and I am realizing lately, more than ever; how much I still care for him. The thing is, he may be married or in a relationship. I have no way of knowing short of asking. I have thought about him for the past several months and run into him every once in a while in public; we say hi and make small talk. There is a chance that (with communication) we could make it this time, but there is also the same chance that we may not. Should I risk calling his house or writing him and letter and having his wife or girlfriend answer the phone or just let it be? We are both in our forties and have had other relationships in the past few years; not that this may or may not matter. I would appreciate any input.
2006-06-15 12:25:03 · 10 answers · asked by amber 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Give it up.
2006-06-15 12:29:19 · answer #1 · answered by Ace Librarian 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is no reason why you shouldn't call him or writing him. You don't have to instantly say you still crave him in every way, but just let him know you were wondering how things have been going for him, etc. I have old boyfriends that I still talk to or have recently started talking to again. It's like recommunicating with an old friend. Obviously you have things you can still talk about. Just give him a call or write him a letter saying you were just wondering how life has been treating him. He may tell you that he's now happily married, has met a truly amazing woman that he's currently dating, or he might say he's still looking for the woman of his dreams. Then you can go from there. He might even say he's been thinking of you this whole time.
2006-06-15 19:34:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My major question for you on this, is why haven't you asked him if he is in a relationship when you have talked to him? I think once you have established this important information you will know if and when to proceed with trying to get something going again. And my advise as for the risk- I believe that love comes too few and rare and every possibility should be taken. You will never know if this person will bring you happiness without at least giving it a try.
2006-06-15 19:35:11 · answer #3 · answered by airallgone 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you say you are going to communicate this time when you can't even ask him a simple question? "short of asking"...well, what is the matter with that? Feel like you lose face or something? Why are people afraid to say they actually care about something? Let's all pretend we don't care and be blaise and be alone.
2006-06-15 19:33:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a chance you might be hit by a bus. You can only control what you can control. If he has a relationship, that is out of your control. if not then you have the control to make the difference.
The chance of something now working out is in existance regardless of the percentages.
2006-06-15 19:30:20 · answer #5 · answered by Dport 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is full of risk if it didn't work out the first time you need to think about why.And determine if you want to make the same mistake twice if so go for if not move with life and take the next risk.GOOD LUCK
2006-06-15 19:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever watched that movie Serendipity!
If it's meant to be I'll come back around!
If you're serious you must do everything possible until you get the answer If he's interested too, or not!
If not - then take that answer and move on!
Life is long, but very short!
2006-06-15 19:32:38 · answer #7 · answered by STARLITE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gosh. I don't know what to say.
I think, however, you should step out. Call him and somehow discretely wedge into the conversation to ask if he is in a relationship or married.
Then, either way, you can have this off your mind.
2006-06-15 19:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by koala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should give it another shot. What is there to lose? If you don t try you might regret it forever. Follow your heart. Good luck.x
2006-06-15 19:31:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make contact with him and eventually you'll find out, and if he doesn't have a relationship with anyone, go for it!!!
2006-06-15 19:32:10 · answer #10 · answered by vivian 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋