My son is experiencing some gender versatility issues. At what age should I allow him to start...?

Question

expressing his orientation? He is only 7 but should he be free to make this choice yet?

Answer 1

I agree with Mimi and have nothing more to add except do you think those shoes are sneakers or a sling back pair of kitten heals in pink cause if they are the heals tell JR I'm going to need those back soon

Answer 2

At age 7 some children are still not totally "aware" that different genders exist. If your son is gay there is nothing you can do to stop that and it shouldn't change the way you feel towards your son.
Just let your son be who he is as long as he isn't hurting anyone because what is the point of having a child if you aren't going to give them the love and support they need.
And just because he is expressing some issues now doesn't mean he is going to be/is gay. He may just be figuring things out in his own way.

Answer 3

I say love him (her) as (s)he is. You can try to do things to force your way upon him/her but (s)he will only grow to hate you and end up doing it anyways. Maybe even working a street corner just to get by and end up on drugs or worse with AIDS. There are many places where you can find counseling for your child and with the help of counseling you may find out that it is just a faze or that there are some gender issues. Write to me privately if you would like to talk more. A very good friend of mine went through something very similar. I was there for her through every step even when her parents didn't understand. After awhile they did come to understand and they loved her with all of their heart. :)

Answer 4

Better start now if you dont want him to be gay. A lot of little boys go through something like that but thats when they need a parent to explain to them that, that is not right. He is only 7 so there no way that he can be gay yet, hurry the time to help him is now!!!

Answer 5

I would think that 7 is to young. Society is not ready for little boys to be dressing like little girls and vice versa. Stay open with him and let him know that its OK to feel what hes feeling. You need to talk to him about the way other people will treat him so he will not be shocked when as he grows older. I am very proud of you for standing by him. You will know what and when its right for him.

Answer 6

SHow him how to be a man...explain to him that men like women, and why men like women. He's only 7, though, for Heaven's sake!

Once he sees why men like women (and no, I'm NOT telling u to hire him a prostitute or something), well...once he sees that it's normal for men to like women, he'll see things in a different perspective.

Watever he chooses, though, whether now or later on down the road, always stick by him and be supportive. If he doesn't get the support and love he needs from u as his parent, he will get it from the easiest source...however he has to get it.

Answer 7

You can't change kids that much. He will be what he will be. Trying to change him may make him resent you later in life. If he can't feel supported either way by his family, he is likely to turn elsewhere. Wouldn't you rather he turn to you for support? Gay people cannot be changed, but they can hide it and feel like there is something wrong with them. Do you want your child to be themselves and happy or hide who they really are and resent the ones they love for making them hide it? But, I would be sure later that he understands the consequences because of the way society views gay people.

Answer 8

Sexual identity occurs in both sexes at about age 5. But tell me...in YOUR opinion.....what the hell are "gender versatility issues"?

Answer 9

You're in luck. Limited Co. has opened a new clothing store for young trans-gender boys. I heard it is called Limited Girlz.

Answer 10

Of course he should be free to explore the world, but play is play !Don't get carried away! Talk to his pediatrician before you freak out!