Should I let race stop me from asking for a date...?

Question

I met a man a few weeks ago at my local Stewarts Shop that made my head swim.. I go there all the time just to see him... but tonight he finally sat down and talked to me He is so beautiful!! Only thing is I dont really know how to approach him because he's white and Im not. What if he's not into black women? I dont want to get my feelings hurt but I dont want to let him slip away if he could be the one, (besides I am tired of buying those frozen coffee drinks as an excuse to see him). He's always friendly and maybe even flirty, but I cant really tell because we are so different. I am really attractive and guys come onto me all the time, but he's different, he makes me dizzy.... How do I approach him without looking like an idiot? HELP?

Answer 1

You talk to him---be forward and direct. Girls like it when guys are that way. And let me tell you, guys are the same way; we hate it when girls get all giggly, and touchy-feely, then when we ask them if they like us they shy away from the answer. It's STUPID and ANNOYING. Look. If dude doesn't want to date you because you're black, then dude is racist. Would you even want to be bothered with someone like that? Come on, you're a strong black woman aren't you? Well, aren't you?

Aria

*The illnovelist*

PS I don't know if you're into poetry, but read Maya Angelou's "Phenomenal Woman," which speaks of strength and pride. I also mention Ms. Angelou because she married someone white. Hell, Oprah's dating a white dude. You think these strong black women let race stop them?

Answer 2

If you like him and approach him because you like him there is NOTHING wrong with that. If two people are attracted to each other, skin color should NOT matter any more than eye or hair color. Or maybe even what color your cat is. If you like him, LET HIM KNOW IT. He probably is dreaming of you too. People who go for what they want in a confidant and determined way do NOT look like idiots because they are not idiots. Why not try for what we want, whether we get it or not? We can try better next time anyway, whatever happens.

Answer 3

Think about it, whenever you are looking at a prospective guy you are afraid of rejection and are trying to avoid it. This race thing is a legitimate concern, it is entirely possible that he would reject you because of it but there are a million reasons that anyone would reject anyone else. If you want to succeed in life you have to be willing to fail. You have to realize that sometimes you will be rejected and accept that fact.
The most important thing is to know that if he would reject you becuase of your race he is the idiot. So go up and ask him and find out if he really is the wonderful person you have convinced yourself that he is or not.

Answer 4

Look, truth be told, there are a BILLION reasons he might not be into you aside from race, but there are also a billion reasons he might be into you INCLUDING race! You said he sat down and talked to you!!! Girl, there are guys that I have wanted that wouldn't have peed on my head if my teeth were in fire! This guy SAT DOWN to know more about you!!! Just go for it girl!!! What's the worst he can do, laugh in your face and tell you you're not sexy enough??? If that doe shappen, thenmaybe the guy in line behind him will notice you have a cute butt or something and THAT will be the guy!!

Okay. That made no sense! Just go for it. No more questions!!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

You should just be yourself. Talk to him more everytime you go in for coffee, try to get to know him a little and then ask if he'd like to hang out sometime, give him your number so that the next move is his. Try being his friend first, then feel him out about the whole race thing. If it doesn't bother him, then gradually let him know how into him you are.

Answer 7

Just let him know how you feel. He might be in to you too, but not sure how to approach you. It may be for the same reason you are afraid to approach him. If he isn't interested you have to be prepared that things might be awkward when you see him. But if you don't take that chance then you may never know. Good luck and inquiring minds want to know!

Answer 8

Ask him out for a casual meal somewhere away from his work or maybe a picnic, something non confrontational and non threatening. There is NO reason why you should not. Race is not an issue here. 2 people are. Go for it! (PS--I'm white and would be flattered)

Answer 9

I'm old fashion. I believe the guy is suppose to ask the girl out. If he doesn't ask for your number or if you have a boyfriend or whatever...then you are wasting your time. If I was attracted to you and we had just ONE flirty conversation...the NEXT time I saw you I WOULD GO FOR IT. He should've asked you for the digits by now. Sorry. I think he's just being friendly and polite.

Answer 10

Gurl you betta go and get it. Don't let a little race intimidate you. There is nothing wrong with a little milk in your mix if you know what I mean.

If you like him enough you will go for it or someone else will. Don't wait to long. Good things come and go.