i have a best friend, and we've been friends for a while. and i really truly like her, but we had a little fight back in may, and we're still best friends, but every once in a while...we just kind of explode about it. because honestly im still mad. so here's what happened.
this guy liked her, and she kind of like him...but not really...me and him were very good friends though, but recently he had been saying really really meen things about how i look like a man and just making fun of me, and my friend always stoodup for me,until she started to like him. & i always tried to ignor it. then she would just be like oh he didnt mean it like that! and then when he asked her out..she sed yes. even tho she didnt like him much. well she asked me if she should break up with him, & i askd her if she relly like him. she sed no, so i sed then if u dont like gim break up with him. so she did. then the next day she went and told every1 that I broke them up! and hated me! im so sick of it, & i mis her
2006-06-15 08:05:27 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Beauty & Style ➔ Hair
honey, that's not your friend. i know you might miss her, but you'll get over it
2006-06-15 08:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by rryseloki 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This kind of stuff is typical of your age group. Real friends don't hurt each other's feelings on purpose, so I would think that maybe you need to start expanding your horizons and befriend some other people too. As for the boy, if he didn't think you were so cute he wouldn't be teasing you all the time. Try to remember the whole idea behind saying things to you like you look like man etc. isn't so much because you do, it's because he is trying to get a reaction out of you, maybe he thinks you look super cute when you are mad! I know all of this boy/girl and best friend stuff seems really important to you right now but in 6 months or a year you'll wonder why and be sorry you wasted so much time worrying about it. Being the age you are right now sucks, but we've all lived through it and you will too!!! Talk to your parents, they know exactly what this feels like, they were your age once too!
2006-06-15 15:12:21 · answer #2 · answered by Jennifer B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.first of all about the guy good riddance to bad rubbish anyone who really makes fun of you or anyone else is not a good person to be matching up with.Next I don't know how old your friend is but she seems immature (not being mean) its like shes in middle school.She was in a conflict between friend and what she thought a love interest.Some people can make that call very naturally some have to learn thru time and mistakes others never get it.Seems that your friend didn't really want to break up with him she felt forced to do it by you.So afterward she blamed you if she had really wanted to she would have been fine and told you I'm so glad that I did that and friends are more important.So I say live your life to the MAX and if she matures and says shes sorry that's great but if she doesn't you have to fill that void with some positive things or real friends.
2006-06-15 15:31:59 · answer #3 · answered by sandycheeks 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is it exactly you miss about her? Write down at least 10 good reasons to figure this out. Then write out 10 things that you don't miss about her.
Sometimes, we let people walk all over us because we don't value ourselves enough. It sounds like this person whom you care for is really having some immature moments at this time. Perhaps you could find other interests. Do something you wouldn't normally do, like volunteer in a charitable program. Helping other people is an excellent way to get out of your depression. Who knows, you may find a new friend worthy of your friendship. Or, perhaps you will find someone who can talk with you about this problem.
The other issue is, do you look like a boy? Do you want to look like a boy? What can you do to change your appearance to make you more feminine? Although this shouldn't be an issue in your friendship, I think it bothered you when her boyfriend said this to you. It's not really a reflection on your friendship and you shouldn't hold your girlfriend responsible for what some guy said. But, if you didn't like what he said and there was a little twinge in your heart because you thought it may be true, perhaps you could start going to the library and studying some stylish ideas. Otherwise, don't let what people say bother you.
Good Luck! And change is good! Change in friends and styles can be both fun and rewarding.
2006-06-15 15:15:23 · answer #4 · answered by Chew on this! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry. I feel for you. I've had friend problems lately. What I would do is stay away from your friend for a while. Then when the heat cools down some, talk to her as a discussion, with no judgements, and ask her why she did this. If she seems to truly not like you, then you might want to find another friend, especially if she has done this before. If she seems truly sorry, then forgive her, but if she keeps on doing it, don't put up with it.I know it's hard, but it is so much better than being betrayed like that. Good luck!
2006-06-15 15:18:10 · answer #5 · answered by addie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think she's being a true friend to you. It's up to you what you do, but I'm not sure that your friendship is worth the effort of repairing. You should forgive her, but that doesn't mean you forget what happened. Has she apologized? Is she sorry for the way she treated you? If not, then there's a good chance that something similar could happen again. I can understand that you miss her because she was once your best friend, but being nice to friends doesn't mean that you should let them walk all over you. You have to have boundaries.
2006-06-15 15:12:21 · answer #6 · answered by SongbirdGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This person is not your real friend. No real friend will give up your relationship over a guy they don't really like. Mend your friendship to a point where you can still hang out with eachother but I would say dont try being best friends anymore cuz that's your first sign she didnt really care in the first place.
2006-06-15 15:11:34 · answer #7 · answered by bustownohio 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly madly deeply do miss her, then maybe you should try to talk to her and ask her why she did those things and if she has got a really good explanation for it you maybe can tell her to never do what she did ever again and tell her that you can trust eachother and that you should always watch eachothers back. But if she hasn't got a good explanation for it you maybe should consitter to break your relation up, because you should NOT let her treat you that way. Besides, someone who takes your energy and good feelings away you shouldn't be friends with or something like that. My mom said it to me like yesterday or something.
2006-06-15 15:15:51 · answer #8 · answered by sunny_marika 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not a friend a true mate would stick up for you no matter what and if she wants to spread stuff about you breaking them up then let her and show her you dont care and you have gottern over it and grown up just look to the future and move on.
2006-06-15 15:14:14 · answer #9 · answered by Rosetta 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stand by your friend and let go of the anger- let her cool off for a while too. Someone has to be "the bigger person" in the situation, it might as well be you. True freindship will prevail and you'll be back to normal in no time!
2006-06-15 15:13:05 · answer #10 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, have you tried talking to her? maybe you should have a nice long talk with her, and tell her how you feel and everything, maybe that will work. Well, if she doesnt want to talk maybe you should try talking to the boy she went out with. maybe u can tell him that u didnt really mean to brake your friend and him up, you should tell him to talk to her, and tell her everything... Well thats the best answer i have, so i hope i helped!!!!
2006-06-15 15:34:49 · answer #11 · answered by Lyssia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋