Parents, how do you deal with your toddlers, ones that are very determined and stubborn?! I have twins, age 2!

Answer 1

first... GOD BLESS YOU... you have your hands full...

Secondly... be consistant. No means no. Once they know they can WEAR you DOWN... or get away with something... it's over.

Answer 2

Well I have my own little stubborn 2-year old, I can't imagine dealing with 2 stubborn toddlers - but I'm sure it's a lot of fun as well as challenging! One thing I learned is to pick your battles. You can't always say No because then they won't listen anymore when they hear it too many times. But if you pick the battle that you want to win, you will win - for example, climbing on tables is a no-no, it has to stay that way no matter how much they'll whine, cry, yell, or scream, you'll have to stand your ground because it is a safety issue. But if it is something as trivial as dumping their toys in the front room, then you don't have to be too uptight with that because it's not a big deal, and you can always clean up the mess later when they're down for their nap. My doctor gave me this great advise and it has help a lot with my very determined daughter.

Another thing that I do is to provide distraction - whenever I see a tantrum trying to get out of my little girl, I quickly divert her attention to something else - Hey look there's a bird on the window! - and pretty soon she's forgotten about what it was that was making her upset in the first place.

Best of luck to you - it is hard especially with twins, but hey, you get double the hugs and kisses from your little ones, so enjoy it while you can!

Answer 3

It can all be frustrating when children will not co-operate with you in getting dressed, having a bath, letting you wash their hair or putting their shoes on. The chances are the child sees the activity as not very interesting. The task for the adult is to help the child to learn that there is a reason for doing things. Try explaining that once you have completed the activity, you can both go out and do something the child enjoys. Again, instant rewards (stickers, ticks in a 'good behaviour' chart) can all help encourage positive behaviour.

Answer 4

I also have twins...they are now 10. But I do remember how hard and trying it was when they were 2. Most forms of discipline work if you stay consistent. It's wishy washy parenting that never works. Twins are not easy, but remember that you are still the boss. And make sure you get some time for yourself. Being a mother of twins can rob you of valuable adult time...and to combat the stress, you really need some time for you. hope I helped...and good luck!! It does get better. Really.

Answer 5

One lesson I learned, and it really surprised me how well it actually ended up working. When ever they are behaving badly,
you need to be able to TOTALLY IGNORE THEM. I know, it sounds like a book on how to be a bad parent, but, believe me, it works. In most cases, they are wanting attention, when they don't get ANY with bad behavior, they start to learn that bad behavior has NO rewards. For a child, bad attention is better than no attention. On the flip side, when they are behaving well, give them all the attention you possibly can. This teaches them that good behavior gets rewarded, bad behavior gets them
NOTHING. Try it out, I think you will be surprised.

Answer 6

My toddler is two years old and when he acts up at home I ignore him and this is something very hard for me to do but that's what the doctor said to do and it's been working and when we are out in public I just pack up and leave and it's really working on my favor.

Answer 7

As a grandmother of 3 yr old twin girls[who I am raising} I say be consistent Give them lots of love & don't take your eyes off them for one second, because they WILL cut your hair while you're asleep.

Answer 8

.Patience lots and lots of patience I have a 3 and 4 year old they are 15 mos apart so its like having twins they fight over every thing and they are both so stubborn my daughter is the worst.Just breath and have patience with them.

Answer 9

My daughter was so stubborn and still is at 4 years and it drives me nuts. Sometimes I just sit down and have a talk with her, but when that don't work I have to spank her butt. good luck

Answer 10

I've been there! Mine were always way worse when they were together, like they were teaming up against me. The best way to deal with it is to separate them, if possible. Otherwise, just stand your ground, no matter what. Good luck.

Answer 11

Be consist!! that's the key.. Don't ever let them get away with anything!! if you don't stay on top it it and let them know that they are the children and you are the parent, you'll never get charge back!! my son gets a swat on the butt or on the hand and gets told NO!! but hes only 17 months olds. good luck!!!!!!!!!