is it good or bad?

Question

I am only 13 and i drink. both my mom and dad know it and they don't stop me... my mom isn't proud of it but she stil lets me but my dad could care less.... dose this mean they don't care about me :( i am very confuseddon if this is bad or good but i don't want to stop drinking plzzzz help

Answer 1

You should stop. You dont want to be a teenage alcoholic. You should like yourself enough to do it for you, even if your parents aren't making you stop.

Answer 2

You know...I was about your age when I had my first glass of wine but it was my grandfather's homemade wine that I had helped him make and it was at a family dinner (probably Christmas or Thanksgiving). I was allowed to have one glass in front of my family and that was it. However, by the sounds of it, this is not nearly what your situation is. You're too young to understand what I'm about to say but there's a rather famous actress out there who was out drinking and partying when she was younger than you and had a lot of problems through her teenage years and early 20's.

I think your mom probably does care but just doesn't know how to deal with this. I'm not sure about your Dad. Either way, I agree with everyone else that's saying stop. There are help lines out there that you can call who can help you out and get you past this. If you continue to drink, not only will you componding the emotional problems here but you could have some serious health problems down the road.

When you are a little older you can try alcohol again but wait for now. You're still young and you know what, there are a great variety of juices out there that taste good and water is always a good thing to drink a lot of in a day (especially during the summer months). I hope this helps you and I hope you find the strength to be able to stop. Best of luck.

Answer 3

I think they are letting you do it so that you can feel like an adult and make your own decisions. This way you don't feel controled by them and when you make a mistake because of it then it's no ones fault but your own because only you made the choice to drink.

I would just stop, I mean you want to anyway right? Don't do it for attention. Just wait till you are 21 or at least 18, it could be dangerous. A 15 yr old girl in my area was raped by 3 people at a party while after she passed out b/c she was drunk... (this is really true - I'll email you the article if you want).

Just enjoy your childhood you will have plenty of time for drinking the rest of your life.

Answer 4

When I was 13, I used to drink too.. My parents would let me drink if they were having a party or whatever. They thought that if they "let" me do it, then I wouldn't have to hide it from them and be a lot more carefull with it in the furture..
It turned out they were right. When I actually started drinking with friends at 15, they knew, and knew I would be responsible with doing it and not get out of hand. It was like they got me prepared for my teenage years. I am 25 now, and I still drink, and I have ALWAYS been careful with it. Parents letting you do stuff doesn't mean they don't care about you. My parents trusted me, and me knowing that, I had no reason to rebel against them. I drank, I came home and told them about my night, and I'd go to bed. Communication is key!!!!

Answer 5

Alcohol is a chemical and therefore, a controlled substance (by age). Drinking before you are of legal age is a parental decision. A drink with a meal is something that should be allowed and taught by all parents to their children in the privacy of their home. If you drink to get high - you have a problem and your parents are not being very responsible to you and to society in general for not guiding you in a positive, re-enforcing manner. If you feel you have a drinking problem; you should seek help from a professional counselor through your school, church, or local governmental officials.

Answer 6

may be your mom and dad are just too busy, but drinking is bad especially at your age. Your body is going thru so many changes and alcohol is just in the way, you are preventing from normal things that should happen to your organism. Besides, alcohol is very addictive, and it will be too late once someone gets addicted. It becomes a very ugly thing. throw away that bottle and pick up something intersting, go hang out with friends, go to the movies, read a book, do something productive not desctructive. K? and if you get bored you can always get on yahoo and find someone to chat with. So dont worry about drinking, its nasty.

Answer 7

I think it depends on how much you are drinking and the situtation you are in.

I let my daughter have a glass of wine or what ever we are drinking when we are at home. I have always let her taste what ever we are having. I figure by allowing her to sample the different alcohol beverages I will have taken some of the mystery out of what alcohol is about. Thus far she has no desire to drink in a manner that would get her drunk.

If you are drinking and getting drunk while hainging out with your friends then I feel this is not healthy or safe for you.

That is my opinion. I hope that you get the answers that you are looking for.

Answer 8

My mom's mom was your age when she started drinking. Her family turned away and ignored the situation. She had 3 daughters by the age of 21, all by different men, that she did not know. The price she paid for a drink after she hit the streets. She gave all of the girls to the state and turned her back on them until they were old enough to have a little money of their own. Then she harassed them for money until they turned their back on her. Tired of paying for her habit, they chose not to recognize it. She died 3 years ago, found in her apartment electrocuted by a faulty outlet in her slummy apartment. She had been dead over a week when she was found, decomposed and lunch for things that are found in Stephen King novels. Moral to my story? Even though no one cared to stop it in the beginning... she knew it was wrong when she started. Last time I checked the legal age was not 13... for a reason. You know the answer, or you wouldn't be asking the question. I think you need to look out for yourself on this one, and stop your horror story before it begins. Everyones tragedies start somewhere.

Answer 9

You shouldn't be drinking. They should care a little more. If you had a glass of wine at dinner with them or something that's different or if you were sipping or trying drinks that's okay. It sounds like they are doing one of two things. Trying not to tell you no because they think it might push you to do it more. They're giving you a little get out of jail free card until they see you're doing bad. Or, they just don't care and you need to get better friends that actually care and don't want to drink yet.

Answer 10

wayyyyyyyyy too young sugar! there are so many other things you could be doing with your time. I thought i was cool when i drank when i was 13, but i got myself into lots of trouble, mostly with older boys cause i thought that they would think i was cool if i drank. Nope, they didn;t like me anymore, in fact they liked me less. I learned a really good lesson the summer i was 14. This friend of mine told me, 'respect yourself and others will follow in your lead!" and it's true and it works. You are beautiful just the way you are! People should like you just the way you are for who you are! and if they don't, **** them! They're the ones who will miss out on being your friend! they lose, not you. Please find something else to do with your time. you could be an actress or artist or athlete, you won't know unless you try. OK I'll stop with my big sister rant now! just remember you are amazing the way you are!

Answer 11

Drinking alcohol at a young age like that is VERY bad. Its bad for your physical and mental health. People who start drinking around 11-13 usually form many life long addictions that arent always related to alcohol it self.depression

anxiety

oppositional defiant disorder (ODD)

antisocial personality disorder

thoughts of suicide

There are all common for people who start drinking regularly at a young age, you can call for information at
1-800-662-HELP (4357),

All of the affects of underage drinking are long term, so I would encourage you to do whatever you can to stop. If you drink with a certain group of friends, dont hang out with them. If your parents give you alcohol dont accept it.