Why don't my mom and I get along much?

Question

Why? I don't even have friends. That's why i'd like a boyfriend. I'm lonely and have no one.

by the way everyone I'm in my mid twenties and my mom and I don't get along. I'm not a teen as you can see.

well actually early twenties, but still i'm misunderstood by the public at times, so why does ti have to be my fam?

I don't know why everyone always think i'm a teen?

nevermind, i will just tolerate my mom. Thanks for nothing guys :(

and why did the last replier delete her comment? Oh well hehe whatever!

i mean respondent not replier

Answer 1

Try listening to what ur mother has to say instead of doing things like the direct opposite....and isn't that why your online, to meet friends.

Answer 2

There are actually studies out there that show that girls of a certain age (teens) just cannot get along with their mothers/ It has nothing to do with the mom or the girl, but the hormones and biologies of the two just don't mix well. Things will get better!

Answer 3

The conflicts betwe. mother and daugher are an ancient evolutionary device to make daughers SMART. Argue with your mom as much as you can. Imagine how terribly you would be off if you just had peers, where everybody is nice and nobody is critical: you would not become smart.


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Answer 4

Perhaps you should focus on accepting yourself first...take a trip alone and just reflect on what kind of person you are and how you portray yourself to others. You have to learn to accept and love yourself before anyone else can.
Ignore the ignorant people on this site who seem to live only to torment and tease others...keep in mind that they are simply insecure about themselves and that's why they need to make other people feel bad.

Answer 5

How old are you? Do you still live at home with your mom? Boyfriends don't take all the pain and loneliness away believe me, been there done that, there is more things to help with loneliness then a man!

Answer 6

Well...sometimes mothers and daughters have issues brought down from the mom's mother. Sometimes Mom's 'Think' their children should be a certain way, feel a certain way and behave a certain way. If they do not follow in thier 'expectations' of them; and the child has different interests, or has not applied themselves to their fullest. The 'Mom' feels like she didn't do that great a job. Like she really messed up somewhere. There is a book out regarding Mothers and Daughters you can look for it on amazon. Learn to speak the 'truth' from your heart like ... I Feel this way, MOM. Try not to Lash out at her and put more guilt upon her. I am sure there are two sides to a story but the circumstances surrounding your delima can be corrected with 'behavior' changes. If you change your behavior she will respond with a different attitude/behavior and you will break through what you thought you didn't have. It is communicating. There is a book by dr wayne dyer: Erroneous zones It explains how to be careful with your choices of words. Sometimes, we say Angry when we are totally Dissappointed or Hurt inside for loving someone and they do not meet out expectations. As a child do you hold resentments toward your mom. This is an area you need to work on even if it means going to a councelor. You may have to stop certain ways of your thinking and assuming or she may also have to do the same. Most times, when people look at eachother with the ache in the gutt and heart feelings... the other person feels exactly/similar to their internal feelings. Like a Mirror looking back at the other person. Try to think of a sentence. "IF MY MOM WOULD_______________________WE WOULD BE HAPPY, FRIENDLY, LOVING, CARING, TRUSTING, COMPATABLE AND HAVE THE BEST MOTHER DAUGHTER RELATIONSHIP. If you are experiencing innappropriate situations in your life morally, then your mom aches inside for she is older and has experienced lots of what you are going through. Sometimes, people think they know it all but they don't. Sit back and listen and watch your mom. What exactly is she going through? What could you do to lessen her load. Once you begin to change the attitude toward her she will respond and you will have harmony in your relationship.

A boyfriend will not remove the problem. Once you get one, you will be angry at him because he will present the similar issues your mom aggrivates you with and you will get mad at him too, when you are really angry at the situation not the person and bring the issue with your mom into your relationships.

No one can Love Us until we Love Ourselves and it shows. So start doing things to improve yourself and get the friendship going with Mom first. No matter what it takes because without her in your life you will always be lonley.

I do not know the situation but if violence or abuse is in your life with your mom, that is another story where she will need councel also. I am assuming it is just a battle of the female wills.

Lonley is due to underdevelopment of yourself. If you don't correct lonley...find some interests of something you can do to feel like you accomplished and did something good. There is something you like? Find something you like. Learn something new to do to accomplish. Crochet it will come in handy someday.
The best way to not feel lonley is to go to a nursing home, a pet shelter, and look out for your neighbors who live alone, no company and go visit them for a few minutes. We are never alone really. We have angels who protect us. If you have a bible... begin reading the new testement. There are psalms,proverbs and beyond that books of the bible that you can receive answers. Before you go to bed at night, list 25 things you can be grateful for.

When you get inside your heart and mind and start thinking in your heart with love, you will receive love.

Miracles and Blessings 2 U.

Answer 7

Aww. That's sucks for you.

Answer 8

they are just conflicts they always happen, it should clear up soon.