Why is it so difficult for people to apologize? Because of pride? Stubborn-ness? Opinions please!
2006-06-15 14:47:34 · 23 answers · asked by Big Red 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
There is no excuse for not admitting or apologizing for something you have done to another... that is if you are truly sorry for what you have done...especially if it is someone you love...For someone to not do so is just childish and selfish...or maybe the person doesn't think he or she has done anything wrong at all...or maybe they don't realize the extent of the hurt they have caused...If that is the case you need to let them know the pain they have caused and if they still don't get it...You must know your worth and not allow that person do hurt you ever again.
Remember: "Know Your Worth or No One Else Will"...Good Luck
2006-06-15 14:57:35 · answer #1 · answered by xoxo 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to sometimes admit to ourselves that we were actually in the wrong or sometimes we don't care if we were. Sometimes it is hard to say your sorry but whatever the problem is, there has been no improvement and it has gotten worse. If that is the case, then apologizing may be the only way to resolve it, if it is worth resolving at all. You can just say that you are sorry about what happened and that we can agree to disagree. That is fair and it does not make you change your opinion or your stance, it just says--I give you a right to your opinion and me a right to my opinion. Then you can just let time go on and leave it alone.
If you are truly sorry, you should not bring the issue back up, if you were in the wrong or what ever, b/c that will just cause tension and make you look like a liar.
Yes, pride does stand in the way as well as fear, and that is why so many people have guilt.
2006-06-15 21:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by just julie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people were never taught to say sorry, they can't stand admitting that they were wrong. My Dad is that way, I think it's because of his pride, he always has to be the one that is right and over everyone. It is definitely a pride thing. But he did say sorry to me the other day for yelling at me... So he has made some progress.
2006-06-15 21:52:22 · answer #3 · answered by arenagymnast44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Partly because of pride, but mostly because you feel like you're giving up on what you were trying to do. It's like you work so hard to try and accomplish something and now you have to give up, because you hurt or offended someone and now your plan is screwed. But when someone has a hard time appologizing for deceit, it's because they are surrendering their integrity and are afraid that this person will now see them as a liar and will lose their trust. That's all pride.
2006-06-15 21:53:04 · answer #4 · answered by Rockstar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For myself, I've always had an inferiority complex, and to have to say "I'm sorry" makes me feel that much lower... almost like you are admitting you are stupid, or maybe ignorant. I do know that there have been surveys on your question that people have said it had to do with self image. Saying "I'm sorry" is saying "I'm or I Was wrong... it's a hard thing for most people to do. We as humans always have a need to feel "right" about our choices, responses, and actions. So, yes, pride does come into play here also........
2006-06-15 21:53:22 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Trucker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As you suggested, pride and stubborness are probably the biggest culprits in the way of apologizing.
2006-06-15 21:50:45 · answer #6 · answered by smewth-e 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's easy to apologize, if the person actually internalized that the fault was his or her own responsibility. However, apologizing on duress would only reinforce the belief that the fault was everyone's responsibility but his or her own.
2006-06-15 21:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by chubby_claw 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people just aren't mentally healthy enough to admit they are wrong and apologize to someone for affecting them because of it.
2006-06-15 22:07:14 · answer #8 · answered by Seagoat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes people just hate admitting they are wrong and an apology is one way of admitting you were wrong...some people are just stubborn and i'm sorry is not in their vocabulary...i know a lot of people like that...especially guys...sorry guys...lol
2006-06-15 21:50:57 · answer #9 · answered by kissesandhugs36 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No body likes to be wrong. But it takes a real person to say, "I am sorry". But after you do it a few times, you will see that it makes you feel better.
2006-06-15 21:55:13 · answer #10 · answered by Milton H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋