What is the best way to cope better from the death of a child?

Question

Serious people please.

Answer 1

There is no best way. That type of loss is impossible to cope with. However, support groups with people who have experienced similiar situations are very helpful and talking to a grief counselor.

Answer 2

I've had 4 miscarriages, so I know what you are feeling....
You want to blame somebody for this pain... find some way to make it stop...
What I have found is that time will heal you.... you will never forget them; but you must go on with life.
I choose to live in the moment. I value each day, each sunrise, each beautiful flower that I see.
Faith in God will help you too...
No one knows why these things happen. It will always be a mystery to you... Just pray about it and love the people you do have around you that much more.
I hope you can find some peace...

Answer 3

First, my condolences. I have not lost a child, but I don't think that there is an easy way to cope with it. All I can suggest, is lean on each other and your family. Seek a therapist if need be. You might want to see if there is a support group like "Parents of Deceased Children" in your area.

Answer 4

Grief is unique to the individual. There are stages of grief, which you can read about online if you search for them, but the main thing to remember is that no one grieves the same.
I lost my son's father and am very close with his parents. I grieved differently from them, and they from eachother. I can remember his mother feeling like other people moved on from the grief process too soon. I remember that she felt weird sometimes talking about her son at family gatherings, because everyone would become saddened, but she really needed to talk with people who also loved the child she lost--and since she felt she couldn't, she ended up very angry and depressed. I am telling you this because I feel that it's important for you to do what feels right. If you need to talk, then don't worry about other people's reactions-- you never know, they might be waiting for you to start the conversation, and need to talk as much as you do.
On the other hand, maybe you can;t talk. It's okay to get busy, keep occupied and go through a little denial. If it's too heavy to pick apart right now, then take it slow. Denial is a defense mechanism that we use to keep ourselves from breakdown. (as long as this is temporary, and not an escape from reality)
Alot of my family found church to be a source of comfort.
I am not a religious person, but I found that writing letters to my fiance after he died very helpful. It took a long time, but after awhile, I felt I could say things out loud to him. Sometimes, in the middle of the night when I was up with my son I would just cry and say right out loud, " I miss you," or " this isn't fair, I need you."
It's been a few years now, and I still haven't come to terms with my loss, and it wasn't my child. You may take a long time to feel a sense of acceptance, or you may feel it relatively quickly. Neither one is wrong. The most important thing to do is follow what you feel....and remember to take care of yourself.

Answer 5

There are many survior groups. It may help to get in contact with someone from your church too. I am very sorry for your lost.

Answer 6

Pray and God can confort you, after all he also knows what to lose a child feels like, God bless.

Answer 7

just help and play with other kids and spend your time to read holly books . I know it very hard to forget anyone . good luck

Answer 8

I can't answer it because I have not experienced this, My suggestion would be get some counseling

Answer 9

its very hard and you find yourself always blaiming youreslf but you to be strong and go forward as time goes by you come to terms with your lose