I know homosexuality is wrong but I struggle with these lusts.When I accepted jesus Christ as my savior...?

Question

I told GOD (Jesus Christ) that I needed forgiveness for my sins (all kinds of sins) and to please save me.please......However,I cant say that I always refrained form acting out on these urges.I just want to know that I'm saved...for sure.I know it's wrong.I can try very hard to stay away from such desires.I feel bad that I am afflicted with such desires.Most people don't have these feelings .Help????

Answer 1

I've said it before, I'll say it again. Always trust the truth of something before you trust anyone else's explanation of it.

Unfortunately, you're discovering a truth most Christians are never afforded the opportunity to explore. Whether or not your sexual orientation is a choice... and it doesn't seem to be in your case, does it?

You're trying to fight who and what you are as hard as you can, and as much as you try, it's just not working, is it?

You know why? Because the person you're trying to be is not who you are.

If you're gay, you're gay. You can go all your life saying you're not. You can fight it, and wrestle with it, and feel bad about it, and hate yourself for it, but in the end you are who you are and that's all there is to it.

Christianity really can't help you with this one because you're locked in a losing battle. The truth of yourself is exerting itself much more than the Bible's explanation of who it thinks you should be, because while anyone could've written the Bible to say anything they want about you, only God could have created you to be the person you were meant to be.

So, the end of it is that you can fight, and fight, and fight... but it will lead you to nothing but a life of sorrow.

Begin by trusting no one who wants to hurt or condemn you for being a person in need, and try to come to peace with who you are rather than simply denying it.

Answer 2

Salvation is a process, you need to Hear Believe Repent Be Baptized When you are baptized, you receive the forgiveness of your sins and the gift of the Holy Spirit. You don't necessarily feel it, but you can trust that you have! That's only the beginning of your relationship with Jesus - attend a Bible Study or youth group, spend time reading the Bible every day. Highlight verses that stand out to you. Pray - talk to God about what's going on in your life. These things will bring you closer to Him. It's not really true that most Christians are hypocrites. Most Christians don't claim to be perfect - that's why they are so thankful they have a Savior. Christians are followers of Christ - anyone who has been obedient in baptism and tries to become more Christ-like. It's not good to criticize other people, but it's okay to critically evaluate different religions. The Methodist church embraces some beliefs that are not Biblical. You have a lot of good questions - the source for Truth is the Bible!

Answer 3

You cannot know that you are saved. This is one of the many heresies of Protestant religions. You are right that acting out on homosexual urges is wrong, mortally wrong and will separate your soul from God eternally unless you confess your sins and repent. God loves you very much to give you such a heavy cross, but it is up to you to bear it. Fasting and prayer will help a great deal with such carnal lusts. I would seek advice from a traditional Catholic priest on how to restrain yourself. I have many friends who are forced into a life of celibacy against their will, it can be done and with amazing results! Some people with homosexual urges also can turn these into heterosexual feelings, marry, and lead a grace filled life. May God bless you!

Answer 4

You are saved. If you weren't you wouldn't care about committing sins. When you do sin, ask God to forgive you and then stop condemning yourself for what you did.
The desire itself is not a sin, don't feel bad about this! It's only the deed that follows that is sin.
I think the closer you get to God, the weaker the desire to sin will get (that goes for any kind of sin) and the stronger you will become. It is not easy to resist temptation but with God's strength within you, it is possible!
So my advice to you, spend as ,much time as possible with God every day!
Read your Bible and pray. I try to read the Bible first thing in the morning, because I know that later on, there may not be time for this. It also gives me an opportunity to pray for the day that lies ahead of me.
God will probably not change your desires over night but I believe that you can overcome this!
God bless you.

Answer 5

Okay, First, who told you homosexuality is wrong or has anything to do with religion? Probably someone who doesn't understand or can explain or is socially terrified of difference in another human. So, just suppose it isn't "wrong" anymore than being left handed or bald. As far as accepting Jesus as your Savior, go for it, if that is what you truly believe, but then don't expect him to change you to suit what society thinks you should be. He loves you no matter what and gave you a mind to think for yourself. If you are breaking the law, get psychological help. If you are not, then live your life the way you want to with consenting adults. It's YOUR life, and not anyone else's business. Maybe they're the ones who need to be asking for forgiveness for their narrow minded bigotry. Consider that the Bible was written by man, not God....

Answer 6

I think you need some therapy dude, from a good nice gay-affirming therapist. You can't pray away the gay, it doesn't work like that. You can find plenty of churches and groups that will accept you and 'save' you as a gay person. I would just hate to see you live a life of denial or worse yet, try one of those creepy "jesus can make you straight!" camps because those overwhelmingly don't work, and actually tend to make people more depressed and suicidal. I think you need to spend more time worrying about yourself and your life, and less time worrying what Jesus thinks of you. I seem to remember a part in the Bible where Jesus said that there were only two comandments, love thy neighbor and love god. Don't be a big homo was not one of them. This life is the only one you get, don't waste it being miserable. Get some therapy. Come out. Get a boyfriend. Find a nice gay accepting church. And live your life dude.

Answer 7

Pray continuously to the lord and ask Him to strengthen you so that you may be able to defeat these lusts and other sins of the flesh.

God knows what is truly in your heart, sometimes He allows certain temptations in peoples lives so that you realize you can't do it alone you need God's help.

Did you know that you are saved and sealed as a child of God forever, once you've accepted Jesus Christ as your personal Savior?


Nothing you do, no matter how wrong you think it was, will ever be able to separate you from Christ's love. You are right to want to repent for your sins. All of us fall short of God's plan for our lives and you are not alone.

Answer 8

You have been brainwashed by the religious right wing. Homosexuality is a genetic trait, there is nothing you can do. I get so sick of hearing people go on about how sinful gays are. Give me a break, these people are so homophobic. If your church won't accept who you are, then leave that church. If you choose to retain your religion (my point of view it's a waste of time - but your free to make that decision), go to a different church, or search out spirituality wherever you wish. The world is a big place. Don't knock yourself because some religious bigot said being gay is a sin. PS: go get yourself a lover, use protection, and have fun! Of course, you must be of age first. If not of age, go get yourself a bf/gf, and HAVE FUN!!

Answer 9

I'm glad that my comments were an encouragement to you. I will repost them here for those who might also need this perspective:

Homosexuals aren't the abomination. It's the act of homosexuality. I know Christian people who are attracted to the same sex but do not practice these acts because they are against God's will. Christianity is all about forsaking personal lusts for the service of God and others. Homosexuality just happens to be one of those lusts.

For more on the Bible view on homosexual acts here are a few verses to reference:

1 Corinthians 6: 9-10
Romans 1:24-27
Leviticus 18:22-23

Pertaining to your question here, keep your prayerful and humble attitude. Remember our Lord knows you and knows the innermost struggles of each of us. Just because you struggle with one sin and I another doesn't make me better or you worse or anything, we are all just children trying to grow spiritually and do our best.

Don't let your guilt keep you from fulfilling the will of our Lord who forgives and don't be discouraged by those who cannot empathize with your struggle. You are blessed that you can sympathize with and minister to a great number of people who feel alienated and to enlighten many Christians who are ignorant about this kind of struggle.

Answer 10

Lev 18:22; Yes, homosexuality is wrong. Ps 51:17; God wants a contrite heart. It is not that God saves us against our will, but that if after we ask for forgiveness we must then prove to Him that we a worthy to be saved by stopping whatever it is that we are doing wrong. The woman caught in adultery, and Jesus said to her 'Go and SIN no more". That is what I mean, But, we do happen to sin again then 'we have an advocate with the Father' (1John 2:1). Remember that Satan wants us to continue sinning so that he can shame our savior Jesus with it. So if you really love Him and really appreciate what He did for you, Then Study your KJV, and Do As YOU ARE INSTRUCTED! REBUKE THE DEVIL, AND FOLLOW JESUS. It is as simple, and as hard as that.

Answer 11

You probably will continue to struggle with them. Jesus never promised to deliver us from our sins. Our sinful nature will be taken away with the ressurection of the body but it won't necessarily happen while we are still alive.

The good news is that temptation is not sin. It is sin only if you act on it. If you are truly repentant of your sin and confess your sin, then you will be saved. Maybe Jesus will deliver you from your urges, but odds are he won't. Maybe he wants you to experience it so that you can grow and learn from it.

The best thing you can do is find a spiritual advisor or some other person or group who will support you and pray with you. The more time that you spend in prayer, the less likely you are to give in to your urges.