How do you talk to your mother? (girl stuff)?

Question

Me and my mom never talk. We use to be a lot closer a few years ago but she always worked and I begged her to take some more time off and she never did so I guess I have stopped trying and also stopped are relationship. I'm not sure if that’s it but... Anyway how do you talk to your mom about everything (girl stuff) periods, hair, shaving, nails, make up, tampons, sex, everything. Both of my parents have barley even talked to me about sex and I'm 15. All they have said is "boys will talk you into things and you shouldn't do it, they just use you". I don't even think they used the word sex once in there short sentence they had to say to me. and how do I talk to her if I want to use tampons. I can’t even talk to my mom about getting a hair cut. Most of the time I don’t want to bother her, I feel I’m only in her way.
Don't just say talk to her its not always that easy.
Please, I appreciate your help. If you would like to help me more email me I have more to say that you can understand.

Answer 1

Give your parents one last shot. Test them with something small, and if they don't blow up, try something a bit bigger. If this does not work, try talking to an Aunt, or other realative you feel close to. Don't want advice from strangers ok? Parents really are human.. try again ok?

Answer 2

That's how my mom was when I was a teen.It wasn't that she didn't want to talk about it.The way she was raised was those subjects were taboo you didn't mention those things to anybody.Luckily my 2 daughters know they can talk to me about anything and everything.My most treasured times with them,we would sit in the floor by an upstairs window and we'd talk for hours.After I became an adult my mom opened up a lot and we talked .It could be that she doesn't know how to talk to you about those things.But one thing you should do is find a quiet time and ask her if she would sit and talk with you.tell her how much you admire her as a Mom and would value her opinion.Many parents today feel they can't compete with the Internet and their child's friends when it comes to spending time or giving advice to them!I know it is really tough being a 15 yr old,everyday is new when you haven't experienced it yet,but keep in mind,it's also a new day for your mom being the mom of a 15 year old! unless you have an older sister! Good luck and hug your mom and tell her you love her.As of 2 yrs ago,I no longer have my mom and I miss her so very much!

Answer 3

Get her a card and on the inside put something like I sure miss hanging out with my mom. That will open the door for you two to spend some time together. And hopefully things will start to come up and you two can talk about things.

Answer 4

im very sorry. i know it may not be easy. i just went throught something at work and it took a month for me to tell my mother. i finally did and it really helped me out. about your period just tell her that you dont feel confortable in pads and that you would like to try tampons. im not a big make up fan.. i've always been told that your prettier on the outside- makeup just covers your beauty. i dont know you but im sure you are pretty. shaving... i started to shave about your age and i started with nair. i found out later that i am allergic to it. i asked my mom to show me how and if she would let me shave with a razor. i understand that it may seem wierd to talk about those things with any one but she's your mother and she will understand. even if it seems that she doesn't . honestly you are to young for sex but if you have a guy friend that you think you are ready for then i guess its your answer weather you have sex with him or not. just always remember that you need to use protection. and please dont let any guy push you into something you dont want. thats what i had mentioned in the begining about work. someone pushed me into something i did not want. any way try to get her alone and talk to her. hopefully it works and i totally understand how you feel. if you have any more questions or if i did not wxplain my self very well and you have questions you can contact me. im 17 so im in your age group. good luck

Answer 5

Try to get comfortable, and be somewhere where others aren't. Just you and your mom. You need to try and 'force' yourself into talking to her. It might be hard at first, but once you do, it will become a lot easier to talk to her later on. A lot easier. She'll probably be happy to have you talk to her about these things. It's a mother's job. Why wouldn't she? But if you are really that uncomfortable about talking to her about simple things, like getting your hair cut, try to talk to her about little stuff day by day, then you should feel closer to her.

Answer 6

I really know what you are talking about because my mom is never there for me. But i would try to talk to her. But if that did not work then try to write her a note. If you have a cell phone then text message her. well my mom has a boyfriend and all she ever does is try to be with him. i don' like him but i have to live there because my dad died when i was only 12. she does not even care about me. well i hope that this helps.

Answer 7

Hi friend. I know the pain when mother don't talk to her kids. But i suggest u to try and try untill u suceed. U just post a letter to her so that she can read and know your feelings and pain. Try tobe more open to your parents and explain them your problem.
When their is a will their is way. Iam sure they can understand. One thing i would like to say u dear remember that parents are working for us and they love us more than their life. So have patients and wait till they come to u.

Answer 8

are ur parents together or apart? maybe she herself is going thru some things...how old is she? sometimes when u raise kids u forget who u are and u feel like u can't care for another let alone take care of urself.sex is a touchy subject but what do u want them to do come up to u? not gona happen ask questions say ok then ill do it anyway if ur not gona help me cry for her attention shell eventually get the hint.

Answer 9

first of all...i want to say, that teens rarely care enough about relationships with parents to do much on thier part, so bravo to you on that, second, my relationship with my mother improved a lot when i moved out, i am one of 8 kids, so i was always fighting for attention, does she have a birthday or something soon, or just make your own special day, give it a good name, plan WAY ahead, secretly talk to your moms boss, and ask them if its possible to keep her from getting overtime that day, make sure your planning around your moms normal schedule, make sure they know its a suprise, and get many involved, your dad would be a good one, and keep in mind that your mom and dad talk a lot more than you and your parents do, just by telling your dad why your planning a special day, he may find his own way of talking to your mom about your expressed need to have more time with her, and more open conversations.

Answer 10

if you maybe ask your mom maybe before work or call on her lunch break tell her its important it deals with stuff that will effect your whole life and its really necessary for her to be the one helping you out with these questions and problems you have if she still cant make time to talk maybe find comfort in an young aunt or a older cousion some one who wont judge you on your questions but will still give you the anwsers you need