my boyfriend is going through a bad time. And i'm trying my hardest to be strong for him. But since his hard time conflicts with my past i really don't know what to do. I feel like i'm not doing anything to help. My mom is an alcoholic and i'm struggling to deal with her. Not to mention that i'm sleep deprived and that i hardly eat. i want to eat but everytime i do i feel like i'm going to puke. And since my boyfriend is going through a rough time that conflicts with my past, i'm struggling with my past haunting me. i fade out of the real world and back into my past. it kills me everytime cuz i go back to when i was raped by my cousins and physically, and verbally abused by my stepfather. I just wish i could put an end to all of this. What should i do?
2006-06-15 14:56:53 · 14 answers · asked by hotelfen75 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
You seem to be spending a lot of time and energy trying to be strong for everyone else but yourself. I think you need to take care of yourself . The stress of trying to deal with the people in your life is stressing you out to the point where you can't eat.
You go through your life alone in your own mind, you are with yourself until the day you die. People, friends boyfriends, parents come into your life and leave your life for whatever reason. There is no vacation from yourself. Working on yourself and facing your past will make you better equipped to deal with the people in your life but most of all it will help you be happy no matter where you are in the world, no matter if you are with someone difficult or not and you will feel happy and content even when you are alone.
2006-06-15 16:37:40 · answer #1 · answered by mia 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Get closure by turning them ***** into the authorities Hope your secure and old enough to go on your own and show them it can be done. Even if it's cross country. You've got a lotta neglect from home and very offensive behaviour directed at you. Have faith in your strength that gave you the nerve to ask for help and live life for what it's worth and that is priceless
Yeah, my dad is right. Or maybe you should just try and take a break. Maybe a day at the spa or hanging out with some of your good friends.
2006-06-15 15:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by Eternity the playground 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You had mean cousins. If I were you I would see a counselor. You must understand that you did nothing wrong. Learn to love yourself. Your stepfather was a cruel man also. Someday people like that will pay for what they did wrong. There is no sense letting this mess up your life. You really need outside help with your mom. Maybe try going to AA with her. Don't worry about being strong for him. If you can get help for yourself do it. You can help someone else better when you get help for yourself. A counselor or group session can help both of you very much.
2006-06-15 15:07:58 · answer #3 · answered by Busy Lady 2010 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step out of the situation your in, it may not be easy but its the best thing for you to do. The stress is enourmous on you, i know you don't want to but you have to take care of you first before you can help anyone else. This i figured out a while ago when i had the basic same issue with the first BF i had, i wanted to help him but i didnt know how bad things were going. I'm still realizing how it effected me. Step out. Do what you have to, to start over but do so.
-May you hear the heart of a new light beckoning.
2006-06-15 15:15:59 · answer #4 · answered by With Eyes That See 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel your pain or at least I used too. Theres nothing you can do but, stay strong and you`ll get through it. I did. No matter how many problems you are faced with theres always a light at the end of a tunnel. Good Luck!
2006-06-15 15:07:04 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would do as others have suggested and seek therapy. I am in therapy myself and it does help (except for certain times, if you know what I mean). Sometimes just talking to someone who can remain objective and not judge you can work wonders. I have depression myself, and I wouldn't wish it on anyone. Good luck and God bless.
2006-06-15 15:52:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to someone who has profession experience helping... any advice people give you oonline is going to only amatuer at best. You have real issues and you need help dealing with them... the boyfriend though I have to say isn't worth keepingif he's not helping you find the help you need and watching you suffer.
2006-06-15 15:02:42 · answer #7 · answered by Big C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Collin gave you the right advice. Get professional help through the county or school. I'm sure there is some program that can help you.
2006-06-15 15:06:53 · answer #8 · answered by Wascal Wabbit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought of going to a professional to discuss these things? I would think that it is your best option,. If you don't have medical insurance to cover such things, look into medical assistance in your area. Sometimes it's best to leave it to those that have the training to help others...I do think yours is one of them.
Also, our area has a "Children of Alcoholic Parents" group, this could help you. There are so many free programs, please look into the ones that are offered in your area.
2006-06-15 15:07:15 · answer #9 · answered by oman396 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that really stinks try to put those things out of your mind your meditate it works think about a a place where people are happy for 20-30 minutes
2006-06-15 15:01:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋