Are all men like this?

Question

My ex and I have a four year old little girl. He has a three year old little boy with his girlfriend. Why does he give him more attention? Why can he treat both of them the same. My boyfriend treats my little girl more like his child. I love that he loves her the way he does. I would not change my boyfriend for anything in the world. Whay does it bother me so much? I even tell my ex he needs to change but nothing changes? Are all men like this? is anyone else having this problem? Please help.

Answer 1

Evidently he does not deserve two wonderful people such as your daughter and yourself in his life. All men are not like this just the losers.(don't tell your daughter that) He probably is just around his girlfriend's child more and that's why he gets more attn. on that part of your question. Or maybe he grew up in a family that played favorites. I have that problem on my husband's side of the fam. It would bother anyone to whom this was happening. We want our children to be surrounded by loving caring people and so many fall short of that unfortunately. My own father ran out on us after 4 years abusing my mom and she remarried a few years later. My stepfather is one of (if not THE) most wonderful caring strong supportive upright people I have ever or will ever know. I wish the same for you and your daughter if not with current bf then someone. Good luck.

Answer 2

I think it bothers you because you love your little girl and you want her biological father to love her too. I also think that 'you' may feel rejection by your ex because he does not treat your daughter the same as his son. It does hurt and there really is nothing you can do about it. Telling him to change won't work. Just be thankful that you have a little girl to love and that her father does see her. Maybe you could actually thank him for spending time with her...many dads just skip town and could care less about the kid or kids they have.
I know the most important things to do are love your daughter, try not to fight with 'dad' while she is around, and try to look on the bright side. My husband left me when I was 8 months pregnant and our daughter is now 10 years old. He has always treated his step daughter better than our daughter (and still does) and it used to really upset me. I have just come to the conclusion that he is who he is and it is not going to change (for the last 10 years it has proved to be true). But I am thankful that he is in her life so she does not feel like her dad totally abandoned her.
And most men are good guys (but guys none the less...hee, hee) and should not be compared with your ex. There are jerks out there, but don't throw the baby out with the bath water. I have a great husband who loves 'his daughter' very much and that means the world to me. Hang in there!

Answer 3

Your ex is a fool for not paying attention to your daughter , he should give them both the same amount of attention
My ex and I divorced 10 years ago and his kids are in the late 20's and one turned 30 and he hasn't paid any attention to them ...He is an asshole and I hate him for what he has done to them.
But the good side is my husband now treats them like his own as I do his, they are all treated fairly and we love them all.......................Hopefully your ex will wake up one day and realize what he is doing but don't hold your breath and I wouldn't bother with him ..Your daughter has a new father now and just let him love her and shower her with attention..Your ex will get the point

Answer 4

Get rid of him. Your boyfriend now will be better for her in life (don't take this the wrong way but be careful with the men you rbing into your daughters life, they are dangerous and sneaky so u'd never guess anything is wrong. Not saying don't allow men to be in her life, like your boyfriend is, just always be suspicious until proven not guilty!). She doesn't need to be juggled from a dad that doesn't love her to a mum and dad that do love her, she may feel rejection when she is with her real dad. Plus if u limit his time with her, he may realise just how much he does love her.

Answer 5

I am sorry to hear that you are going thru this experience.
As a man I can tell you this; Men look at their son and want to model that kid just like him or try to live their life thru the boy, get him involved in things he was not able to when he was younger...
and ofcourse the boys are the one who pass on the family gene..
it is sad deal this happens in just about every culture...I don't know the solution for this

Answer 6

It bothers you because you want your daughter's biological dad to be around for her. If I'm your ex, i'd most likely be the same. I'd spend more time with my little boy from my gf. It's just logical.
Besides, it seems that we both have our own lives now. It's time for both of you to move on...so move on.

Answer 7

sound like the real dad is a butt Head and he is doing this child's game because he knows it get to you. one day he will grow up and it will be to late because she will be grown. Just make sure he pays the child support and if not go after him.sounds like you have a go man now. But No we are not all the same.

Answer 8

For god's sake go on the pill now or get yourself fixed.
Also he is an *** in that he will always favor the boy over the girl.

Answer 9

Of course ALL men are not like that. How can anyone stereotype half the population of the world into all being like one stupid guy.

Answer 10

It probably just seems like that because he's always around his son so you feel like he gives him more attention...... He love both his kids equal he's just around his son more so you feel like he loves him more.... It's not bad to feel like you feeling and no all men aren't like that!!! There are some alot worse