I talk to single girls basically on the daily, and Im constantly gettin the run-around. If itsa IM convo, they always "have to go"..This sh!t is really bothering me. I don't know what to talk about with people, im like at a disconnect with the world! When i see really simple minded people finding others, it makes me wonder what the hell im missing! Im STRUGGLING to meet or make new friends. The only people i have contact with are ones that ive known for a long time.
Heres whats up: i can get the "hi" out, and the "whatcha doing" out also, but when i get a girl to talk about whats going on in her life its always "oh having so much fun i party all the time..etc." but when i try to suggest hanging out, or partying together, or anything of the sort! (lots of times its not even come-on-ish) they suddently have something come up, or can't find the time to do something like that(with me). I need things to suggest, and good ways to get girls to do them with me. FYI im 20, cute(so they say)
2006-06-15 16:44:34 · 16 answers · asked by Billy Boy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, just to clarify, these aren't people i meet online, they are girls i meet through other people (ex friends family). I think trying to be their friend is OFTEN times counterproductive, a couple of you suggest this, and ive found that i get stuck in something called "the friendship zone". This isn't all bad i guess, but at this point Im kinda looking for more than friends.
2006-06-16 10:27:57 · update #1
Here's what you do. Do this exactly.
Do not ask for the IM, e-mail address or anything to do with contacting online.
Do not ask "whatcha doing"
Do not "suggest hanging out, or partying together"
Here's what you do: You will go up to the girl, ask her for her name and shut up. Wait for her to ask for your name. If she does not, then say "it was nice talking to you" and walk away.
If she asks for your name, then ask her what she does. eg. if you are in the school situation, then ask what she is studying.
Try to tell a joke or something - try to make her laugh during this period.
Then after 2-3 minutes, ask "what is your home phone number?" and shut up. Do not try to help her out. Say this exactly. Do not improvise. Do not assume her answer. If she does not answer you then say: "it was nice talking to you" and walk away.
If she gives you anything other then her digits, say: "it was nice talking to you" and walk away. Note: Most of the time, girls will not say no. They rather give you an excuse.
There you go.
Oh yea, to answer your question, do what I said above exactly and you will find out if the girl is interested in you.
2006-06-15 17:04:52 · answer #1 · answered by Spinner9 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be trying to hard or going to fast. When getting to know a girl-Don't be uptight, Or else you're gonna make a fool of yourself. And if you want to get a girlfriend or just someone to hang with THIS BAD, Try a dating service, There are people just like you, So don't worry to much about what the other guy has and you don't. Not every woman is going to like the same thing--Take that in mind. You may not have what they are looking for--Even if you're good looking. Well---That's my opinion, If you need a female friend, You can always email/IM me.
2006-06-15 16:57:08 · answer #2 · answered by angelbaby_1223 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself at all cost. If you become what they are than you won't get what you really want out of the relationship. This computer thing is pretty cool but nothing beats meeting some one up front and personal. The best way to meet someone is at something that your interested in, that way you already have something en-common. Birds that flock together, stays together.
GOOD LUCK!!
2006-06-15 16:56:46 · answer #3 · answered by blackbery 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl just want to have fun they don't want to listen to some guy rant and rave if this rant and rave question is an example of the way you talk to girls on the phone it is no wonder that they lose interest.think of something upbeat and fun to talk about and may be things will change for you.
2006-06-15 17:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe ur trying to hard..what kiind of questions r u asking,,,or maybe ur too desperate,,trust me girls like me kinda like the chase just dont get lost.
2006-06-15 16:48:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old you just take your time the right one will come around just be yourself and talk about likes dislikes where you like to go to have fun find out her likes and dislikes also her interest.
2006-06-15 16:49:46 · answer #6 · answered by lele 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just chill man. shoot up with some freky questions rather questions get in direct talks as if you were friends frm ever
2006-06-15 16:48:01 · answer #7 · answered by jack 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one if you are looking for someone on here thats just stupid unless they are close around ur area, but if you are out then just be yourself maybe you are trying to communticate with the wrong type of women
2006-06-15 16:55:59 · answer #8 · answered by jaybersdime1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Focus, focus, focus
Pinpoint which girl you want and go for it. Be like the lioness, fix your attention on one and concentrate on her. If you go for all of them they will know and won't take you seriously. They will think you are playing around.
2006-06-15 16:49:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get to know them. is it just that you meet someone and in one convo you ask them out or is it a seriese of convos?make it a friendship then when she likes you ask if she wants to do something. most girls want their first date with a guy to be just with them. idk but thats how i am. so make it like coffee or something. but you need to establish a friendship.
2006-06-15 17:12:36 · answer #10 · answered by chloie778 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋