My boyfriend made me have a miscarriage 2 days ago and I dont know what to do nomore. I've been sitting in my room ever since I came from the hospital I havent been eating I dont do nothing I feel depressed.He has been trying to make up to me telling me that he sorry we can start over. I talked to one of my friends and she said that I feel like this because that was going to be my first baby.We went out to dinner last night and I couldnt hold none of my food down. IS THIS NORMAL?? I dont know what to do about my boyfriend anymore.
2006-06-15 14:50:45 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Close that door and open a new one, I feel same long time ago, and find my life is so important and no one problem is more important then my life, the way to put out all problems is talk, open your feelings and talk whit you love ones.
2006-06-15 15:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having a miscarriage will make you unhappy whether it is your first or tenth child. I don't know what you mean by "he made you have a miscarriage." If he hit you, you should leave tonight. You are depressed and not being able to eat is normal. You will go through a greiving process because someone died.
You will likely feel depressed for a few weeks - everyone is different. If you felt happy and as if nothing was wrong, that would not be normal.
2006-06-15 14:55:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all having a miscarriage only two days ago is a terrible tragedy for you to be going through. Yes you will be depressed. But life has to go on. There are support groups if you don't want to go for one on one counseling. I am praying for you.
Second, how did your boyfriend MAKE you have a miscarriage? If he physically did something to you, he needs to be arrested. If he just caused you so much stress that you miscarried, well that is abusive and you need someone who will love and support you . To answer your question, nothing is normal right now. Give yourself time.
2006-06-15 15:04:00 · answer #3 · answered by butrcupps 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, it sounds like you need to leave this guy and take care of you. Then you'll be ready to be a good mom. I'm wondering just how he "made" you have a miscarriage. You're smart, do what you gotta do to take care of you. If you contininue to have trouble from this boyfriend, go back to the hospital and tell them. They will help you.
It's totally normal to have trouble eating when stuff is changing with your body. It could also be your heart telling you it's time to make some changes.
I'll pray for you, from one girl who fought long and hard to have my darling baby girl.
Jeremiah 29:11
2006-06-15 15:01:19 · answer #4 · answered by TX mom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a tremendous loss for you. Know one can give you a fast answer that doesn't respect who you are, the decisions you've made and the choices you have to decide on. It must feel terrible though to feel as bad as you do, to say you don't want to live. Grief takes away our energy and spirit and it sounds like that's where you are at. Could I suggest you call an emergency crisis line, they are probably listed in the yellow pages, so that you can talk to a real live person, who wants to listen and care? If you can't find one, head down to your hospital emergency department, and tell them how you are feeling..they'll get a counsellor to help you sort through these things! Good luck and God Speed!
2006-06-15 15:00:13 · answer #5 · answered by naoj3873 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG honey..you're a younger version of me!! I went through the same situation..I don't know how old you are, but I am 33 now, I was 18 at the time of my miscarriage. I can tell you that not having an appetite or even having nausea is normal for two reasons I think...1st would be cuz your hormones still are in pregnancy mode...and 2nd is cuz of your emotions...you are in great distress right now and I fully understand what you are going through...please know that you're not alone in this! I'd say you dump his azz at your earliest convenience!! You also need to go see your doctor for your checkup..I don't know if they did a dnc on you or not, but maybe you should tell the doctor about your troubles eating and keeping food down as they may be able to put you on some type of nerve pill just for a little while perhaps...to help dull you for a moment. Unfortunately you need to deal with this pain and go through your grief. I felt as you did when I miscarried...I didn't want to live either...but with time...I know this is unbelieveable for you to believe right now.....but as I was saying, with time will come healing and peace for you. I miss my baby to this day...but the now the pain is nothing like it used to be....I'm not telling you that you'll forget that baby or anything like that please don't get me wrong....it's just that time does heal most wounds....I have a permanent scar from the loss, and probably so will you....but you must forge on and live your life...I am sure your child would not want for you to die or for you to be eternally unhappy. Please if you need to talk to someone know that you can feel free to talk with me...I'll try to help you through this. I feel your sorrow and my heart breaks for you.
You can email me at booper_bootie@yahoo.com
2006-06-15 15:10:00 · answer #6 · answered by bettywitdabigbooty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if he made you have a miscarriage you should not be with him and second you are depressed because of the trauma your body just went through. think about the next time you get pregnant whose to say he won't make you have another one this is not healthy. you are not keeping anything down because you really do not care to be eating you need to start off with liquids then gradually move on to solids. Out to dinner was the last place you needed to be. move on with life if you can
2006-06-15 14:56:07 · answer #7 · answered by drena_39 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How could he make you have a miscarriage? Do you mean abortion? If he made you have a miscarrage by means of violence, then seek counseling and call womens protective services. If he made you have an abortion, then please seek counseling and dump him, because a boyfriend that really loves you would support your choices. If you had a miscarrage because of health problems with the baby, then please, again, seek counseling and try to reconnect with the world. You might want to talk to a doctor about your feelings, and not being able to eat. He/She could prescribe something for you that will make you feel better.
2006-06-15 14:55:28 · answer #8 · answered by a_little_syco 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay dear listen.,i have an abortion twice.,for the first time i was really upset when my bf told me that we are both ready.,and i knew it for the first time.,I KNOW ITS WRONG.,i have my mind into it.,look i am 24 and he is 23 that time,we are on our 7months when we had that prob.,although its very hard to decide. I am the youngest of our fam.,and the only way to help my mom with her paralzm is me,to work for her. Now this is the decision making. I can have the baby adn let us be the parents of that kid. Let the kid suffer his/her entire life with his foolish parents(us), that cant give a financial support,a home that is worth living for and so on. Finally I decided to do it by drinking some medcnes. as of now we are planning to have the baby next year as soon as I go back home from our country. There are some reasons for everything. Try to figure out ur bf's reasons if his reasons is for the future and he really mean it. I understand him. If someone else.,you must decide it dear. If you love him and so he does to you. talk., with my bf now we are on our second year of rel., and getting stronger everyday
2006-06-15 17:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by PArk Clark Homes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes its normal to feel sick after having a miscarriage, but did he hit you to cause this? if so you do not need to be with anyone abusive, and loosing a child is very painful for anyone no matter the cause, its normal for you to be depressed its a sad moment in your life, but you will go on with life you have to pick your self up by the boot straps and keep going on, yes you will need to grieve over the loss of your child, but if i were you i would leave his sorry but in a new york minute he doesnt deserve you if he is going to mistreat you like that. no woman deserves to be abused in any matter, form or nature of any kind women are stronger than men realize, email me if ya just wann vent or talk some more
2006-06-15 15:00:26 · answer #10 · answered by ladyrebel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, this is one of the most traumtic things a woman can go through, and it's definitely normal to have some physical distress and some emotional distress as well. Perhaps you should consider counseling, and if the physicial problems persist for more than about three days, you should see an OB/GYN as soon as possible.
As to your "boyfriend," he's not worth the cost of enough dynamite to blow him away, in my humble opinion. If he deliberately caused you to miscarry, that's a felony in a lot of jurisdictions. Whether you report him to the police or not is entirely up to you, but at least consider it.
It's going to take you awhile to get over all of this, and I strongly suggest you get someone to at least listen to you in a safe environment. There are lots of pregnancy crisis centers and I strongly advise you to contact one of them and ask how they can help, or to whom they can refer you.
Don't ever think that no one cares, because it's obvious from lots of the other answers that even strangers on here care about you a lot, and I'm one of them.
Do take care of yourself, and definitely find someone who is going to be supportive of you, instead of staying with this guy who has amply demonstrated that his primary concern is himself.
2006-06-15 16:37:22 · answer #11 · answered by fhornsr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋