I am half native half polish, my husband is black, the native side of my family have always been racist towards me because I have blonde hair, green eyes and light skin, and of course they are racist against blacks too... We're in the military so when I do go home on leave do you think I should keep my son away from them, or just take him over to show them their grandson and leave them alone forever..
2006-06-15 18:39:53 · 9 answers · asked by Heather 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it's my family (not immediate) that is racist towards me.. not my husbands family, they love me!!
2006-06-15 18:49:41 · update #1
I don't think it is necesary to put your child in a situation that is going to hurt him or cause him some kind of trauma. I'm Mexican and my husband is Irish-American. My grand-parents were german so I have some whitish in my blood, but I look completly "Latino". My husband's family didn't like me, so when my children were born I didn't let them see or visit them. Both my kids are white, blond with blue eyes, but they speak Spanish and like Mexican food better than burgers. Little by little his side of the family started looking and trying to make more contact with me. Obviously under my terms.
Remember that your family is who cares and loves you and everything that is around you. If they don't like it ... TOO BAD ...! Your child will grow up and you will be able to explain what is the problem. It's your duty to keep him happy and safe.
Also you may want to talk with your family and come a mature and effective resolution. Good Luck.
Missanti.
2006-06-15 19:17:11 · answer #1 · answered by missanti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully, for the sake of the grandson, they will put their racial issues aside. If they have any common decency and love in their heart, they will. If not, I say your better off without them. Just remember, you only get one chance to be a good mom, and children learn what they live. I would rather tell my son that at least I tried to let him have a relationship with them than to tell him you didnt try to push it. Good luck, and I hope everything works out. Your son is a piece of you, maybe they can look past the drama and love him.
2006-06-15 18:48:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the native side of your family is racist towards you and your husband, you think they'll accept your son? Not likely. Unless they ask to see your son, I wouldn't subject your son to any potentially ugly situation when you see your family. Their loss.
2006-06-15 18:46:09 · answer #3 · answered by Jacki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would at least bring him there to meet them, you never know, they may fall in complete and total love with their grandbaby. Being a grandparent has the most profound effect on folks. You never know, that baby may be just what your family needs to gain a new perspective on life. Good Luck!!!
2006-06-15 18:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first person. If they don`t like you then i wouldn`t bring your child near them. They may treat him not too nicely. My Japanese side of the family is kinda like that, but my black side of the family is more nicer to me.
2006-06-15 18:47:01 · answer #5 · answered by ♥PrInCeSs♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ur son has the right to know ur family, but if u note their treating him in a racist way take him away from them
2006-06-15 18:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Riley's Mom♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's kind of messed up. I don't think you should get involved in your husband's family. Just enjoy your family, and ignore whatever your husband's family think about you.
2006-06-15 18:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't even let them see their grandson. If they can't love you for who they are, they aren't going to love or appreciate their grandchild either. Screw them
2006-06-15 18:43:13 · answer #8 · answered by Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no don't let them get to you show no sign of weakness u be the biger person and let them see thier grandson but set them straight if they can't respect you or your family and no welcome there then you would have to leave
2006-06-15 18:55:29 · answer #9 · answered by Lady C'Nay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋