my hole family including me are all chatholics. i know for a fact that i am a lesbian because i have a girlfriend. is that a sin? should i tell my parents about my girlfriend?
2006-06-15 07:55:37 · 36 answers · asked by confidential 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
NO DO NOT TELL YOUR PARENTS YOUR RELATIOSHIP IS BASED ON LOVE NOT RELIGION
2006-06-15 07:58:11 · answer #1 · answered by potato 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋
They probably suspect it already. If so, they are also probably trying NOT to know. Your parents really don't want to know things like that UNLESS they need to get involved for your safety. The first thing they will do if they find out is blame themselves and try to figure out what they did wrong to make you this way.
Once you discuss this with them, there will be no taking it back. If you love your parents, don't tell them until you are at least out of the house living on your own.
You might find out in a few years that you've changed your mind about the whole thing anyway. Having a girlfriend doesn't mean that you will never have a boyfriend or husband.
Any Christian church teaching that homosexuality is not sin is twisting the bible to what they want it to say rather than what is written. Any Christian church that would turn someone away because they are a sinner is missing the whole point of their existance. What is the difference between a woman having sexual relations with another woman, and a man having sexual relations with different women who aren't his wife? They are both sins.
Your sins should be discussed between you and your God, not you and your parents.
2006-06-15 08:21:28 · answer #2 · answered by Automation Wizard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you know for a fact that you are a lesbian then be proud of it. You should not be ashamed of who you are regardless of religion.
This is why I am not religious. People live their lives dependent upon a book that was written thousands of years ago and they are unable to see anything beyond those pages.
It upsets me to read that you are frightened to be who you want to be and tell your parents for fear of religious repercussions. Your parents should love you and respect you as a person, not as something or someone that has sinned or has different beliefs to them.
We are all individuals and should be treated as such.
Reading some of the ridiculous postings on some of these pages, it is a sin regardless of religion. That is just an opinion though, nothing bad will happen to you because you are a lesbian. You will not be struck down by lightening and condemned to a life of misery!!
Tell your parents because you will feel better with them knowing. They will either be shocked and throw you out. or they may even have an idea anyway and are just waiting for you to come out.
At the end of the day, you are old enough to make your own decisions and if your parents can't look past a book or a faith to see a woman, their daughter, who is strong, loving and confident then they are better left to themselves.
I wish you luck x
2006-06-15 08:08:18 · answer #3 · answered by Gillipoos 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends girl. I'm Catholic as well and I know a lot of Catholic parents wouldn't be receptive to hearing their daughter is a lesbian. They would still love you but they be disappointed that you're going against the teachings of their faith. However, it really depends on the type of relationship you and your parents have. Also, you may not be a lesbian and could just be experimenting. If you feel the need to tell them and you think it will help your relationship with them, I'd tell them. Shoot me a message if you'd like anymore advice and good luck.
2006-06-15 08:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by Candice H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should focus on whether you are ready to tell your parents. It shouldn't matter on religion and whether you are comfortable to tell your parents that. Also most parents have feelings about this kind of thing anyway, so it may not come as such a surprise to them (no promises though). Also some girls just go through stages of experimenting, there was a girl in my class who swore she was a lesbian but now is happily married and has kids. So just be sure of yourself before telling them.
2006-06-15 08:07:45 · answer #5 · answered by corleonelover 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coming out seems to be the hardest thing to do for gay persons. specially to their parents.
I did read a brilliant book about it once, that was dealing with the pain and suffering and at the end with the relief that is all part of coming out.
It's a belgian writer, but i'm quit sure that most of his books are translated into english. Tom Lanoye - Cartboard Boxes (dunno if spelled it right, sorry)
maybe it will help you. I wish you all the best, and remember: in the end it's inevitable that u'll come out anyway. You can't stop or hide it forever.
(and yes, it seems to be a sin, but i will never understand how "love" can be in the same sentence with "sin")
2006-06-15 08:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by Thinx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hole? Chatholics?
Honey, get yourself back in school and get a proper education. At this point the rest is irrelevant!
2006-06-15 07:59:04 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ofcourse it is a sin.
The Bible considers homosexuality is a sin.
"Do you not know that the wicked will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor male prostitutes nor homosexual offenders."
-1 Corinthians 6:9
As you can see adultery and sexual immorality are just as bad as homosexuality.
However, hate the sin, not the sinner.
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If you want God to love you, you'd better leave whatever he dislikes.
2006-06-15 08:04:51 · answer #8 · answered by Massiha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know i am going to get smack for this - after all, i am a pastor - but, no.... being a lesbian is not a "sin." "sin," as i see it, could be defined as "placing your needs and wants above the needs and wants of another."
and yes, you should tell your parents. i know of too many people who have not shared that kind of information with their parents and have suffered over time trying to "hide" it from them - love is honest and life is easier shared with others - so share :)
2006-06-15 08:12:23 · answer #9 · answered by John O'Keefe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it is a sin. read Romans 1:24-32; Leviticus 18:22 Thou shalt not lie with mankind as with womankind; it is abomination. Lev. 20:13 If a man also lie with mankind, as he lieth ith a woman, both of them have committed ana bomination: they shall surely be put to death; their blood shall be upon them. God is the same today yesterday and forever. He don't change. If it was sin then, it is sin now.
2006-06-15 08:05:48 · answer #10 · answered by talking2him 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're going to find out one way or another. Are you living with them? Are you over 18? There are many ways that they might react, but by and large parents tend to just deal with it.
Love between consenting adults cannot possibly be a sin.
2006-06-15 07:59:36 · answer #11 · answered by Schmorgen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋