Should i break up with my Girlfriend?

Question

We are both 18.
She loves me and i think i love her although it may be that im just so use to her and have been with her for over 2 yrs. But we fight alot, moslty cuz she has a huge attitude. i try to stay calm but she keeps naggin till i break. We have cheated both cheated on each other but forgave eachother a bit. She is extremely jelouse also wich is and has really affected me with friends an family. When i think about it, i think we should break up but wen push come to shove i really miss her, and her crying and callin 24-7 doesnt help either(n she is STUBBERN). I dont knou i jus really need some advice cuz i jus found out today that she has been lieng to me alot so i believe this is the chane for me to break up with her.

thnx ppl

Answer 1

If you've been dating for 2 years, it's easy to get into a routine. It's time to stop and really think about your relationship and whether it is holding you back or acting as a positive in your life.

It sounds like you guys have been through some rough spots, but before you break up with her, I think you need to ask yourself whether you think the good outweighs the bad.

Ask yourself...
1. What are the good and bad things about your relationship? Make a list.
2. For each of the bad things, what are you currently doing to resolve the issue? Is there something you could try? Do you think that she would work together with you to resolve it? If you do not think there is a solution for the issue, are you ok with that being a permanent part of your life?
3. Are both of you guys heading in the same life direction? Do you have the same goals? Is she "The One" ?

I think once you think through these things, you will be in a better place to decide what the next step is. Relationships take up a lot of energy and time that you could be devoting to other, more positive things - friends, family, etc. etc. Make sure that this girl is a positive in your life.

If you think that it's just not possible to fix the rough spots, you should tell her that you guys have grown apart and that you need to go your own way. It's going to be tough, but you will be a happier, stronger person in the end. You should be with someone who respects you and loves you. Don't settle for less.

Answer 2

Yeah, break up with her. My old best friend was in the exact same type of relationship as you. He cheated on her, she cheated on him. She made a huge deal out of completely stupid things like going to a party with another girl or even IM'ing another girl. They tried to make their relationship "legit" by buying a puppy together, but, since they fight so much, no one can take care of the dog. In the end, no one benefited from their relationship. Though the guy was once my best friend, he turned into a real a hole. They spent so much time together that his grades and his outside ambitions turned into nothing. He used to be an amazing soccer player, but, since he started dating this girl, he gave it up and started saying that soccer was stupid and pointless.
In my opinion, any person, girlfriend, boyfriend, or otherwise, who makes you give up your dreams, friends, activities, and desires doesn't deserve to be called your "friend" and much less, your girlfriend.

Answer 3

well it sounds like to me that i think that y'all should break up........i know its not as easy as it sounds but really i think that you should.......you are only 18 and you will be able to do the things that you want to w/o being held back.......and you wont be so worried all the time about what shes doing........it WILL be hard first couple days........just make sure that u have something to do something to keep you occupied and to TRY and help keep her off of you mind......y'all have both cheated on each other so you guys are obviously just together because of habit......you will feel a lot better when you guys are apart.........go to college have fun........go into the military(they will pay for your college plus will be able to experince things that wont get to otherwise) just live life .......plus being w/ someone who has jealousy issues is hell and it only get worse....................i hope that you take my advise and good luck in the future~

Answer 4

I think that you were right when you said that you were use to her. I am sure that you and her shared alot and she is almost like she is part of you but you will have to seperate your feelings and realize that the loyalty and trust the two of you once shared is now gone. Its better to go ahead and break it off and stand your ground this time. In time the two of you can be friends but not right off.

Answer 5

You're both a little crazy. Whatever you do, please don't have any children.

Jeez! I am sick of these teenage "does he like me" "what do I do" questions.

It is a TEMPORARY little relationship and will be meaningless when you look back on it later in life (stupid even). Get over yourself and your insecurities. All you little teenagers are afraid of each other and care WAY TOO MUCH about WHAT OTHER PEOPLE think about you. When you are a real grown-up, you care less and have REAL relationships.

Thank you

Answer 6

Lay down the law, say your tired of playing games, and that your through with the bull sh*t. End it now before she breaks up with you leaving you all upset wondering what you did.

Answer 7

well unfortunately we cant help who we love. picture how ur life would be without her lets say a week, do u think u would be happier? also are u staying in the relationship for her or to be with her.

Answer 8

i am going through the same thing right now. i just broke with my girl (which was the right thing to do) but ever since i have had regrets & second thoughts. but i know i am doing the right thing and thats what i tell myself when things get stressfull.

Answer 9

WHY YES YOU SHOULD BREAK UP , WITH HER, AND GO IN THE ARMY AND BE COME A REAL, MAN YOU KNOW BE ALL YOU CAN BE ,,,,,MEAN WHILE A REAL MAN WILL BE DICKIN HER DOWN LIKE THE WAY SHE LIKE IT,AND SHE WILL BE VERY PLEASED TRUST ME. THANKYOU.psIF YOU WERE DOING IT RIGHT SHE WOULD HAD NEVER CHEATED AND YOU WOULD HAD NOT DON,IT .!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 10

OK U DONT LOVE HER IF YOU FEEL THIS WAY SO U SHOULD JUS GROW UP AN MOVE ON