Moms out there--how often do you yell at your children?

Question

I try not to--but at times,after the 10th time of asking in a nice way...well,you know the story:( My children are 7(with special needs),11,12,and 15.Yesterday,my 11 and 12 year old sons were bickering and not minding me all day.Finally,I yelled--quite loudly--"Knock it off".We were in the backyard,and one of my lovely neighbors found the need to call the cops over it.Please--I wish she could walk in my shoes one damn day.She'd yell a hell of alot more than I do.

Answer 1

I feel for you. People have no idea what it takes to raise kids. Unfortunatelly because of people who do abuse their kids, those of us who don't abuse them, we can get in serious trouble when we end up loosing it a little once in a while.
We end up yelling at them several times during the day, especially the 5 year old who it seems like she's on a mission to get herself killed by climbing on stuff and just doing stupid stuff.
My parents beat the #(@*& out of me when I was a kid because I was a real devil, and I'm glad that back then it wasn't considered abuse, because I know they didn't do it out of anger or to abuse me, but to discipline me. I may not be a perfect person now, but I've succeded in finishing college, getting married, having kids and staying out of jail and away from drugs, so they must have done something right.

Answer 2

Every parent who's telling the truth will admit to yelling on a pretty regular basis. Three of my children listen pretty well without me having to lose my cool but my 7 year old is seriously trying to put me in an early grave. We but heads from sun up to sun down. So, although I try really hard not to yell, it's impossible for anyone to be that patient. You'd have to be drugged, drunk, or a saint. Don't feel guilty. Maybe you should ask your neighbor if she'll come take care of your kids for the weekend so you and your husband can have a romantic getaway.

Answer 3

I have a six year old, and I used to yell a lot more. He's been pretty good though, lately. But I have noticed that yelling doesn't work very well. So, now I take away what he's playing with or send him to his room for a few minutes. I do it right away. If he doesn't listen the first time, he is punished. Sometimes I say,"You are grounded until you clean up this mess," or "Do it again and you go to your room,-or grounded"
But you have to follow through. If they know they'll be punished for not listening the first time, after a while they will start listening.

Answer 4

Wow-you have alot to deal with. I think your neighbor is a busy body, too. I know that the noise and "bickering" can get quite irritating. This is how I have coped. Unless there is physical violence or the potential for bloodshed...let the kids go at it. When they don't mind you, separate them and send them to "time out". I recommend that you sit your kids down and tell them that from this day forward, you are not going to let them upset you like they have in the past. There are more of them that there is of you BUT YOU ARE THE BOSS. Give them a list of privileges that you are going to take away whenever they do not follow your instructions. (no television, no video games, early bedtimes, etc.) And...VERY IMPORTANT...follow through with this. Everyday that they follow your instructions will result in a reward. And if they are boys...have them all go pee on the nosey neighbor's front porch!!!

Answer 5

Wow, if my neighbors were that much into my business, I would have to have a cop move in with me! I have five ages 8,6,5,20 mo, and 9 mo. I try talking nice the first two times I ask. They either don't hear me because "Your not talking loud enough" or they just aren't listening. Times three and four I mean business and my voice raises. If they still ignore me, the neighborhood knows my kids are about to get it! It would save a lot of time if I skipped times 1-4 and just went to screaming.

Answer 6

It become easy back interior the days that oldsters particularly disciplined their little ones. yet now it rather is unacceptable because of the fact a brilliant style of mom and father do no longer self-discipline their young ones and don't choose individuals to do it the two. i'm no longer a parent and am no longer getting in touch with individuals's young ones for any reason. On some events, I actual have seen little ones behaving extraordinarily--destroying individuals's sources, pocketing merchandise in a shop, mountain climbing on issues and leaping out from between vehicles in a motor vehicle park--and every time I went and located the mum and father and advised them. devoid of exception, the parent known that I had mentioned some thing, then went back to ignoring the youngster's habit. needless to say, some mom and father do no longer choose their little ones to have any self-discipline. If the parent needs the youngster to no longer understand perfect from incorrect, or a thank you to sidestep a risky difficulty, some distance be it from yet another person to step in and "strengthen" the youngster.

Answer 7

We all yell at our children at some point. We're human and not perfect and we can only be pushed so far. Although we all have learned that yelling gets us nowhere, we have limits of endurance. If it is a problem, try to control it. If it is one or two isolated incidents, don't worry about it. Your neighbour is over reacting. People, these days have become somewhat obsessed with monitoring parents treatment of their children. Although, there is somewhat of a need for it, unfortunately innocent people are getting caught up in it. Hopefully, she will mind her own business in the future.

Answer 8

If I were you, I would have a nice present (please read this as sarcasm) for your neighbor on Halloween. If you are beating your kids, that's one thing, but to call the cops for yelling at them? Your neighbor really needs to mind their own business. I've seen much worse right in public places.

Now, as the dad, I do most of the chewing out. My wife does very little.

Answer 9

Everyone reaches a breaking point with kids, yelling at them every now and again is understandable.

As far as your neighbor, I'd have some fun with that. I'd go outside and yell every day, even if it wasn't at a kid. And every day when the cops show up, I'd just laugh and tell them I'm just having fun with the neighbor.

Answer 10

hey starlite Im a single father of two moms not been in the picture for a long while my daughter is a special needs (3) and my son (5) have started to really bicker and argue. I have found myself yelling more and more these days. I feel your neigbor should get with mine I got cps called on me mostly because Im a single man rasing two kids.
(I patted my daughters butt as she went by, that was construed as abuse) to shorten this do as you see fit to raise your children to hell with your neighbor