If this is a free country why can't we marry whoever we want?

Question

I am a U.S. citizen and my husband is from Mexico. We got married at the beginning of this year in Mexico. I came back to the U.S. to start the fiancee visa process. It is a very hard situation because we are not together and all I keep hearing that this takes 2-3 yrs. All I want is to start a family I recently graduated from college and all I want is to start my career and live a happy life. I'm not getting younger 2-3 years is way to long to wait. Nobody should have the right to run your heart. especially the goverment

Answer 1

Because freedom does not mean choas. There are still rules to society that come from the constitution that is Biblical based.

Answer 2

Well,I'm married to a mexican man also--but he's here illegally.We started the same process for immigrant spouse/fiancee residence about a year after we married.They told us the wait would be about 2 or 3 yrs,but so far it's been 6yrs.The only difference in what you are doing and what we did is that you don't have to pay the fee for illegal immigration.The fee right now is somewhere around 2000 dollars plus attorney fees.I don't know what your best bet would be...while you are waiting,could you spend half your time in mexico and half here?Could he get a visa to visit here while waiting?My mother in law comes to visit here and she lives in mexico.She justs gets a vacation visa.I just think it would be even harder for yall if he came over illegally now that you've started the process.Good luck with everything.

Answer 3

The reason why it's so hard to do as you're doing is because too many people marry people from other countries just to get them into this country. Then they get divorced, leaving the one from the other country to legally do what they want. It's to protect you that this law exists, so that no one will take advantage of you and your citizenship. My mom had to do the same thing when she married my dad in Germany, after the war. He had to fill out stacks of paper, and wait several months just for the army to say he was legally married. Then, when he tried to bring her to the states, he had to go through more paperwork, proving she would have a place to live and people to watch over her. They already had a baby too, making it that much harder to get everything done, as babies had to have several shots before entering this country. They had to wait six more months in order to allow that to happen. Once she was living here, she still had to make out more paperwork and get her citizenship completed. I don't know how long all this took, but it wasn't easy. My dad explained that he understood about all the paperwork and delays because this country was protecting him from a foreigner taking advantage of him. While this might not be your particular situation, just be thankful that this law exists to protect everyone, not just those who are getting married under false pretenses. A lot can happen in 2-3 years. You just might see things that hadn't been apparent before. It will be hard for anyone to play the dating game for that long, so all his true colors will show through. If he's the real deal, he'll still be waiting for you by the time all the paperwork gets done. You might not see it now, but this might be good for the both of you to wait. Your marriage should withstand even this, because this isn't half as hard as some of the other things your marriage can go through. If you really love each other, this will just be another obstacle to overcome. If you both stand firm, the time will pass before you know it. It's worth the wait. <*)))><

Answer 4

Why doesn't your husband go to the U.S. on his own visa (don't know if you even need visas from Mexico) ... once he is here on his VALID visa, start the paperwork ... once it has arrived with the authorities, and he has a receipt to show it to anyone who wants to look at it, he can't be deported, at least not until he gets a yes or no from the immigration authorities, which can take a very long time indeed ....:) Mind you, he won't be able to work (legally) until he gets the OK from the authorities ... and if he works illegally and is found out, chances are his application will be rejected ...

Answer 5

Because this is a free country, you did marry to the person you wanted. If your visa takes 2 to 3 year, don' t blame the US government because the Mexico government is the one that needs to approve the visa for your husband.

Answer 6

I completely understand honey. It sucks. I'm getting married in 2 weeks to the love of my life and he is mexican. Unfortunately it is going to be even harder for us as he came into this country illegally. If only he would have gotten a darn visa! You did the right thing though by marrying him in Mexico. You shouldn't be applying for a fiancee visa though. You should be filling out paper work for the K3 Spousal visa.
The certainly agree with you. I feel like the United States is trying to dictate who we can marry. Who says you have to marry someone from the same country as you? I love my fiancee with all my heart and I can't help it that I fell in love with a Mexican. Let me tell you, I used to be prejudice against them and certainly never saw myself actually getting married to one!!! I just opened up my eyes and realized that I needed to be more open to new experiences....and he treats me better than anyone I've ever been with and he respects me. I wish you a lot of luck. It is still going to be sooooo much easier for you than it will me. I just have to hope that legislation is on our side.

Answer 7

If you married him in Mexico, You cannot do a Fiance' Visa! You do a Marriage Visa and the application process takes at least a year to complete.

Answer 8

i know the immigration proccess can be hard. i just got my green card and i applied 8 years ago. im still young and have a lot of time to live my life but i have not seen anyone from my family outside my parents and brother in 4 years. i have little cousins i have never even seen. i sometimes feel left out of my family at christmas when they are al together and i am here. it is upseting but that is the way it works. and now i have to wait 4 more years till i can even think of applying for citizenship and getting full rights. i feel your pain. it is somthing you have to work through. or you can live in mexico with him.

Answer 9

We don't live in a free country, as the way you have defined it. That would be anarchy. The definition of government is the 'giving up of rights by the people in return for protection and law'. In other words, we have a government which creates laws to protect the people. Whether or not those laws are fair, is another story, and that is why we have checks and balances and courts of law, etc. But these two issues are separate. We are free in the USA to protest laws, but we must abide by them.

Answer 10

Why can't same sex individuals get married and recognized by the federal government? If I had a same sex partner, I would want my partner to have the same benefits as heterosexual marriages.

There are a lot of injustices in the U.S., and I believe that all LEGAL individuals deserve the same treatment.

Answer 11

Alicia, Get a dual citizenship. Then move to Mexico, keep ties within the US. After a few years you'll be free to travel.