At my school, there was a new boy from Austrailia and i had a crush on him. we talked to each other on IM and he seemed to be my friend and pretty nice. every time i talked to him on IM the next day at school he would be making fun of me or saying really mean things to me. one day I'll hate him, but can't stop thinking about him and then on IM later that night he'll be really nice and funny and I'll go back to having a huge crush on him, but he does the same thing the next day by saying and being really mean. and I'll go right back to hating him but still thinking about him. What's goin on?
2006-06-15 09:13:30 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Girlfriend, you shouldn't take that crap!! When he is nice, if you like him, be nice. When he is crappy, give it right back, and include a comment or two about what a sweet sappy dork he is when he is iming you at night in front of his friends. He might get the message then. He is not being cool, he is being a creep, and no one likes a creep!! Or in front of his friends ask him why he is nice on the computer at night to you and mean during the days with an audience???? Call him on it!
2006-06-15 09:24:04 · answer #1 · answered by klatour2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This sounds similar to my situation years ago when I was in 6th grade. There was a boy I always thought was cute who rode my bus (by the way, this is during the dark ages...before IM, emails and all that stuff...we passed notes on actual paper! Imagine that!) and this boy ALWAYS lifted up my skirt when I walked by (private school, made us wear plaid skirts everyday) or he'd pull my hair and do other cruel things like that. I always assumed he hated me and didn't want to date me. Well, fast forward to high school and I run into this fellow at a huge block party. He actually came up to me and asked me if I remembered him. I said something to the effect of, "Oh, yeah, you. You're that horrible boy who was always torturing me on the bus." To which he replied, "That's because I had the biggest crush on you!" I was stunned, and from that day on I learned that men have some pretty weird ways of showing how they feel. This could be what's happening with you. To know for sure, ignore his IM's and be aloof. I'm quite sure he'll make it a point to get your attention in a more positive way.
2006-06-15 16:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next time he IMs you ask him why he says the mean things at school and making fun of you. I don't know how old you are but there are plenty of other guys out there that would be nice to you. It isn't much of a friend if he makes fun of you. I would quit talking to him on the IM unless he quit making fun of you and is nice to you at school.
2006-06-15 16:23:50 · answer #3 · answered by Looney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Same thing ghappen to me i would go to the boy house and we would have fun kissing and things like that and the next day at school he will make fun of me. And all i think is that he likes me but dont want to show his emotions around his friends.
2006-06-15 16:19:23 · answer #4 · answered by De 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he's not the same person at school, as the one who is im'g you in the evening. Do you know that for sure?
If it is in fact the same person, than perhaps he's really very shy, and embarrassed at school when he sees you in person.
Or maybe he just doesnt want anyone to know that he might like you.
So I guess since it's impossible for anyone to guess the motives of another, that means if you really wanna know why he's acting this way, you're just gonna hafta ask him!
2006-06-15 16:20:32 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww, that's so cute. Sorry hon, it's a boy thing. Maybe on one of the night's when he's being nice and im'ing you, ask him why he treats you that way at school and that's it's not cool. Let him know how it makes you feel. Good luck!
2006-06-15 16:17:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
im a guy, but im really good at these questions. 1 possibility here. he could really want to fit in more, and so when other people are around he could act like he sees others acting so that theyll like him more. But that really only works if everyone else makes fun of you...
2006-06-15 16:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by Wizz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a boy. he doesn't know how to flirt with you without making fun of you, especially around other people.
just say to him. "please don't make fun of me, i really prefer being around you when you're nice to me."
this may take the pressure off of him to "perform" for you to get your attention and he'll also hear you say that you prefer being around him. that may be all he hears but hopfully he starts being nicer to you.
you might also ask him...
"if he can be nice online chatting with you why can't he be as nice at school?"
be direct with him but nice at the same time.
2006-06-15 16:15:23 · answer #8 · answered by lowIQ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is to young and immature to show his true feelings. Does he look you in the eye when he speaks to you? Depending on how mean he is, he may have a crush on you too. If he is down right dirty, blow him off and be dirty back. You deserve someone who is sweet and kind.
2006-06-15 16:18:18 · answer #9 · answered by sweet_shy_blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd stop talking to him on IM until he can behave normally around you at school. He really doesn't deserve to be your friend until he grows some balls.
:) Good luck
2006-06-15 16:29:54 · answer #10 · answered by tula_p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋