My boyfriend has just told me that he loves me. I'm scared...not that I haven't loved anyone before or anything. It's just that I'm afraid of getting hurt, like all of the previous guys have hurt me. I'll admit that I am falling for him.. but I'm just afraid to say it, cuz I feel like I should protect myself. I don't know what to tell him. Any advice?
2006-06-15 12:55:45 · 9 answers · asked by football_crazy_62 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First, when you ask questions like this and you want some sincere advice or opinions, you need to be more specific. Like how long you've been together for instance. When you say boyfriend, you could have been together for a week or two when he said it, or it could have been years. That really helps when you're asking someone a question that you want help with.
Putting the lecture aside, this is my opinion when it comes to saying "I Love You" to someone. First, never say I love you to anyone unless you really mean it. People seem to let this word come out of their mouths as if they were saying, gee, what a nice day. Other guys have hurt you? Hmm, well, don't feel like you're the only one that's been hurt. We've all gone through this, but we move on. Obviously, he hasn't made you feel comfortable enough for you to not worry about being hurt, as you have in the past, or you have not opened up enough to accept his love for you. You say you're falling for him, but you keep the walls up. That's never a good thing in a relationship. If you feel you need to protect yourself, then you're not ready for a serious relationship. When the time is right, you will know and feel comfortable about saying it. Until then, don't say it, unless you mean it. It does no one any good to hear those words when the heart isn't behind hit. Good luck and may you some day, find a way to break the walls down and enjoy a happy and healthy, loving relationship with someone who makes you feel loved.
2006-06-15 13:09:20 · answer #1 · answered by jimmyweda 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you care for him and think you might be developing deeper feelings for him but are keeping your emotions in check as you don't want to be hurt again. Ask him to allow you time to develop your feelings at your own pace while understanding that you like him very much and are just being cautious. If he's a decent guy at all, he will understand your feelings about this and respect your wishes without being hurt himself because you aren't currently able to respond in the same manner.
2006-06-15 13:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself how you really feel about this guy. To me it seems like you're not ready for "love". Yeah you like him but I guess you need more time to figure out your feelings and feel confident. My suggestion would be to have a serious talk with him. Let him know exactly what you've posted in this question. Tell him that you need more time to think about your feelings. Don't push him away if you like him. Let him know you do like him but you're not ready to love just yet. Don't feel pressured to tell him you love him if you don't. That's the last thing you wanna do. If he really loves you like he claims, he'll understand your feelings.Good Luck!
2006-06-15 13:06:40 · answer #3 · answered by * TeXaS cHiCk * 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, getting hurt is part of life... it will happen again and again there is no way to protect yourself... unless of course you become a nun...
If you love him, tell him. He's opened up to you and is probably nervous now himself because you said nothing in return
2006-06-15 12:59:15 · answer #4 · answered by SiLLy-mE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think of what this guy means to you. Is he like every other boy? In the end, everyone has a broken heart, but we just have to pull it together and live with it.
2006-06-15 12:58:40 · answer #5 · answered by simpleplanfan<3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth. Seeing how he reacts might help you realize how you really feel about him.
Don't say it if you don't mean it. It just ends up hurting him more in the end.
2006-06-15 12:58:34 · answer #6 · answered by Tiffany 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell him U love him wait more until comes out naturally.
2006-06-15 12:59:22 · answer #7 · answered by PR 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look ma, luv can be a strange thing and wat u could do is tell him u luv him but u don't want to get hurt so tell him that and if he say's he's not going to hurt tell him u luv him!!!
2006-06-15 13:01:28 · answer #8 · answered by LaPachus B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well he likes you and it would hurt him if you said no
2006-06-15 12:58:48 · answer #9 · answered by your micky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋