I love a girl who is in 9th and I'm in 7th.She knows I love her,cause I proposed,but know she is a bit scared of me now.I still love her,and I want to ask her out. What do I do?
2006-06-15 08:41:17 · 28 answers · asked by Rishi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did not give a marriage proposal, I just told her that I love her.
2006-06-15 08:45:23 · update #1
I think you should slow down a bit.
You're only in the 7th grade and you proposed?!?
Kid, you definitely need to slow down!
If you know that you like her a lot, and you've waited at least 3 months(yes, 3 months) then you can think of talking to her about dates.
REMEMBER: There are MANY fish in the sea, she might not be it right now.
Good Luck! :)
2006-06-15 08:46:45 · answer #1 · answered by kitties_n_llamas(Becca) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you wait until you graduate COLLEGE, i'm sorry i know you think this is the love of your life, but i do promise you that it isn't. you are in 7th grade! proposing was really pretty silly and i don't mean to disregard the way you feel i'm just trying to save you some heartache here. in order to have a wife you must have several things in place, first you must legally be an adult, second you must be able to support your wife and family which requires a job and hopefully a good one. obvioulsy you can't do this yet, she is scared of you now because you did something so drastic by proposing to a girl you don't really know. trust me it is the IDEA of the girl and the way she looks that you think you love, but this is not love, this is infatuation. love comes after you truly know who someone is and in 7th grade you can't because you aren't nearly done becoming who you will be when you grow up yet.
be patient, it will come but not yet. find something else to do and study hard and work on becoming a good man who has much to offer the WOMAN he finally does fall in love with.
2006-06-15 15:48:10 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it takes a of courage to do what you've done. Most people much older than you, the same than the ones that are currently bragging about you waiting till college to do whatever-they-think-you-should-do usually do not have the same guts !
Maybe you were a bit fast and she felt she was under pressure. Just act cool, smile, and wait. Hang out with some other girls, make them laugh and blush around you, so she can see you're not creepy and that other girls do like you ! Then if you become popular around girls, she might start to say around that actually you are in love with HER, you never know ! : ) hang on little buddy !
2006-06-15 16:06:57 · answer #3 · answered by Gé 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, ya she's scared, a seventh grader proposed to her! She's probably afraid that you're totally obsessed with her in a semi-stalkerish kind of way. If you really want to get close to her I would apologize for freaking her out, say you were joking around or something, and hang out as friends. She'll probably be hesitant to hang out one on one, so do something with a group of friends. Maybe she'll warm up to you. If not, there's gotta be some cute seventh graders at your school.
Also, just a sidenote, don't let yourself get too put-down by the rudeness in some of these other responses.
2006-06-15 15:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by Zarango 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, you're not in love. you are infatuated with this girl and all u feel is lust. you don't fall in love, you fall in ditches. love is not a feeling or emotion, its a choice. do you think you could marry this girl and provide for her the rest of your entire life? love also means complete devotion to another person. do u think u could go the rest of your life without looking at another girl and wanting her number? or never being able to have another first kiss or a crush on someone else? if she got in a bad car wreck and was burned all over her body and her face was completely mutilated and gross...would u still "love her"? just wondering. you're most likely NOT going to marry this girl. you're probably not even going to hang out with her in school. Maybe you should stick to girls your own age. im not saying u dont have a chance im just saying the odds are slim to none.
2006-06-15 15:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by ilovetexas 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My my, you poor thing. It seems that a wrong choice of word has sent yahoo answers on fire. Anyhow, it take great courage to say "I love you". Ask her if she wanna hang out, with other friends first if she is still spooked by you (but don't tell the friends why, they'll put too much pressure on you). If she refuses, that's ok, just harm yourself with courage again and wait patiently till the next occasion. Live and lean...
2006-06-15 15:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by loki_the_ferret 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez, where do you live? Kentucky? You've got a lot of growing up to do before you get married. I once went on 2 dates with this one guy in college and after those 2 dates (I should mention I did not sleep with him) he started writing me love poems. It scared me to death and I ran for the hills. You too have scared this girl. Go sit in a corner and think about what it means to spend your life with someone!
2006-06-15 15:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by SuperJenn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, you might have scared her quite a bit by proposing. Marriage is for the rest of your life, if you take it seriously. When I was in seventh grade, I couldn't even commit myself to something that would last more than a year. Nineth grade wasn't much different. She hears the word marriage, and most likely shrinks away from you. Even trying to go out with her, she's got it in the back of her head that you want more commitment than she's emotionally ready to give. I suggest that you step back, have a few conversations with her that don't approach the subject of dating even.
Treat her like a friend for a little while. If she mentions that you proposed, laugh it off. Play it down. Let her know that you respect her, and don't want to pressure her into making a step that's too big for her to take right now. You might casually mention that you were serious, but don't stay serious about it. Even approaching 20 years old, marriage is still too big of a step for me, and my boyfriend and I have been together for more than a year now. She's definately not ready for it now, and if she thinks that you still want that commitment, she'll never even give you a chance.
I suggest arranging group outings. If you have mutual friends, have them all along, otherwise get a group together of mixed friends. Have her bring three of her friends to meet you and three of yours for a day riding bikes, visiting a playground, seeing a light-hearted movie (avoid anything sappy and romantic, or even better, pick a flick she wants to see, or let the entire group decide on what to see when you get there.) Maybe take the group to Denny's, or some other casual and inexpensive resturaunt. Don't turn it into a date, just a chance to hang out and get to know her and her friends. If she starts to see you as someone fun to hang out with, she'll become less afraid of the commitment you asked for earlier. It won't happen overnight, but it could work if you are willing to work for it.
Most of all, be yourself. Don't try to impress her, don't try to change for her, don't obsess over her. You're there with a group. Have fun with everyone, and relax. Chicks dig it when a guy can chill with their friends, even if it's not a perfect match. It's not such a delicate balance as most people make it out to be, just show them respect and act yourself, if you have areas of mutual intrest, talk about it, find out what they like to do, what music they like, what movies are their favorites, that sort of thing. Find the common ground, and build on it. If she sees you having fun with her friends, she'll see you as someone SHE will have fun with. Also, if her friends see that you're a decent guy, they'll help (without you asking) to win her over. These kind of things can help change the climate to where you could breach the subject of casually dating. (But definately don't rush it. Proposing to her made her see you as obsessed, not as somone who loves her. Show her that you just didn't know how to approach it, really, and that you now know that it was the wrong to talk about forever.)
Most of all, don't play games. Don't change yourself or exaggerate to impress her or her friends. If you can't be yourself for her, then no relationship will ever work out.
2006-06-15 16:03:55 · answer #8 · answered by Aeterna Nox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get to be better friends with her first. With girls, we usually want a boyfriend that's been friends with us for a longggg longgg time. For example, I'm going out with my best friend from 6th grade. Relationships are always better when there is friendship involved, not just blind lust. Talk to her in a friends sort of way, not in a way that suggests you want to go out with her. Be friendly, but don't come on to her. You have a long time to keep looking for a life mate!
2006-06-15 15:45:45 · answer #9 · answered by Breakdancer Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ummm...ask her out...do not ask me how to do that...you were brave enough to propose to her. If you're only in 7th grade do not try to marry someone...grade doesn't really have to do with anything...people get held back..my sis is 2 years older than me and one of her exs (he was in her grade) is now in my grade...it is more age...3 years toooooooooooo much 2 is iffy but 1 or same is good...
2006-06-15 15:47:34 · answer #10 · answered by I'll go with that 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋