im so nervous wht do i do?

Question

i really like this kid and he said that he wants to have sex..i really want to but its my first time and im realy nervous...i tried talkin to him bout it but he jsut told me to forget it he doesnt want to anymore...wht shoudl i do....i really really like him

we arent goin otu but we were and he cheated on me.but even though he did that i still love him so much..ibve like him for almost a month adn cant live my life with out him

Answer 1

Oh, girl... he's playing you like a violin. He's pressuring you, and you're allow him to get what he wants without getting anything yourself. He's going to hit it and quit it, so if you want to end up feeling lousy, cheap, easy, and used, go ahead and have sex with him. If you'd rather not be used and tossed aside like a Kleenex, don't do it.

Just ask yourself what you're going to get out of it? Once he's done with you... what do you get? You will have LOST your virginity to a guy who doesn't care a bit about you. You will have LOST your self-respect, and you'll probably get a bad reputation. So... really... what's in it for you?

Answer 2

You sound like you're probably too young to have sex, and that's ok. Wait until you are sure about your feelings for someone and their feelings for you. Someone who truly cares for you won't push you into doing something you don't yet feel ready to do. If this is the case here, tell this guy to buzz off. You'll be happy you waited when you look back at this, I promise you that.

I just read your update and let me tell you this guy is bad news. He cheated before...I mean, do you really want to sleep with everyone he's slept with? This guy just wants to get laid. He obviously doesn't care about your feelings one bit. Cut him out of your life. It will take time, but it will get easier as it goes on. You deserve a guy who's not pushy with sex and who respects you enough to be faithful. Those are very simple requests to fulfill and he can't measure up. Don't worry...there will be plenty of wonderful men you'll meet who will be worthy of your attention.

Answer 3

I say forget it :) Sounds as though your still young and you need to wait......., Do not waste your time worring about him. I am sure he is just wanting to see if he can get in your pants and found out he could and now he has changed his mind.
Move on there is plenty of time for you and besides your first time is very special so safe the moment and wait wait and then wait longer

Answer 4

wow, here is the key phrase "he told me to forget it he doesnt want to anymore". That guy doesn't care about you, it"s clear. For a first time (or any time), it's better to do it with someone else who likes you, takes the time to understand your nervousness and is willing to share this experience. First time is hard, especially for women and remember, sex is about two people agreeing to open to each other, and apparently only you likes him, it's not mutual. And therefore only you will regret it later. So either try to talk to him to see if his rejection may be nervousness, and if not, bite the bullet and keep yourself for someone who deserve you better!

Answer 5

Si este chico solo te indico que quiere tener sexo contigo, no te conviene, eso no se pregunta se gana. If he really likes you and wants to be with you he will treat you in a respectfull matter and waits for you to be ready.

Nena, si esta es tu primera vez, you don't want to waste it con alguien que no se lo merece y no vale la pena.

Asi que dile que si el solo quiere sexo, que se busque una puta, por que tu no estas dispuesta a servirle ese plato.

You will find another boy that knows how to give you the respect you deserve, y te trate como una reina.

Good luck!

Answer 6

You should definitely wait! If he can't be more understanding to your being nervous about your first time then he isn't the one you need to share that with. You only get one first time ever in your life and it isn't something you should rush into with anyone. You definitely need someone with more compassion and understanding to what you are going through!

Answer 7

every time you have sex whether you agree with me or not, you give apart of you away to that person, a piece of your heart. That kind of intimacy is meant for older more mature relationships, preferably marriage....you sound way too young to even be thinking about sex, trust me it feels real good but trust me even more it feels way better when it is with the person that you are in love with. Coincidence? i don't think so.

Answer 8

if he really likes you, he'll wait. if you end up doing it he may leave, if that's all he wants. he may leave even if you don't do it, if that's all he wants. so if he really likes you he won't pressure you but if he's just into you for what he can get out of you then he'll get mad and you and try to make you feel bad, which is a sure sign he just wants sex and not a meaningful relationship and you'll be mad at yourself for giving in.

Answer 9

Let it go. You don't want you're first time to be with someone who doesn't care about you or who doesn't want you. Your first time is something you'll remember forever, should be a good memory. You don't want to look back 10 years from now, remember your first time with someone who later u realize only used you. Be smart-its your decision! :)

Answer 10

in the starting up do not be fearful! ladies can consistently tell even as adult adult males are fearful. make positive you laugh alot and merely be your self. you are able to consistently communicate about song, videos, how reliable the foodstuff is your eating, college, or ask what she likes to do yet alway keep talking dont enable there be too a lot silence! reliable success!