I really like this guy and we talk all the time, we sat next to each other in 5 out of 8 classes. But he says he only likes me as a friend and he has a girlfriend BUT he also tells me im pretty and he still does want to be like more then friends. He has a girl friend. I really like him and I don't like to see him hurt by his girlfriend, but he jsut won't listen to me! What do I do? Do I sit him down and talk to him, or let him come to his senses on his own? I always tell my friends "If you like a guy, tell him and if he doesn't like you don't let it get you down" and they always say practice what you preach. But I guess it's harder for me to do what they do. Do guys like a girl that can say how she feels? Or do they like a girl that holds her tongue? PLEASE HELP ME!!! im me at::
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2006-06-15 12:06:45 · 26 answers · asked by Shauna. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dunno. Usually I tell chicks things like I have a girlfriend so they get more attracted to me.
The only reason you like the guy is because he's acting unattainable.
Don't be dumb. You're falling for the oldest trick in the book. If he has a girlfriend the BEST way to get him interested in you is to NOT Be interested in him. If he doesn't havea girlfriend - the same. Don't give the dork the satisfaction of blowing you off - you're just filling his ego.
As a matter of fact. Go find other guys to date and tell him about everything. Ask him questions about what you should do and tell him about all the details. Make sure to aks him things like, Why do guys do this and why do they do that? If you are having sex, tell him about it. If he's like, "I don't want to know!" Thats exactly what you want.
The key is you genuinely have to enjoy yourself with the other guy/guys. Oh and soon enough you probably wont even want that dude anymore.
Say, It's so good that you and your girlfriend get along so well. (If you know her) you guys are perfect together. Are you gonna get married soon?
Don't chase after him. Make him chase you and if he doesn't there are other guys who will. Don't fall for his BS hard to get. He's USING you for an ego boost. Trust me if his Girlfriend he would want to bang you right away. At this point he's stringing you along and holding out just incase. Oh plus the ego boost thing.
2006-06-15 12:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by Geese Howard 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I noticed that your address was the USS Independence? Are you on board now? Do you see him while away and he is in love (has a girlfriend) somewhere "else". Being that you are not permanently settled as yet it seems as if you might be looking through starry eyes. Your friends might be right to say practice what you preach! You can't think that while you are in the Military he is serious about you if he has actually told you that he has a love somewhere else. YOU may be stepping over the fence line here. Would you like to trust YOUR boyfriend that went off to sea around someone like you whom is willing to come between what he says. Besides, you're there, she's there, OF COURSE he would like something "more", for now. Its called sex. So sorry to burst your bubble but loving someone whom has obviously told you that you should be only "friends" and that he HAS A GIRLFRIEND should let you know he isn't ready for anything right now. Do your job out there and leave him be. If you confront him what are you confronting him with. His loyalty to his girlfriend?
2006-06-15 19:18:24 · answer #2 · answered by Fays Daze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can I be honest? You're may be the one who's going to end up getting hurt. There is a chance that he's just trying to get a little extra on the side if he has a girlfriend. As for whether a guy likes a girl who will say how she feels... it varies from guy to guy. I can honestly say I usually do like a girl who will be honest in how she feels not only about me but also about many other things. But the guy you're after might not. That said, just let things be fore now. If he breaks up with his girlfriend, by all means go ahead and pursue the relationship. Don't let him use you to cheat on her.
2006-06-15 19:15:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like to me that he just wants to get a little action on the side from you. He already said that he only likes you as a friend and you're not going to change his mind about it. If you get involved with this guy you're just heading for heartache and disaster. Find yourself a girlfriendless boy who _wants_ to date you and invest your time and energy into that.
I highly recommend, before you do ANYTHING that you find this book and read it. It's written by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo and gives good, solid advice... and since it's written in part by a man, he gives women a peek at how men think. The name of the book is "He's Just Not That Into You: The No Excuses Guide To Understanding Guys."
Here's a link to the book:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/068987474X/103-2146131-9835845?v=glance&n=283155
2006-06-15 19:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by My name is not Rick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't listen to embittered advice from "grown-ups" who think they're too good for teenage angst. I was frantic over guys like this in highschool, and I would have been a lot better off just leaving them alone. For the most part, they're all little boys. They're not interested in the same type of relationship you are. So I guess I'd recommend that you just ask him to stop leading you on if he's not willing to leave his girlfriend to pursue a relationship. Otherwise, you'll just pine over this kid for who knows how long.
2006-06-15 19:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by Flutter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you should tell him how you feel. guys like girls who are confident i wouldnt have a boyfriend right now if i sat back and wated for him we have been going out for 4 months and it is great step up like your friends say practice what you preach it seems easier than it actually is but step up to the plate if you get knocked down get back up if i gave up when i got knocked off of a horse i wouldnt be able to acomplish the things i can now with horses there are plenty of guys in the sea.
2006-06-15 19:17:15 · answer #6 · answered by BarrelRacer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First because he has a girlfriend...lay off. How would you feel if a girl weas coming onto your man? Just lay back and when a single, good, hot gut comes along, do what you tell others in your situation...aka practice what you preach! MayMay
2006-06-15 19:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by MayMay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To drsteve362005, screw you. You are just a 40 year old who has a woman with no urge for anything fun, from what I can tell. Lay off of us, we don't need you screwing everything up. I doubt you had a girlfriend. The thing is, we need people in our lives to stay golden. because you haven't had one, you rusted over.
Anyways, I think you should make it clear you like him, but only to him, not his girlfriend. He will let her go soon enough, and go with you. Trust me.
I hope....
2006-06-15 19:14:33 · answer #8 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holding off may have it's cons along with doing something right now. Holding off will make you less likely to like him once he breaks up with his current girlfriend but if you say something now rumors will spread and will eventually get to his girlfriend. This can start fights, more rumors/false gossip and bad situatuions for you so I'd say holding off is your best option right now.
2006-06-15 19:14:43 · answer #9 · answered by I want my *old* MTV 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You said at least 3 times that he has a girlfriend (and it is NOT you) and he only wants to be friends. Honestly, I got bored after the first couple sentences. He is not interested in you as a girlfriend, get it through your head, leave him alone, and get a fickin life.
Oh.. and its really stupid to post your email address in here.
2006-06-15 19:11:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋