I have a question (duh) please help me?

Question

I have been let down a lot in my life. I have always turned to god to help me but nothing gets better. just recently something terrible happened to me and i decided that god must not be real, and if he is then whats the use to pray if he does not help me. Is it wrong that i feel this way about god?

and please do not tell me that i have made mistakes. I have not done ANYTHING wrong. Gods first mistake was the day i was born ( i didnt ask to be born now did i?)

im sorry but i can not go into detail about what has happened

Answer 1

Unfortunately you have been taught a lot of rubbish by a lot of people.
So many believe God is micromanaging every detail of each person's life. God does nothing of the sort. We were given a world, we, as a species, decided what to do with it. Our suffering has little to nothing to do with God.
You are suffering the consequences of your choices, your parent's choices, your neighbor's choices, etc.

The question is, how long do you intend to suffer? Much of what you are feeling is self-inflicted. Show me the wound! You have none. It is emotional pain caused not by some other person with a magic remote control, but by yourself in response to what someone else has done. Do you like suffering?

Stop. Don't suffer. They did something. Do you need to suffer over it? Choose not to.

It's not that easy? You'd be surprised how many people say that who have never done it. And they say this to a person who has done it and taught others to stop suffering. It's up to you.

Some people LIKE to suffer. It makes them feel superior to whomever did what they don't like. Trading happiness for brief satisfaction.

Bad trade in my book.

No one can let you down unless you have expectations that are unjustified (no one owes you anything, including God, that isn't specifically promised to you), or you keep dealing with unethical people (who won't keep agreements in the first place, so stop dealing with them.

If you are unethical, good luck. No one except the unethical will likely ever deal with you unless you fix it. Expect a lot of pain.

God doesn't give a damn whether you consider him real or not. He doesn't need your prayer. The prayer is for your sake, to open you mind to possibilities in your life, to make you verbalize what you really want which allows you to really see your desires in ways that just thinking about it never reveals. Stop praying and you simply end up wandering in the silent recesses of your mind with little ability to see such thoughts clearly and thus resolve them.

Nothing is wrong with you. Your feelings about God are extremely common. I am simply grateful that I do not feel the same, nor do any of those who are close to me, as my wife or I usually shock them into sensibility with a few choice words.

You are just like every other self-indulgent, "I am owed or I won't believe in you" person who never achieves anything because they are still waiting for someone to rescue you them or give them a boost.

No boosts in real life without a price, because we expect to deal with adults, not children.

I wonder if God feels the same way when he hears all the whining prayers he receives?

So, are you done suffering, or did you use all my rant to justify how you feel and do it even more? If you've gotten this far, here's the punch line.

I want you to be happy, and to love, and to see reality as it is. Happiness is your birthright, one you have denied because you gave up your innocence. You can regain it. You know what you have to give up.

Here's the funny part: I'm not religious. Oh, I know God exists because I experienced him directly when I was seventeen (17). Changed my life utterly, it was the ultimate prayer answer. I also didn't deserve it. I just hit on the right combination.

There was no message, no mission, just experienced everything, everywhere, simultaneously. In some circles, I would be considered a mad-man. I leave the question open, just to be careful and open-minded.

You don't need to suffer. I want you to stop. Only you can stop it. Physical pain is all you need to suffer, not emotional pain, and you don't have to pretend to do it, nor shut the world out.

All my love. I'll be watching for you to blossom.

Answer 2

You have to remember, God always answers your prayers but sometimes the answer is 'no'. God gives us free will so even though He has the power to give you everything you want, it doesn't mean He will. You may not understand it now or see why He could do this to you but realize that this is why He is almighty, we will never comprehend all of His ways. If you feel God is not real, you can't prove that, so you're giving up your faith in Him and instead have faith in the fact that He is nonexistent. Would you rather live your life for Him and die to find out there really is no afterlife, or live in disbelief to find out there really was? While it's wrong for you to feel the way you do, we're human; it happens to the best of us. Satan is always at work on God's people. God at times will test our faith. I'm not sure about your situation, but I suggest talking about it with someone else you can confide in and telling them what happened. They will have a better idea of what caused you to lose your faith and help you regain it, and comfort you through your problem. I'll pray for you.

Answer 3

This too shall pass. Everyone has had a rough time in life. Please don't think that what ever happend is your fault. Everything happens for a reason. Many bad things happen to good people. I was deployed to Iraq this time last year. I had to see some good people die and live when they wish they were dead. My advice to you is to pray more. God is real! He has helped my through tough times. It breaks my heart to hear that any person has had to live through a horrible experience. Hold your head up high. Walk tall! Things that hurt you will only make you stronger. God hears your prayers, just keep praying and do good for others and you will see results. One day, If you do these things, you will have peace in your life. I have finally got peace in my life at the age of 25. It took 25 years and a traumatic experience to see that God is real. Please don't give up on God. I promiss you that he won't give up on you. Things just take time. God be with you. I pray for you.

Answer 4

Yes it is wrong to feel that way about God. Things happen in life that may disappoint you, but that doesn't mean that God isn't real. Mabye you've never heard this story,but in the Bible it tells about a man named Job. God tested Job by allowing the devil to do things to him. God did this to see if Job was truly a faithful follower of Him. You see, God loves you and through the hardest of times He is with you. You need to pray to him as a believer that He is always with you and He will answer your prayers. As long as you are following His Will, He will answer your prayers. Mabye not on your time but on His time. You can rest assure that His time is perfect even though it may not be obvious. Well, goodbye and stay strong in your faith!!!

Answer 5

Your feelings are pretty normal. But perhaps you're missing a few points. You are in charge of your choices. When you make good decisions the benefits are yours. When you make a boo boo guess who pays. From our experiences we learn to do it the way our Creator instructed us. You are not a dog a cat or another animal. You have an ability to think and to recognize yourself as a separate being - in the image of G-d. You are currently in the School of Life. When we study the requirements and pass the course we succeed. When we sleep through class or skip classes we fail to prepare ourselves for the future. Get busy and study the instruction manual for Human Beings. Be a blessing to others and fulfill the purpose for which you were born. Before I sent my men into combat in Viet Nam I made sure they knew what was required to get out alive. Use the same approach with your LIFE STUDIES. If we aren't properly instructed we are sure to have difficulties. Be well and study.

Answer 6

No, it's not wrong that you're feeling let down. The question is.... what will you do about it.
You don't say what you're bummed about and you don't say if you're living for Christ. Both of these are important to your outlook... Why? Well because God isn't going to answer prayer based on selfish desire, (James 3 tells us this, and what I mean is- for example- you can't pray to God for someone to like you if they don't already.) and ...if you're living for Christ you wouldn't be so wacked out over not having what this world has to offer.
What is this "terrible thing" that has happened to you? You don't mention that either. Your idea of a "terrible thing" and His idea of a "terrible thing" are vastly different....

Answer 7

Life certainly deals some tough blows to most of us and even the strongest of faith can waver from time to time. Personally I have reconciled life's difficulties with the existence of God by research, study, and open mindedness. I've come to the conclusion that God is not necessarily exactly as portrayed in the traditional Jewish and Christian teachings. On the other hand even in those teachings God doesn't offer protection from life's curve balls, only coping mechanisms.

Answer 8

I'm sorry you feel this way. Some other people feel like this. Disbelieving God because of bad circumstances. Joel Osteen is a good preacher. Watch a few of his sermons (on tv or go to his website joelosteen.com). I find him uplifting and he teaches that you must trust God in the bad times and that better will come and he has other good messages too.

Answer 9

A simple straight forward answer; You are not God, let God decide whatever He likes for you. Do your best and leave the rest of the part for God to decide. If you turn your back to God, only you will suffer, as you need God in your life.
Best of luck and keep yourself steady, i will pray for you.

Answer 10

Sounds to me that your putting GOD on a pedestal, they say that GOD helps those how help them self's, to ask if it's right or wrong well then it's up to the individual and his or hers belief in a higher being, no one person is going to tell you if your right to have the feelings your having.
Look at it this way bad things happen in three's, if you look at that way then the fourth has to be a good thing, I'm not saying give up your faith just start to look at the numbers.

Answer 11

Ok first of all what makes you think that god is a person? God can be anything.

Second thing you need to realize is that in life people make mistakes, so learn from them and get on with your life!