do you think my 12 year old step daughter should have a myspace account?and to start having boyfriends?

Question

And also she,she says she wants to have a boyfriend at 12 years of age(?)she says the boys just want to look at her because she is pretty? please give me advice on what to do? I told her boys just want to have sex she says no I won't get pregnat. :)

Answer 1

I am not familiar with myspace so can't advise you too much on that....other than to say that she should never be on the computer unsupervised. There are just too many predators out there.

A boyfriend at 12? NO way! She is entirely too young. She will spend most of her life chasing or being with boys so why rush it. And the fact that she says she won't get pregnant shows she is even thinking sex. In this day and age where most girls sleep around, it is even more reason not to let her date so young. Just think of how many questions you've seen on here of girls saying they were pregnant and how can they tell their parents. The youngest one since I've been here was 10! And there were at quite a few more who were 12!

As a mother, I would never have allowed a 12 year old daughter to have a boyfriend. I didn't have any girls but I didnt' even allow my sons to have a girlfriend at that age. It is just too young.

Answer 2

You can not make a child at that age listen to you. But no she should not have a myspace account or a boyfriend at that age unless you like the idea of being a grandma early. If you give her to much freedom she will get pregnant, if you keep her locked up she will lie and sneak out, there is a fine line, but try talking to her as a friend and not a mother and she may tell you more things. But make sure she knows the reality of having a baby. they have those great dolls you can get that act like a real baby and cry all the time let her handle that for a few days with no help and she will see really fast that she does not want a baby.

Answer 3

Well at 12, I do think that might be a little young to have a myspace and a boyfriend. As for myspace though, as long as she doesn't talk to people she doesn't really know she should fine. As for a boyfriend, most 12 year olds have boyfriends but they're pretty much considered boyfriends and are really just friends. If she does get a boyfriend, you should just kinda keep an eye out is all.

Answer 4

1.) MySpace does not even allow children 13 and under on their site. No, they do not have any way to verify age yet, but they're working on it. I am 25 and a mother of two. I have a MySpace account to keep in touch with my family in other states, and friends and family here that I don't get to talkto very much. But others on the site are only there to start trouble, incite violence, and pormote sexual behavior. Some of theings I've seen on the site make even me sick. I won't even log in to MySpace when my children are around because you never know what's going to pop up onto your screen.

2.) No 12 year old should be dating. She is not old enough to decide what is right and wrong behavior yet. She wills mimick what she sees others do. That starts with kissing and being effectioante in public. And moves on to worse things, such as; sneaking off, having sex, lying to you, smoking, drinking, drugs, etc. You should let some slack in the leeash, but you never let her go totally. Isntead of letting her date and have a boyfriend at such a young age, let her go out to the mall for a couple of hours with a male/female mixed group of friends. When she's old enought o start driving, then she's old enough to date. That was the rule in my house. My parents set it that way so that if I was ever put into a situation I didn't feel comfortable in, then I could drive away any time I needed to.

*Please note also that if her only response is no, I won't get pregnant, then she's already got it in her head that she's going to have sex if you let her go out. Listen very careful to everything she says at this age. They'll try to be very sneaky, but you have to be smarter than her, and think of every possibility before she does.

Answer 5

Ok... tell her she can use msn and myspace, but limit her amount of time on it... Also, tell her you think 12 is too young to have a boyfriend, if she wants to date a guy, she can go out with him once a week and otherwise if she wants to hang out with him, she can have him over ONLY when you are home, if you trust his parents, allow her to go to his house but ONLY if the parents are home... Do not trust her when she says his parents are home, call and check, she doesn't have to know you're calling... And make it quite clear that if she is caught with him over when you aren't home she will be grounded and not allowed a boyfriend until she is 16...

You could also try talking to her about sex and if she's too immature to have a conversation about sex, birth control, alcohol, drugs, and other various things, then don't let her have a boyfriend... Also make sure she knows that she can talk to you about anything! And I'm pretty sure you'd much rather know if she is having sex than not know, so tell her that when she wants to have sex you would like her to tell you so that you can discuss birth control and promise her you wont get mad... AND KEEP THAT PROMISE!

FYI - I have a lot of friends who first had sex when they were 12... And most of my friends and I started drinking when we were 11... We started smoking pot when we were 13... And by the time we were 14 or 15 some of us were experimenting with hard drugs...

Answer 6

It wasn't too long ago that I was 12 yrs old and now I'm almost 20. My advice is to base the boyfriend thing on privlege. examples: Is she doing good in school? Is she responsible? etc. If you decide she is allowed to date, at her age I believe it would be a good idea to have a parent with them at all times. Another example, if she and her date want to go to the movies, go with them and sit behind them. Its not good to make her feel like she can't have a relationship with the guy, but she does not need privacy with any guy until she is married.
About the myspace account, in my opinion you should register the account for her and only you know the password. This way you can always check on her activities online. This way you're giving her freedom but not too much.

Answer 7

No she should not have a myspace until she is older, and yes boys want to have sex with a 12 year old because they won't even try to have a real relationship with a 12 year old in the first place. Keep her away from boys for now until she is more responsible and as far as myspace she should be a bit older to do that! You need to keep her safe as a parent! trust me she'll thank you years later!

Answer 8

Well,Im 11 years old,I have a myspace and my hair is pink....but im not ready for a boyfriend. Even though the age for myspace is 13,all my friends have it,and theres a way where you can block creepos from coming to her myspace,theres a lil box you can check that says "block anyone older then 13 years old from viewing my page" and also you can make her profile private to where only her friends can view it. You should let her have the myspace,but not the boyfriend. My best friend is turning 15 in September,and she is not allowed to have a boyfriend. So I hope I helped you!

Answer 9

First of all, she can't really be on myspace since she's not 14 yet. Myspace is just a waste of time anyway. It's stupid, but you can get easily addicted. That's what happened when I was on there and I HAD to go on like everyday. But I deleted mine after like 2 months. Myspace is baaaad.

I think 12 is a bit young to have a boyfriend.

Answer 10

myspace is fairly safe just do not allow her to post pics

12 is about the age when they start having "boyfriends" not really something to be concerned about sex isn't an issue for most till 14 or older but I would recommend having the talk with her now. too many kids on here ask questions about stds and pregnancy that are basic and should be common knowledge at 13 years old (different ways you can get pregnant, how to get contraceptives, where to go for std testing, the need to get pap smears every year from her first period on, etc)

good luck with the talk and try not to worry your daughter will make good decisions because you have given her sound information :)