you have to understand my background.... to shorten it my mom was the principle of my high school so i've been goody goody from day one.... still a virgin, dont drink that often, but i did get kinda wild freshman year(whoops) I'm not brilliant i got a couple of D's in school which i'm having to take out loans for. I have a job i rarely ask for money... but my mom does pay my car payments and for my braces that i got kinda late in life and my cell phone bill... which she will probably pay until i get out of nursing school... but she doesn't really understand how to deal with the side of me that wants to go places, spend the night with boys, and live as a decent person.... i do family stuff i watch kids i appreciate all she does for me and i show it but i still feel like i have to ask her permission all the time and hide things from her... and thats only half of it but my main question is how do i deal with being me and satisfying my mother
2006-06-15 10:39:19 · 12 answers · asked by one_deed21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
girl, I'm almost 60 and can tell you that to mothers their kids will always need them, want to tell them how to live, who to date, etc. As you are still so dependent on her, you just have to bite the bullet, take the strain (a nautical expression), keep your mouth shut except for thank yous and try to work out what leeway you and she can agree on. Nursing is an admirable profession, I'm sure your mother is very proud of you but may not be able to let you know it. Are you going to do better in life than she did? She may have some difficult feelings about that, even though it was a different world when she was growing up, not the advantages you have access to. Hang in there, it's worth it, you'll be able to write your own ticket one day.
2006-06-15 10:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by nortonsuzanne 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Your mom already knows what you are going thorough because she has already been there. That is why she is helping you out. It is time to think about you and remember - no matter what you do, say, hide, or feel can be hidden from others but never from yourself. And if you are not true to yourself, some things will just start eating you up and as you get older you will be unhappy with choices made in the past. So, think twice about your character,values, and morals.
Sounds like you have them all in order right now. Always try to think through the consequence to each action you take. Good luck.
2006-06-15 10:53:35 · answer #2 · answered by carat744 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 04:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest with her. You can't live as a little girl forever, your mom needs to know the real you or she will end up not knowing you at all - because you will hide your life from her. Talk to her and tell her how you feel, she may not like it - but she will appreciate the honesty.
As for the boys issue - she just doesn't want you to make a mistake and regret it. Having sex with random people is highly over rated - there is nothing wrong with waiting till marriage to have sex. But you should feel free to do as you choose - and you shouldn't have to hide from your mom.
2006-06-15 10:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you live under her roof you must follow her rules. If she pays your bills, you must respect her guidance. If you want to make your own decisions and live your own life (as you should at 20) you need to get a job, even if you are in school, and at least pay your own bills.
2006-06-15 10:47:15 · answer #5 · answered by Special K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say just separate slowly, not at once, u dont want to hurt her feelings, but every once and a while tell her how u want 1 thing to be or a little thing that needs fixing. show her how much uve grown and what ur capable of as an adult
2006-06-15 10:45:43 · answer #6 · answered by Stephanie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down, and tell her....im 20, i need more freedom, and stress all the thnk yous and the love in the family
2006-06-15 10:45:39 · answer #7 · answered by Kjo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nobody tells their parents everything. You're an adult now, you no longer live at home, what you do is your business and your mother should love you no matter what.
2006-06-15 10:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by thekilierdonut 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how to solve your problem, but I am impressed that you're still a virgin.
2006-06-15 10:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by eddygordo19 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your mom what she thinks about you getting an apartment, when you get one me call me.
2006-06-15 10:50:06 · answer #10 · answered by tazzz6413 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋