Wedding guest list: If I am inviting some people in my office who I am close to, do I have to invite everyone?

Answer 1

hell no...just invite the select few that you want...If you don't want everyone ther then don't invite them...especially if you haven't had more than two words to say to them

Answer 2

The office invitation is always a hard question. If it's truly just a few, close friends, then no one should feel slighted. However, if you're inviting 15 - 20 people, and there are only 25 - 30 in your department/office, then it could easily be perceived as a snub.

If it's most-everyone in the office, invite them all unless you really can't afford it or you think they'll cause a scene. If it's just half a dozen, there SHOULD be no hard feelings.

Answer 3

Since you wouldn't put up a notice on the office bulletin board announcing who you don't like or disapprove of, your guest list shouldn't be announcing this either. You have to choose some objective standard and stick with it. For instance, you can invite the people you socialize with outside of the office, but you have to invite ALL those people, even the ones you don't like. Or you can invite only those from your own department, but then you must invite everyone in your department.

Answer 4

Suggestions on inviting co-workers:

1) If you've decided that you just can't afford to invite all your co-workers due to financial constraints, don't be afraid to tell them. Just let them know that you don't want to hurt their feelings but have decided to invite immediate family only. Don't worry - most people will understand.

2) If you've decided not to invite co-workers to the reception, DO NOT invite them to the ceremony only.

3) If you've decided to include your co-workers and you work in a small place of business (and are relatively close to all of them!), then invite them all. Don't leave someone out - it may cause tension in the work-place.

4) If you work in a large office and only want to invite a few people, make sure you tell the guests that you are inviting not to talk about it. You don't want to make it an awkward situation for your other co-workers.

5) Not sure whether to invite the big boss? If you have a good relationship with him/her, why not invite him/her? However, you shouldn't feel obligated to invite anyone.

Answer 5

I think that if it is a small office, with less than 30 employees, you should put up a piece of paper with all the information. Have your fellow coworkers sign the paper, with the number of guests they will be bringing.

If the office is more than 30 people, invite only the people in your division, and especially your boss. To me, this makes it more formal, because you won't have so many guests there that you will feel overwhelmed.

Answer 6

I would personally say not. But it depends on a lot of things. If it meant inviting everyone from your department accept one person, that might not be a good idea. The list should make some kind of logical sense to people, like everyone in your immediate area or something like that. This is only if you care what these people think. If they can go pound sand as far as you're concerned then invite whoever you please and don't worry about hurt feelings

Answer 7

I am a bartender in a local corner pub...with the same problem, but worse. i see the same people every single day, and they always ask me if they're going to get an invite.
Its such a touchy subject, but this is how I have decided to do it.
The people that I have actually hung out with outside of work (dinner, shopping, clubbing, etc.) is who I am going to invite.
If you were to invite every singe person you have ever known, you will go broke in a hurry with a 400 person guest list!

congrats & good luck!!

Answer 8

First of all, congratulations!
About the invitation, no, you don't have to invite everyone. But, if I were you, just to play it safe, I'd invite the other coworkers to church only, not the reception. If you choose not to, you might buy some choclates and give them out saying it's to celebrate your wedding as you can't invite them as it's a small wedding on a tight budget. Enjoy your wedding. Congratulations once again.

Answer 9

No. Especially not if you mail them using normal mail instead of handing them out. Or if you give them to them in private. I know that if someone feels they should recieve an invitation and does not it can create a lot of tension in the office. And no one wants to deal with that. Especially if you work in a small office environment.

It might be easier if you give the formal invitations to your close co-workers in private and make a general come if you please announcement to everyone else. That way no one feels left out. If questioned say that there were a limited number of written invites but that that person is welcome to attend.

You might even print out very informal (and cheap) save the date cards to avoid confusion. That way every one gets a hard copy and no one has to know some people get pretty ones and others did not.

Answer 10

You don't *have* to invite anyone. You won't be arrested. You won't be carted away to wedding jail. It's up to you who to invite - and your office environment will give you an answer. If you aren't sure, ask for advice from a close co-worker.

Answer 11

I would think that it is proper to invite everyone in your department. Keep in mind that those you are not close to probably won't come anyway, but it is polite to extend the invitation to all so there are no hard feelings.