I've reached that magic age (30) when all of my friends and I are established and educated enough etc. to have kids -- well, my friends are at least married and *accidentally* getting pregnant now....
Anyway - my husband and I are big into volunteerism and wanting to help people etc. AND I am pretty scared of the whole preg-labor-birthing process --
I personally think it's a little selfish to want to just have your own babies when there are thousands of kids all over the world who need good and loving homes. My husband and I would be able to teach kids a lot, make them feel really loved, provide lots of opportunities, and just help them become good, upstanding, smart people etc.
Any thoughts?
2006-06-15 11:01:45 · 14 answers · asked by Mishy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
you sound like great people and you sound like you know what you want- so do it! don't be afraid and don't let what other people think sway you from making a very caring decision...
2006-06-15 11:22:05 · answer #1 · answered by sue 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From someone who is amazed at the love and blessings adoption has brought into my life, I would say GO FOR IT!
I adopted my daughter from India when she was 9 months old. She's now 27 months old, and even though we're going through the 'terrible two's,' life is more wonderful with this child than it ever was before she came along.
So much so, that I even daydream about adopting baby (or toddler) #2 someday.
Not only can you teach your kids, love them a lot, provide lots of opportunities for their growth, help them grow into better people .... but they do all those same things for YOU! :)
2006-06-19 15:35:36 · answer #2 · answered by ABBMAMA 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, God bless you.
Second, my wife and I made a decision when we got engaged not to expand our family through any way but adoption. We've adopted one little girl from China and now we're in the paperchase for daughter number two.
Adoption is an interesting process. While it may have good-heartedness at its inception, the whole thing now is a lot of various people and agencies with their hands waving around for a lot of money to not do that much.
Having said that, if you and your husband are ready for the ultimate testing of your goodness, then start looking around at adoption options. Domestic versus international adoption. Adoption versus foster parenting. There's a lot to consider. Don't rush. There are several options for each direction you go.
Find someone you know who has adopted and ask them as many questions as you can. There's no such thing as a stupid question.
2006-06-16 15:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by sir_galahad_ks 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to FORCE you to do anything, but adopting can and does make a world of difference for people everywhere. I was adopted, (maybe my opinion is a little swayed then, eh?) but I know I'm living a better life than I ever could've in my other situation. Think it over, and consiter it. (and I'd be afraid to give birth too! haha you're not alone.)
2006-06-15 18:04:29 · answer #4 · answered by answers, answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think adoption is great, I would definitely consider it if it weren't so expensive and hard to go through. There are no guarantees and an adoption can fall through at any moment - that's a lot of emotional distress/worrying to go through. If you can deal with that and afford the costs associated with adoption then go for it.
I think everyone wants a baby of their own just to carry on a little piece of themselves and there is nothing wrong with that. There is nothing to say you can't adopt and have kids of your own too.
2006-06-15 18:05:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My parents had four of us "their own children" and are in the process of adopting two more. If you and your husband are fine with just adopting and not having your own children then I say more power to you. Otherwise mix it up.and just to let you know my family had to deal with a lot with the foster kids it's really hard at first but it's worth it whatever your decision is!
2006-06-15 18:09:18 · answer #6 · answered by MelC 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...i think if you want to adopt a lil boy or girl or what ever that is a good thing you are giveing a child a home and a loveing parent that is the most important thing a person can do for a child....if you do adopt then congrats
2006-06-15 18:05:10 · answer #7 · answered by hotchick_85_18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that it is selfish to want your own children. I think that it is perfectly natural to want your own children. Both of my children were unplanned, but I see them as blessings from God, not like a sweater I bought just because I could to rub in the face of my friend who needs a sweater.
That being said, I hope that you adopt many children and if you have any of your own someday, you will see what I mean.
God Bless.
2006-06-15 18:07:21 · answer #8 · answered by The Nag 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think the world needs more people like you. yoy are right that there are many many kids in the world that need a good home and need some one to teach them right from wrong.
2006-06-15 19:53:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is just my opinion, but i would let the people who aren't physically capable adopt children. you and your husband might be great people, but you should at least have one child of your own before you try the adoption thing, unless you are planning on testing your parenting skills on someone else's child.
2006-06-15 18:07:43 · answer #10 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i tihjnk adoption is a very responsible choice because your taking care of some oen who doesnt belong to you giving them the care they need to grow up in an healthy environment.
2006-06-15 18:05:55 · answer #11 · answered by oo0_krissy_0oo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋