i want to be more sexual with my boyfriend. i dont know if he wants to be. i get the urges to have sex with him but i dont want him to break up with me if he dosent.like the other night i stayed the night at his hose and us layed on his bed like i layded on him facicing him holding eachother.her keep his hands in my shirt in back rubing mu back and evrytime got a liltle closer to toching my boobs. and it turned me on really bad.i felt like i just wanted to make hard love to him. but he always sends me mixed signels like he wants the same thing the other times he dosent. i really dont know wat is going on. am i in real love with him or r we both? and dose he want the same thing as me.
2006-06-15 10:00:34 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This may sound cheesy and silly, but you have to talk to him. You both need to know what each other wants in the relationship. Its not fair for either of you to be making unecessary sacrafices!
2006-06-15 10:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless he's gay,he wants it.You're very lucky you have a gentleman for a bf.The chances are he's afraid of rejection.The best thing you can do is talk to him.Tell him that you love him and are ready to take ur relationship to the next level.He should understand what u mean,but if he doesn't ur gonna have to be blunt.Tell him that when you get close to him u start having more than just romantic feelings toward him, that u want to get closer.But before u decide that u want to have sex with him make damn sure he's the one you want to be with.R u a virgin?Is he?That may have alot to do with his nervousness.If this happens,make sure you are prepared.Have a condom or two with you,don't leave that decision up to him.Also,maybe even have some other form of birth control just in case the condom breaks,you don't need to get pregnant especially by someone you are sure you're in love with.Good luck and be safe!
2006-06-15 17:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by kalasmom3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it heightens sexuality between partners not to go all the way. I would make some further advances on him and see where it goes from there. Maybe he is afraid that you don't want to. The two of you need to discuss if and when this is going to happen. He could be waiting for you to be the dominant one and make the first move. There are a few choices. Good luck.
2006-06-15 17:13:39 · answer #3 · answered by tinytracy1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him about it and ask him what his personal views on sex/sexual activities are. If he's ok with it, maybe he's just afraid that you're not, so the next time you're getting the feeling, show him. Start unzipping, removing articles of clothing, or just put your hand in his pants and start playing with him and see if he returns the favor. If he's not ok with it, then he should be kind about it and just tell you. Maybe i dont have much faith in people in general, but if you are sleeping together already, I would be shocked if you managed to go any significant amount of time without at least some hand or oral action.
2006-06-15 17:05:31 · answer #4 · answered by anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he wants the same thing. No normal guy will have a girl in his bed just to rub her back or just to hold her all night. Please! He is probably as nervous as you and he is taking it slow because he doesn't want to scare you off. Talk to him when you're in that position again. The bedroom is the perfect place to talk to him about wanting him. His hands in your shirt again put your hands in his pants. That will get the message across.
2006-06-15 17:10:30 · answer #5 · answered by BigDaddywantsblwjob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok...first I have to ask how old are you? You need to make sure you are ready to make the commitment of having sex with someone.... unless you do it all the time. Love is complicated and that's something you have to figure out on your own. Sometimes it can be hard to ask someone straight up if they want to.... just let one thing lead to another and see how it goes! good luck!
2006-06-15 17:23:27 · answer #6 · answered by britt b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a s_l_u_t. Get married to the right guy and then have sex.
If a guy doesn't want to have sex with even when you're jumping on him, maybe he's actually an intelligent guy who wants to do the right thing, but made the mistake to hook up with you.
2006-06-15 17:04:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um... you should always talk to him ask him you do know 75% of the relationship is communication right?.Just say something like um..."I think I'm ready for the next step and i really want to share this with you.
2006-06-15 17:06:57 · answer #8 · answered by vcbfa1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants the same thing as you. He's afraid he'd be pushing his luck and offend you if he tries to go all the way with you.
Let him know what you want, I promise you he wants the same.
And for the love of god use a condom.
2006-06-15 17:05:50 · answer #9 · answered by Diddy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wo girl how old are you. If you want to do that maybe you should take it step by step like start with kissing and work ur way up to sex when you are OLD ENOUGH!
2006-06-15 17:04:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋