I love my boyfriend and I know he loves me. We decided not to have sex until we are married in order to ensure that we are truly in this relationship for love and not lust. But there are times when it gets hard to resist temptation. What can we do?
2006-06-15 08:50:31 · 40 answers · asked by Dr_Helpful 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There are many, many things that the two of you could do together. Taking long walks, easy going dinners together... you know those kinds of things. But the one thing that you must keep in mind is to do things you both will like, and do not be afraid to try new things. Try to mix both of your personal intrests. If there is something that he is really into and you are not so sure about, ask him to take you along (if possible) or to teach you a little about it. He will be thrilled at your heightend intrest in the little aspect of his life.
2006-06-15 08:55:41 · answer #1 · answered by ambiegirl5544332000 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like it is lust if you guys are having sex. You should be making love if you love one another, You should beable to tell if it is love without holding out on the love making. But if you both have decided that is what you want to do thats great. Maybe while you guys are together how about playing some games(card games or board games) or something. Maybe take up some sports together. Play tennis, play volleyball, go fishing. Cook together. There are alot of things. Just stick to what you both have decided. This could also hurt your relationship. Maybe try to make love sometimes but not all the time.
2006-06-15 08:56:56 · answer #2 · answered by bigdog_0032 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start talking. Change the subject to a subject that when talked about really makes you NOT think of sex. You won't go through life without temptations, but when you are married you will realize what you did was right. Talk about a movie, or a funny occurence or something like that. Sorry I don't have better advice. Hope this helps!!!!
2006-06-15 08:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by k m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid being alone together where the temptation could overcome you. Limit how much contact you have, such as no heavy kissing and do not cross the line. When the temptation starts up, remind each other why you have decided to wait. Also try praying and/or reading the Bible. And remember to prevent yourselves from being in a situation where you may give in.
2006-06-16 04:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by Julie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, sex is never good the first time. Sex isn't something that you're good at naturally, it takes practice and time to learn each other's bodies well enough to start feeling good. But if you're not up for that, and would rather just leave it alone instead of trying (It is your decision and if you're not comfortable with it then that's perfectly okay as well) then you're going to have to come out and tell the truth. You cannot leave him hanging and keep making up excuses.. He doesn't know how you feel and avoiding him could ruin the relationship.
2016-03-27 04:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope the wedding date is coming up shortly. In the meantime, you'll have to be happy with hugs, kisses, holding hands, etc. It would be a shame to not wait - if you've already waited this long. Remember that intercourse isn't the only form of sex - so keep away from each others bodily parts until the wedding.
2006-06-15 08:54:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to my ex wife..she had several methods of not having sex. Headaches, extreme fatigue from breathing all day, Mental duress from loading the dishwasher, allergies to the accumulated dust all over the house were a few of them.
What I really want to know is what will happen when either you or he find that sex with the other is NOT all you had thought it would be???? ah...the problems start already...
2006-06-15 08:54:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the best thing is to talk about what your felling and about why it is best to wait its hard i know but you have to make up your mind and just let it be that way stay away from temptations workout your built up tensions and anxieties sports video games time apart and lots of luck lol
2006-06-15 08:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by black m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say avoid being alone for to long and try not to have to much heavily petting. If you get too horny set limits. Like we can fool around only with clothes on ....etc
make sure you aware of each others boundries
2006-06-15 08:55:10 · answer #9 · answered by prettyinanything 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a television? Go to the movies, eat, dance, stay out of the house and your bedrooms...... Just a few ideas. Depends on how much you want to resist! You can do it!!
2006-06-15 08:54:41 · answer #10 · answered by klatour2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋