Been friends with this guy for years, he is engaged now, and i'm head over heels for him, i've told him how i feel, and everytime he has a g/f i dont have a b/f and vice versa. He has asked me out in the past and i was stupid and blind an turned him down. Now this chick isn't great 2 him, but he says she makes him happy... and if he is happy then i'm happy for him, but should i just stay away and hope for the best, that maybe one day i will get a chance with him? should i bug him? still be friends with him? try 2 break them up? I'm so lost! We have alot in common, and i'm in love with his family, and i know his family cares for me too...something that they dont have for his fiance....HELP!!! i've left my ex for him, i've quit smokin' for him... well and for me, BUT i dunno where 2 go now, i dont want to wait for him, becuz what if i never get a chance with him... but i really truly deeply feel that he is my soulmate!
HELP...PLEASE...
2006-06-15 16:33:50 · 15 answers · asked by Muddin'Queen10 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
THANK U SO MUCH! I dont want 2 make him mad @ me... i've told him how i felt, and he knows that i love him dearly...she is 16 and he will be 25 on the 29th... the wedding date is set for 6-14-08 so i still have some time, but i want him to break up with her, becuz he knows that he would be happier with me, not becuz i make him feel like **** or make him mad @ me... ya know..thanks for the advice... i dont want to lose him... i have AIM LilOne32487.. if anyone would like to chat IM me THANKS AGAIN...
2006-06-15 16:49:14 · update #1
ALSO she bugs him about his past, he was with me, then meet her... and she will not get over the fact that we are best friends, she doesnt know that we still keep in touch, and he lies 2 her about me... this is a ? he asked/posted...what u think now?
if you were in a relationship should the past relationships matter to your new partner?
not saying that there are any stipulations (disease's) involved just past relationships
2006-06-15 16:51:52 · update #2
TELL HIM.... I was in the same boat with a girl I knew many years ago.... I fell in love with her as a friend..... then, as we got closer and closer... I fell in love with her completely... and I knew she cared about me but, neither of us every told each other how we truly felt.... though we stayed friends.. I ended up moving away and we didn't keep in touch often enough.. next thing I knew.. she met a guy and they got married... I told her several years later after she'd had two children... she told me she was in love with me but didn't think I liked her that way.
She would have married me... I would have married her... but we didn't tell each other how we felt until it was too late. We're still friends.. but we don't see each other now because I think we both know what would happen.
Don't wait until it's completely too late... tell him now.... if your friendship is powerful.... it'll remain that way regardless... if he feels the same way... maybe his 'current' relationship will end and he'll be with you.... but if you don't tell him, you'll regret it for the rest of your life and will always want to know.....
I hope it works out for you!
2006-06-15 16:41:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe if you have told him all of this and he still marrys this girl then you should leave it at that, but if he cares for you the same way then he shouldnt be in that situation, let him know one more time and if nothing changes before the wedding then it wasnt ment to be sweetie, there are other men out there that could be just as good to you in all the ways he made u feel, keep it real, but if you cant be a friend then it must end now before you break down and lose yourself, and you dont want that.
2006-06-15 16:45:16 · answer #2 · answered by jaybersdime1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you have feelings for him but you have to accept the fact that you and him will never be. I say to you keep you distance for about a month or two that way it give some time to heal. I know that this is your friend but sweetie it sound like he really loves this girl and you must respect his relationship. If he ask what up with you tell him I need time to get over you. Be honest with yourself and it okay to to cry it will cleanse your soul. Try to avoid spending so much time with his family it only make your situation more complicated. In time you will heal and his relationship will not bother you.
2006-06-15 16:45:41 · answer #3 · answered by Disha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's awful, I've been in the exact same situation. Me and the gal I liked never got together for any length of time and I'm now married. If the engagement or marriage doesn't work out, that will be your chance but for now I think you just have to be happy for him. Sorry sweety.
2006-06-15 16:38:38 · answer #4 · answered by Gene 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i can say this if its meant to be it will just happen if not move on i wouldn't say give up hope but he has someone now and he thinks she's special but maybe your pointing out everything thats wrong about her because you want him all to yourself and you can't have him. but if she isn't any good he''ll find out in the long run. i say go ahead and date have some fun stay out of they're business life is too short to wait around for something that might not come around.
2006-06-15 16:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how u feel, i too am in love. Ask him if he really loves that girl he is goin to marry. tell him that u love him and would do anything for him. tell him u want to spend your life with if. If u don't u might never be with him again. ask him if he can really see himself with this girl for the REST of his LIFE. yall have the basis for a solid marriage. don't let him go, make him think about what he is goin to do, make him think about u two being together. let him know u still love him and want to be with him. make him doubt his "love" for this other girl.
2006-06-15 16:40:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never give things up "for someone else" If you don't change for yourself you will always resent the person you thought you were changing for.
Rent "My Best Friends Wedding" and leave him alone.
2006-06-15 16:38:04 · answer #7 · answered by mommydl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him before he gets married. DO NOT get into a relationship with him while he is still involed with this other person!
2006-06-15 16:35:53 · answer #8 · answered by Simmy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really had feeling for you he would of left her. Breaking them up no!!!!!!but if she is that bad It might work itself out .wait for him not probably a good idea.
2006-06-15 16:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by movin12006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pull a Love & Basketball.
2006-06-15 16:41:16 · answer #10 · answered by kristi w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋