I am in denial...?

Question

today my boyfriend told me that in order tostayin a relationship with him, i have to loose weight. I know i shud just leave but i love him too much. all is just too overwhelming rite now for me. pls tell me to do other than leave him....thanks

Answer 1

Well you have to ask yourself why you love him so much. It does not look like he loves you, or he would not be so willing to dump you because of this. If he really loved you he would start by talking to you about how YOU feel about your weight and if you feel that you need to lose weight. He would be supportive of your feelings and be willing to compromise if need be. Dumping you would be out of the question. If he really loved you he would not dump you for this. You need to reevaluate your relationship. Take some time off from him for a while to get a breather and some time for yourself. It will give you a better perspective. Then maybe you can make a good decision.

Answer 2

i would say leave him but you don't wanna hear that you want some other help.
How bout you could try and loose a little weight, just do simple things such as cut out sugary foods, junk food, take away. walk for a hour or even just half an hour a day. if you do this and loose the weight and if he ever puts it on then you can do the same for him and you know he will coz you will be so skinny and gorgeous that anyone will want you. im not saying that you arn't already gorgeous and that beauty is from the inside but make him relise what you are doing for him and how much you love him

Answer 3

Well are you unhealthily overweight in any way? This may be far-out but perhaps he just wants you to be more healthy? If you believe that you are healthy and your guy is just being selfish and wants some skinny ***** for a girlfriend then he's a lame muthaf***r and he doesn't deserve you. It all depends on how you feel about yourself really - go with your gut. If your unhealthy and you think he might be saying that out of concern for you then try and make some changes. Ask him why he feels that way, and then act accordingly.

Best of luck! :)

Answer 4

OK, I won't tell you to leave him, but what I will ask you is this: What is it about him that you love so much? What does he do for you? Does he treat you with respect and dignity? Does he encourage you in other aspects of your life? If you did decide to lose weight (for yourself, not for him), would he encourage your efforts, or would he sabotage them? Think about those questions, answer yourself honestly, then make a decision about what to do. Good luck.

Answer 5

You will find someone else that drives you crazier than he does. Don't give your bf the pleasure and you the pain. Just find someone who loves you. If you don't you will REGRET IT FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE!!!!!!! Believe me.

Go through a little pain now, and spare yourself A LOT OF PAIN LATER.

Blessings,
Jon

Answer 6

Leave him. He does not love you. If you have to lose weight for you man to be happy, then he is selfish and cares nothing for you.

Answer 7

well, it sounds like he is kinda shallow but...you have 2 choices. stay with him and lose weight or leave and try to find a man that does not mind the weight...

Answer 8

I would treat myself to a full coarse meal, in front of him. If he left,
tell him dont let the door hit u
where the good lord split u

Answer 9

LOVE YOURSELF FIRST AND FOREMOST.That's what you need to think about and then work on losing weight for you not for him.It is not healthy to be over weight but do it for your self no one else.GOOD LUCK

Answer 10

You know you have to leave him. He doesn't love you.