06-15 18:54:28 · answer #6 · answered by Ms Fortune 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope! You can feel however you want - I agree with you, a man in a relationship shouldn't be watching porn. I personally think porn in general isn't good for a person and/or especially a relationship.
2006-06-15 18:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't look at porn at all if the right woman was by my side.
If it was to increase the fun in our bed then, maybe I would, but for real, if I wasn't learning anything I couldn't use to pleasure her, I wouldn't watch it. And to be honest I would hope she picks up a few things to do to me as well.
YOU HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO THINK THAT!!!!
2006-06-15 19:04:52 · answer #8 · answered by Blaze.of.Glory 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are women who like to look at porn as well, either alone or with their partners. If it's something you don't agree with you should let him know and get rid of him if he chooses porn over you :)
2006-06-15 18:56:46 · answer #9 · answered by darkness_returns 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
not at all!! guys should pay attention to their girlfriend or wife more than they should wiht porn. That's like the guy is saying I am more interseted on porn than I am interested in my girlfriend or wife... which is really RUDE!!
2006-06-15 18:56:27 · answer #10 · answered by Samantha D 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋