a question for the men?

Question

if a man is in love with a woman, should she be insecure about things like stretchmarks etc, i am otherwise in good shape and attractive, but i feel inhibited because of the marks i have from my pregnancy, i feel repulsed by them, do men feel the same?

Answer 1

...they dont do wonders for the looks

Answer 2

Good lord no. I can't even begin to imagine the pain of childbirth but don't worry about the stretchmarks. If they really bother you then there are some creams out there that help reduce them and some light excercise will help.

Answer 3

I think the ingredients to an answer are all contained in this question. I'll put them together for you. If a man is in love with a woman, she shouldn't feel insecure about anything. (Why? --because he's in love with her.)

Generally speaking, a confident woman is sexy, an insecure woman is slightly annoying. Be confident in who you are and what you look like.

Answer 4

Absolutely not. Then again, I suppose if you married only for looks it's a different story, you could have some problems....but then again, you had problems well before this.

Hell, I have stretch marks, I weighed 320 lbs when I was in high school, I lost 100 lbs my junior year. You know what they say..."Don't sweat the small stuff" Stretch marks is small stuff.
Be happy about your baby, and your happy marriage. That's the good stuff.

Answer 5

A real man loves you for who you are. I am a 32 yr old man dating a woman with the same insecure problem. I tell her and you that to a man that loves you it does not matter. I'm sure the man you speak of and myself have physical flaws.

Answer 6

"You are your own worst critic."

Don't remember who said it, but it is SOO true; and in my experience, it is more obviously true for women than for men. (Whether the men are less self-conscious or simply less self-aware, I cannot guess.)

Anyway, nobody is perfect. It sounds like you are so focused on your own imperfections, that you may not have even noticed that no man is perfect. (If you HAVE found a perfect man, AND he is in love with you, you are unbelievably lucky and no one here wants to hear about how difficult your life is!! j/k LOL!!)

Seriously, though; if you are repulsed by your own body, you must do something. But before you start down the path to trying to 'perfect' your body, you might try some counseling to make sure you have a healthy perspective on your body to begin with. Good luck!

Answer 7

I am a man and my belief about stretch marks on a woman is that she shouldn't be insucure about them if he is in love with her. Ask
your man to help you rub vitamin E and alovera lotion on them. It
helps get rid of them but not completely and in the process you just
might become a little less insucure from the bonding that you are
doing with your man.

Answer 8

If a man really loves you, then he should take you as is, which in your case, stretchmarks probably isn't going to be that big of a deal.

Answer 9

My fiancee has some stretchmarks, but I never notice them until she points them out. I just feel privileged to be in a position where I can see them. :)

Answer 10

ok, so i am not a man but i just want to say this...
wear your scars, streatchmarks etc, proudly. it is no easy thing to carry, deliver, and raise a child!

everyone has things they don't like about themselves, here's the secret... chances are no one has even noticed. when you look in the mirror, stand back and check yourself out in all your glory. Don't get out the magnifying glass for it. you will only make yourself nuts.

the things i am most neurotic about in regard to myself are some of my s.o.'s favorite traits.

Answer 11

no ocourse not,streach marks from being pregnat and having a child isnt a thing to look down on,it is a sign of mother hood.it shows that you had a baby,not all women can and you did and should be proud of it.