How do I raise my self-esteem?

Answer 1

Focus on yourself. That doesn't mean that you should become self-centered, but it means that if you spend too much time worrying what other people think, then stop.

I know that it's easier said than done, but be yourself no matter what. It's hard, but it's worth it.

Sometimes buying a new shirt or getting a haircut gives me a boost of confidence. It's only temporary, but sometimes it's the boost I need to get working on other areas of my life.

Answer 2

Question is ,what has lowered your self esteem or how you think of yourself. Did someone say or do something to hurt your feelings. Do you feel guilty about something? Look, just be yourself ,not some phony balogna?If you have guilt feelings about what you've done by all means make amends.Remember God loves you and so do I. You can help someone who is less fortunate than you Try volunteering at a nursing home.There are a lot of lonely old folks there that would love someone to talk to or run an errand for them and nothing makes you feel better than to help those less fortunate

Answer 3

Talk to yourself.

No, seriously. If someone insults you, just say to yourself that it's not true and realize that you're better than them. That's how my self esteem is pretty good. I think I'm better than everyone on the planet! Now as long as I don't reveal this in person, I won't have any problems.

Acceptance is also big. When people call me fat (I am), I just say, so what? That's me. I'm a teen, there's nothing I can really do about my weight. I'm good at other things.

Answer 4

Practice. It has taken me several years, but my confidence is much higher than it was ten years ago. One book that has really helped me, after I first dismissed at just another author wanting to get rich, is The Four Agreements, by Don Miguel Ruiz. He talks about how we make assumptions about ourselves and then we actually BELIEVE those assumptions. We start to take everything personally that we tell ourselves or others say about us.

You have to practice everyday. Practice on not believing the lies and assumptions that you tell yourself or others say. There is rarely any good evidence to support your mind's own self-destructive lies and accusations. No one is perfect. We are humans, we make mistakes, we do dumb things, we feel scared, jealous, angry. We are not programmable robots. You have to give yourself credit for all the postive things you do, and learn from the negative things you do.

In time, and it does take time, you may greatly improve your self-esteem.

Answer 5

Hang around nice people who encourage you to do things and get out more, and be confident in yourself. Its your friends that really help to make you feel comfortable, and raise your self-esteem. It will make you happy, and when you are you won't worry about yourself so much, you'll just want to have fun and enjoy life.

Answer 6

Check this web site out, http://www.goodcharacter.com/BCBC/SelfEsteem.html
Here is some of what it recommends:
• Spend time with people who like you and care about you.
• Ignore (and stay away from) people who put you down or treat you badly.
• Do things that you enjoy or that make you feel good.
• Do things you are good at.
• Reward yourself for your successes.
• Develop your talents.
• Be your own best friend - treat yourself well and do things that are good for you.
• Make good choices for yourself, and don't let others make your choices for you.
• Take responsibility for yourself, your choices, and your actions.
• Always do what you believe is right.
• Be true to yourself and your values.
• Respect other people and treat them right.
• Set goals and work to achieve them.

Here is another web site with a good article http://www.mentalhealthrecovery.com/art_selfesteem.html

Answer 7

Get some positive self-hypnosis tapes .Learn a new skill ; that will pump you up. Excercise is very good for self-esteem.

Answer 8

get a beautiful girlfreind. That will raise your self esteem, will ruin your life though

Answer 9

Look in the mirror everyday and say: I am a beautiful person and everybody loves me. Say this everytime you look in the mirror. Get out of the house and do a good deed everyday. Pretty soon you will love yourself and when you do you will notice that everybody else will respect you too.

Answer 10

Find the things that you are good at and develop them. In other words, find and build on your strengths and surround yourself with positive people. Let the negative friends go.