My boyfriend works really hard. He gets up every morning and he leaves for work. I have quit my job because of harassment. Now my boyfriend tells me that I am lazy and no good *****. I work here in the home clean, cook, laundry, dishes, and take care of our kids. I am unhappy and don't know how to get out of this situation that I am in. He tells me that he is going to leave me. just to hurt me most of the time. tell me what should I do?
2006-06-15 17:27:42 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not going to tell you to leave him, however he needs to show you some respect, but honestly he is probably frustrated because he is the only one working. Talk to him about it, tell him how much he hurts and if he doesn't shape up then what you do is find another job and help out. Do not depend on anyone other than GOD to provide your needs, (DON'T FORGET IT)! You need to be respected no matter the situation, but he is probably tired and taking the out anger on you. You are cleaning, cooking, and etc. he should appreciate that, but I bet that if you go back to work, take care of yourself and don't depend on him, he will get himself together.
2006-06-15 17:38:54 · answer #1 · answered by shaunee 3 · 13⤊ 1⤋
Maybe the two of you should get a babysitter and go out for dinner or have dinner ordered at eat at home (just the 2 of you).Talk to him in a calm manner and let him know how you are feeling and you may want to start the conversation with the things that you like that he does and make sure he knows that you appreciate that.If this doesn't work maybe you should try leaving for a week or having him leave for a week.The time away from each other might make him realize that you do a lot too.good luck and I hope this helps..Also if possible try to attack the problem, not the person.Try not to yell and just talk about it and if it's that big of an issue perhaps he would watch the kids while you work or maybe you could get another job.Good luck!We all have trouble in our relationships sometimes, we just need to work them out or get out of the situation by packing up and leaving(last resort).
2006-06-16 00:40:24 · answer #2 · answered by mommyof2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know just how you are feeling. My hours were cut down to one day because of budget crunches. I'm trying to find another job, but until I do my husband is bringing in almost all the money. I do all the housework and take care of him completely. He gives me a hard time about it constantly. In fact, he just yelled at me for it a few minutes ago before he went to bed. Other than getting a job, I don't know what to tell you to do. I suppose you could always leave him, but the kids complicate things. I'm sorry you are going through this and wish you luck.
2006-06-16 00:34:43 · answer #3 · answered by danac210 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him!Not to be mean I know you love him but to be honest when I read this it mad me think of my ex.Leave him was hard but it was the best thing I ever did.I mean you cleaning and taking care of kidd is work it not lazy.Sound like he dosn't treat you right and you probly fight a lot and think of leaving but not sure if you sould.That if you do you could **** up thing and make it worse just like I once thought.I was wrong the only thing I did that was wrong was not leaving sooner.I know you have kid and they probly like mom and dad togther but you to fighting all the time ant good for them to be around even more when your not happy.Now if you leave you it will be hard at first probly for you and your kids but it will only get better.Beleave me once you leave you will be happier and soon thing will only get better.You can also give you kids a better life.Cause if you happier soon the kids will see that (after they get over you to and their dad not betogther)and when they see your happier they will be.You will also be single and free to see and do as you please.
2006-06-16 00:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by babaygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to @#$@# off and the only one that would be leaving would be u tell him who puts his clothes in the wash so he has clothes to go to work in tell him oh im sorry i didnt know the kids take care of themselves or that meat on ur plate cooked ally by itself!!or the fact that that food didnt just get into those cabinets by themselvesor hes eating on a clean plate is he?or those sheets that he rests his head at night so he can work..they are clean arent they..or i dont know how old ur kids are but if they are young ask him when was the last time he gave them a bath? ran them to the doctor?..dont get me started girl the list can go on for miles...
2006-06-16 00:43:47 · answer #5 · answered by pebbles 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny i went thru the same thing just got a new job today and we are still fighting cause he is a neat freak and we have a 2 yr old son HELLO! kids make a spotless house impossible let him do your job for awhile and see how he feels. just get a job and get out of the house you will automatically feel better and so will he it is stressfull being the only one bring in the money. so i suggest you get a job and give both of yall a break
2006-06-16 00:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by tammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uhh what an asshole does he not realise how much work it is to run a household...have him be in your shoes for a week he would be begging for his job back...talk to him or u leave him that aint right
good luck
2006-06-16 00:30:49 · answer #7 · answered by the quiet one 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave HIM. Tell him that your sick of his bull and threaten to leave HIM! Don't just hold back cause of your kids, if its broke, fix it, if you can't find alternative routes, and don't look back.
2006-06-16 00:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by Max 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him what the hell he thining of you..is he wants you to support he life with ur money..leave him and find the better person whos responsbilities...its ur fault if u easy to like some one..
2006-06-16 00:31:06 · answer #9 · answered by nanna_pito 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can put up with it or you can stand up for yourself.
sounds like there's much more here than just what you've given us to work with.
2006-06-16 00:30:35 · answer #10 · answered by Talamascaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋