Whats the deal...Is it LOVE or LUST?

Question

I am hopelessly in love with my friend. My best friend, he and I are so different yet so alike. We have a complex relationship. We have been intimate on several occasions, but that is not he basis of our relationship. We've known each other four years and we have been in this limbo all four years. Yes I do love him, but he says he doesn't love me that I'm not his type. But every time he starts a relationship with some girl, he always comes back to me. I can tell by the way he looks at me, that he has some feeligns, but I just dont' get why he denies loving me. Or that I'm even his type. No matter how hard we try to stay away from one another we always end up back being whatever we are. I'm so confused.

Answer 1

It sounds like love to me...maybe he is afraid if it did not work he would not have you as a friend

Answer 2

I believe he's using you. You may not see that right now and/or he's totally oblivious. WHY would he say that you're not his type...but when he needs a piece of a$$, he'd be with you?! He obviously doesn't say NO when he wants something out of you. I truly believe that you know deep in your heart that he's not for you. He's a user, stop waiting on him...stop wasting your time. He may "care" about you, but obviously he's not in love with you. Get out there some more(just don't be a ho though). It's just sad that YOU'RE the one that's confused. Keep your friendship platonic...reject him sexually!. He would either wonder why you're not interested or may even get mad, BUT it will not be your fault. Are you only with this "friend" only because he makes you feel good about yourself? If that's the case, then look elsewhere...you're "looking for love in all the wrong places". Go have fun with your girlfriends. It'll be funny if you DO ever reject him...will it make him think? Maybe, maybe not. Overall, you either end the sex with him or end the "friendship" altogether. Enjoy life, stop making yourself miserable. I say MOVE ON. There's other guys out there that would truly appreciate you and love you for who you are. Tell yourself you deserve better! GOOD LUCK;)

Answer 3

Girl.......this is what you do! First of all move on........get a guy, get a guy that shows the love and attention you deserve. Your a fall back girl, and thats how he sees you, to him your sex and a friend that he can console in. But your also the one that is allowing him to do this. The whole thing about he keeps coming back, do you know why he keeps coming back? Hes coming back because you let him.....your the piece of *** that he doesnt have to worry about getting in a relationship. Please respect yourself more and move on........I hate seeing girls going thru this. I have been in this situation. Not only if your not available and you are spending time with someone else men tend to come around more when they want something that they cant have.

Answer 4

Here is what you need to do, if you are serious about losing weight and keeping it off. Eat 6 small meals a day about every 4 hours. Here what that will do for you, your metabolism will increase (i.e. Loose weight) and you will have more engry. If you go on a diet and eat less, your metabolism will slow down and store to fat. That is why diets dont work. Only the size of your fist, carbs (examples:baked potato, pasta, oatmeal, beans, corn, melon, apples, fat free yogurt, whole wheat breads)in one and protien (examples:chicken breast, swordfish, shrimp, turkey breast) in the other. You can also eat vegetables and salads with any meal, they dont have none or little fat). 30min cardo exercise every day. Any of these(examples: walking, jogging, swimming,running, biking, ect), Monday cardo, tues upper body (arms: curls, tricep extensions,pull ups, front press)(abdominals: leg pull crunch, leg raises), (chest: bench press, butterfly, pullover)(shoulders: front press, arm pullover, cross county skier machine)(back:seated row, lat pull downs, back extension)(YOU DONT HAVE TO DO IN ONE DAY, mix it up) wed cardo, thurs lower body (legs: leg pull,leg press, squats, lounges) fri cardo, sat upper. Sunday eat anything you want and dont exercising, you do this on sunday so your body doesnt go into starvation mode. YOU NEED TO TAKE SUNDAY OFF. If you stilck with this you will have a great body. also drink aleast 8oz of water daily! Stay away from Mcdonals, Wendys, ect because there is nothing good for you on the menu's even the salads are bad (beaon bits, cheeze, dressing, ect) Good Luck :)

Answer 5

Lust = I gotta have him.
Love = I would like to have him