i wanna have a baby girl with my girl but am only 17 and shes only 15?

Question

shes real nice with people but a bit stuborn and sometimes i fight with her way to much more than the normal level but i still love her

Answer 1

Get a bag of flour.

For one week treat it as if it is your child.

Set the alarm for 3 am and turn your bag of flour. Then set the clock for 5 am. Then for 11 am and so on and so on.

Carry the bag of flour around with you in a baby harness or in a stroller.

Make sure the bag of flour doesn't get damaged.

Meanwhile, consider this: children are affected by everything their parents do. If you and your girlfriend fight the baby knows it. What was the worse you ever felt as a child? Chances are it was during a time when your parents were fighting.

Security is the best ground for a child to grow up in. If you can't get your act together now you should wait until you have that ground ready and waiting for that kid to have the best chance to grow up in.

It's not about age, it's about maturity and responsibility. Right now the two of you are very young and you think the world works in a simplistic way. It does not, there are complexities the two of you are not yet ready to face. Get to know each other first, then see how it goes.

Marriage is a damn good idea, no matter what the new trend is. Marriage shows the two of you are committing to an effort to raise your child in safety and with the love and understanding she or he will need to reach his or her own maturity and majority.

Big hint as to whether your ready, if you fight too much you're not ready to compromise. If you can't compromise for her, you won't be able to compromise for your child.

By the way, you didn't mention your own short comings. Does your girlfriend find you perfect? If not, consider that as another sign that you need to wait.

So wait.

Answer 2

You should wait about five years. Yep! Five whole years. By that time you should have a job (which I'll bet you don't have now) and you will have both graduated from high school (which hasn't happened to either of you yet) and you'll have some idea of what life is all about. You are both much too young to even think about taking on the life-long job of caring for a child.
Do you want to travel? See more of the world? Learn about other people? It's darn hard to do with a baby.
Are there things you want to buy? Nice car? Sharp clothing? All the nice electronic toys?
Won't happen if you're working at a minimum wage job and trying to raise a child.
Would you like a nice home? Maybe with a pool?
You need to save up enough for a downpayment on a house.You won't get ahead by living in a rented apartment. I'll be you don't have much money in the bank right now -- certainly not enough to get into a home of your own.
Give yourself time to grow up, and find out exactly what you want to do with your lives. Then, when you're ready to settle down, it'll be the perfect time to have a child.
Oh -- and you don't order a girl or a boy.You take what you get.

Answer 3

Take some advice from someone who was a teenage mom, WAIT! It is something special to have a child with the person you love but your both just kids, I wish I would of waited, dont get me wrong I love my daughter and dont regret having her but I gave up my whole life, dropped out of school at 15 and became a mother/housewife. Take your time, there are other fish in the sea and children can wait until you and your partner are ready, not just emotionally but financially as well, they're not cheap.

Answer 4

i think you need to hold out for having kids i'm 22 and i don't want to have kids until i know my future is secure and i think you need to do the same. a 15 year old should not be having kids and sex at that age you need to focus more on school and less on sex and having a baby. the only person that will be raising that baby mostly is the parents of the kids who had the baby in the first place i should know the same thing happened to my sister you don't want to go though that its hell.

Answer 5

Wait for a while and enjoy yourselves. You want to make sure that you can give the very best to yourself, your love and your wanted little one. Grow together and create a wonderful circle of friends and family to support you in this journey before you bring a baby into the world. You will be great parents and very happy ones too if you fully prepare yourself, your home and your relationship.

Answer 6

I had my first child when I was 16, kinda the same situation. WAIT!!! We married and then divorced. I'm 33 now and I'm raising the kids we had together and if I could go back and start over, I wouldn't have any kids. The responsibility goes alot deeper than you could even imagine at your age. Don't Do IT! Love doesn't = babies

Answer 7

The pressure of raising a child before both of you reach maturity and financial stability , will eventually tear the relationship apart , if you bring a child into the world under adverse circumstances. It wouldn't be fair to the child as well .

Answer 8

Why do you want a baby already?

Live LIFE, a baby ties you down for the next twenty years. Seriously you will end up just working 100 hours a week to buy things for baby. sounds miserable to me....

Answer 9

She's already a baby. Try getting a college degree, a career and some money before you try to raise a baby on your paper route or fry cook money.

Answer 10

Please wait, your girlfriend is still growing herself and she may not be able to handle the added stress of having a baby. If you really love her wait...if not wait. You have plenty of time and need to grow and explore the world first. How about a puppy or kitten for now, and see how that goes.