Guys always say "I'll hit that" , "I'd do her!" etc etc.. it offends me, they even do these clapping sounds sometimes. I don't even dress slutty or act slutty. I never just hook up. I have morals and I stick by them..How can I get these guys to stop saying these stuff, how can I get to want a relationship with me, not just a hook up?
2006-06-15 09:15:26 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems to be the way these days. These guys that are running around saying "I'll hit that" .. "I'd do her" really aren't old enough to be hitting anything or doing anyone and what's more, they are making themselves sound like complete and total idiots. I'm 34, I've been listening to it for long enough to where I think I get a vote, and my vote is... they just plain sound stupid. However, also being 34 means that I'm getting a hard lesson .. the lesson is that beauty fades. After a while when you begin to get a few gray hairs .. maybe skin isn't as firm as it use to be .. you kind of miss all of the attention and the compliments. "I'll hit that" deffinately isn't half as nice as hearing: "Boy, you sure look great today" .. but it's still a compliment. It means they find you very attractive. You can let them know that their choice of words is something you find very unattractive if they persist in talking to you or trying to snuggle up before getting to know you personally. Have to tell you though that the ones using terms like that, if you are at all like me, are not the type of guy that you will end up with .. so just putting them on "mental ignore" is a good way. You still get the compliment and keep right on walking. Or just say thanks and keep walking if they're not trying to really talk to you. If someone doesn't seem to want to take the time to know you on a deeper level, you can use a million and two little bits of body language to let them know you aren't interested. From the look on your face .. to literally turning your back on them (but they might comment on your butt.. if you can deal with that then cool.) .. you can give them a look that kind of says "grow up soon please.. but till then, go away, thanks" .. you can attempt not to really hear it .. but in short .. what they are doing is complimenting you. When you are in your 30s, 40s, 50s or whatever .. you really are going to look back and sort of miss all of the compliments. So in some ways .. just take them for what they are .. compliments and otherwise, silly words from silly young men that haven't grown up yet. Most of the time the world seems to look like a giant meat market anymore .. and I'll agree with you .. the ways guys are going about things are very offensive and wont get them far with gals that are worth being respectful of. Just keep your head hon ... good guys do exist and ya know something.... they don't talk like that. ::smiles:: Be safe and well n have a good night. -Always x
2006-06-15 09:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 2⤋
The plain and simple answer is to change the type of guy you hang around with. If you're talking about a guy who sees you in the mall or at a movie... nothing you can do about that. But you can start going for guys who aren't jocks or gearheads. Basically, go for that nice guy to whom you haven't given the time of day before now, and he'll be more respectful (and more grateful). He'll not only want to get to know you, he'll want a lot more than a physical relationship. (And you might find they have a lot more to offer than you ever realized.)
2006-06-15 09:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by BeenThere69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well some guys are just that way. A real man will respect you and your wishes. You will always have guys saying things like that. Even if you don't hear them saying it. Maybe you shouldn't let it offend you as much, but thats up to you.
2006-06-15 09:22:56 · answer #3 · answered by aintlovegrand78 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The effective skill is to confer with your female friend. come across for certain who's touching her. And even if that's amazingly going as far as you're saying report your suspicions. you are able to not particularly tell him to go away her on my own yet when that is taking position at corporation telling a instructor or theory can assist. even if that's outdoors the faculty self-discipline report it to the police. this may dissatisfied her yet this may stop the abuse seeing that that is what that's. when you care about her get her out of this project. sense me if this exceeded off to someone I loved, be it a gf/bf sister brother or buddy i'd list it. this may get adult adult males and women to computer screen the hardship. and also you actually not understand he could have performed this to different women and also you're assisting them out too. think about abuse is abuse be it actual, verbal, or psychological. Get her out of the drawback once plausible.
2016-11-14 19:56:57 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ignore them... perhaps dress more conservatively... and get a group of like minded friends to support & stick up for you (vice versa). Remember they can only bother you if you let them.
2006-06-15 09:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by RAllen1st 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay far away from those guys. They sound obnoxious and immature. You will find one that respects you for who you are.
2006-06-15 09:20:15 · answer #6 · answered by shae 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same boat your in! its like all guys want me fo is "one good night" and im not down for that so needless to say when you find the answer look me up.
2006-06-15 09:18:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you have a STD, the guys will stop
2006-06-15 09:20:14 · answer #8 · answered by alfredo86 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't. Guys are guys so get over yourself.
2006-06-15 09:18:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋