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i have been looking for a place to move to but i feel that the timing (financially) isn't right. I have a good bit saved up but i feel like i need more money..otherwise i am doing great ..and since hurricane katrina places are limited. I have told my mother on more than one occasion that i feel like i am too old to move back home..i don't want to hurt their feelings but why do they keep insisting?! if it helps i am not an only child

2006-06-15 18:10:53 · 30 answers · asked by shorty82 5 in Family & Relationships Family

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1) They love you.
2) They want to be there for you.
3) You are never to old to live with your parents many people do that for many reasons other than financial.
4) Getting assistance from parents in this world isn't always there for most people. Take advantage of it until you get on your own two feet and stable sincerely.
5) I have three children and I love them with all my heart and I would hate to see them in any bad situation what so ever. I will give them anything I can possibly give within my god given abilities.
For love and only love that is reason enough to accept it and to offer help. If you do decide to move back in then tell them that you want to help them with chores and other things around the house. Or just ask if they can be there to support you in any decision you make financially and emotionally. They will understand They wont be hurt if you are honest and truthful with them.

2006-06-15 18:19:40 · answer #1 · answered by just_me_thinking_&_smiling 4 · 0 0

She's trying to offer a helping hand. I can understand feeling as if you are too old to move back home, but this may be the break that you are needing to get where you would like to be financially. Everyone needs help now and again. Don't let pride stand in the way of life's small gifts as they are so few and far between. As for them insisting, more than likely they are worried. Parents worry. It's only natural and something they can't simply stop as their child ages.

2006-06-15 18:20:27 · answer #2 · answered by adagia27 4 · 0 0

I'm sure they are just worried about you and want to help. Be grateful, a lot of parents wouldn't offer. You sound like a very good person, trying to save yourself and not do the easy thing and move in with your parents. However, should you at least consider it? You'd probably be able to save faster...In the end you have to decide what is best for you both financially and morally.
Good luck!!!

2006-06-16 02:45:09 · answer #3 · answered by yogazen 4 · 0 0

i would look at it logically. no offense but u are obviously not rich so i think you should go home. go to work and build your credit to the point you no longer need to rent. u should work until u can buy your own house. your parents keep offering for you to come home so you can have security. you do not have any children from the sound of things and they want you to take advantage of living with them so you can save as much as you can before you begin your life. (marriage, kids) the whole nine yards. think about the big picture and not the small picture here. what they are offering you is priceless security. and besides you would have to be a mother to understand the deep commitment in wanting to care for your child even if they are in their 60's. u will always be their baby. so thank god that they care for u this much.

2006-06-15 18:18:08 · answer #4 · answered by wedjb 6 · 0 0

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2016-10-14 05:16:22 · answer #5 · answered by valda 4 · 0 0

Parents only want to do whats best for their child and hate seeing a child struggle in life. Sometimes by offering you a chance to come home for awhile takes the pressure off and then you can make the decision whether or not to accept or decline. Most parents would not be offended by a negative answer.

2006-06-15 18:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by newdls 1 · 0 0

Well, I can see your dilemma especially if you were involved with hurricane Katrina last year, if you're able to still make it on your own then do so, but if your parents are asking you to come back home temporarily until you can get back on your feet ,I don't see anything wrong with that.

2006-06-15 18:15:36 · answer #7 · answered by Ron T 2 · 0 0

Sounds like my situation. I moved back home in April because I'm pregnant and i wanted to start all over again. BIG MISTAKE. If your parents are like mine, they will get on your nerves and have something to say about every move you make and every word you say. (and i'm 25 years old) If you are out on your own then I think you should do what it takes to stay on your own. There's nothing like your own, I'm telling you no lie.

2006-06-15 18:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by tantalizin1 5 · 0 0

They know how hard it really can be, and maybe that extra year of saving up is just what you need. I know my Mom loved having me home - she had someone to fuss over, and she likes to be a part of my life. (Also I could watch the house while they were out of town)

2006-06-15 18:16:18 · answer #9 · answered by Robsthings 5 · 0 0

Mothers will never, ever stop worrying about their children. That's just the nature of mothers.

If you are financially stable enough to survive on your own, just politely turn down her offer and assure her that you are fine.

2006-06-15 18:14:19 · answer #10 · answered by Shadow 3 · 0 0

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