If so why and if not why can't I find anybody whos interested? I'm not ugly or mean. I'm a pretty happy person.
2006-06-15 08:22:44 · 24 answers · asked by chickie27 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They are shallow men. Look for a different type of man. I bet you date similar type of men. There are those who will. Be patient and you will find the right one.
2006-06-15 08:27:50 · answer #1 · answered by Snuffy Smith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that a women 21 years old that has two kids don't scare a real guy. I feel this way because I have a friend that is 20 and has two kids and one on the way and she seems to never have a problem getting guys. As long as you are doing what you are suppose to, then yeah guys appreciate that. Most young girls now a days want to get government issued checks and sit on their ***, but if you go to work and take care of your kids then that guy that you want will love you and your two kids.
2006-06-15 15:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by anw110784 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same problem I am 21 and I have 2 kids. I do think we scare men away because they do not want to take care of kids yet. but the older men I don't really think they care. Same thing with me too I am not ugly and I have a good personality but still no guys
2006-06-15 15:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by ~Ms Eli~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a situation such as yours- with 2 little kids, you may be looking in the wrong places. looking for love is the worst way to find it- just let it stumble upon you. what you likely need is an older man who is more mature and usually if they are more mature they are ok with the kids situation. a lot of men may think you are just looking for a "baby daddy" to take care of the kids. just keep in mind that if you go places like play groups, the park, etc- you might have luck meeting a single father there.
2006-06-15 15:26:44 · answer #4 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would absolutely scare me, no offence! But thats cuz in my relationships Im looking for someone to settle down with and maybe raise a family, but u've already pretty much got a head start on that and youre only 21!
2006-06-15 15:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by chiefhandsome 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am married w/ three kids..... When I was in my early twenties, I dated a single mother. (she had one daughter) It was great! We were together for about two yrs.... About 1.5 yrs into it, I realized that the only reason I was still around was because of her daughter!!!! The saddest thing was the fact that ex boyfriends don't get visitation rights....
I'm sure you will find that special someone!!!! In the meantime, Keep your head high and enjoy those little ones!
2006-06-15 15:30:08 · answer #6 · answered by and,or,nand,nor 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on where you ae looking for guys. If you are seeking other 21 year olds that dont have children etc. that can be pretty scary. BUT not all men are scared off by that.
2006-06-15 15:29:41 · answer #7 · answered by boomerang3que 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was divorced in my early 30's, with two kids. I found that men with no kids were a little hesitant to date me but when with kids were more interested. For one thing, we could do things together with the kids. I have been happily married now, to a man with a daughter for ten years now. In the meantime, you need to be careful about introducing casual boyfriends to your kids. Their hearts can be broken worse than yours.
2006-06-15 15:28:08 · answer #8 · answered by PDY 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most men in your age group do not want a family right now. It's messed up, but it's the truth. There are some guys who will date you, but if you're hot, you have to be careful that they do not just want sex and not a relationship. Also, perhaps it's the guys who you do meet, maybe the problem is not you, but them.
2006-06-15 15:27:57 · answer #9 · answered by writeroftheyear1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just do not want ready-made families, especially while they are young. Some guys might think that since you already have 2 kids, you might not want to have another with them, and maybe they want a kid or kids of their own one day. Some just want to have fun now, and do not want the responsibility.
2006-06-15 15:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by innocence faded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it instantly scares us guys if were in a date or something like that
cuz most guys who are dating are actually looking for the 'perfect' gurl as much as possible...
and you know that your situation is not near to being perfect. :(
they just dont wana be an instant father of two...
i suggest that you make some friends...
let them know how good your personality is...
then youll find someone whos falling into you.. (:D
by the way, i do think young gurls who have given birth are hot..
i dont no why but i really do think they are hot...
maybe because of the thought that they aggressive...
2006-06-15 15:33:00 · answer #11 · answered by dudatswit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋