2006-06-15 07:30:55 · 53 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO. If you say it when you don't mean it, you cheapen the word. If the other person doesn't love you as well, then you'll look like a fool.
Do not mistake lust/infatuation for love (butterflies in the stomach is not love, love is the lost genuine and sincere emotion. Love is caring for someone when they cannot care for themselves. Don't be confussed by the media's version of love).
You might even want to wait until the guy says it first.
Good Luck!
2006-06-15 07:34:13 · answer #1 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How To Say I Love You
I Love You
I love you is a powerful phrase and saying I love you is a big step in any relationship. Learn the right time to say I love you and give yourself the best chance of hearing "I love you too!"
Difficulty: Easy
Time Required: Varies
Here's How:
1. Do You Mean It? Decide if you really want to say "I love you" or if you have an ulterior motive. Escalating a relationship to the love phase for sexual, financial, or other secondary reasons only causes problems down the road.
2. Will it be Reciprocated? Calculate whether or not you believe your partner is at the same juncture. If you partner is using phrases like, "I'm falling for you", "I've never felt this way", or "I could spend forever with you", there's a good chance your "I love you" will be reciprocated.
3. How Will the Message be Delivered? Decide the best way to communicate the message based on you and your partner's style. If your partner loves text messages or emails, consider a cyber-expression. If your partner is the spontaneous type, then mix the "I love you" into a fun-filled evening together.
4. Can you Back it Up? Saying "I love you" for the first time will be more meaningful and impactful if you back it up with a few reasons. Tell your partner what you love about them, whether it's their gentle spirit, passionate kisses, or optimistic outlook on life.
5. Will you Take the Pressure Off? Your partner may respond positively immediately or they may be caught off guard and need some time to let the moment sink in. If your partner doesn't respond right away, give it a chance. There's no reason to cause a fight. Just because you've been planning this moment, remember it's new and possibly out of the blue for your partner.
6.Are you Ready for the Next Step? Don't get fooled into believing all the pressure is lifted once "I love you" is on the table from both parties. Escalating a relationship to the "I love you" phase opens the door to discussing long term commitment and possibly marriage. Be ready for the next steps if you say "I love you".
2006-06-15 07:35:48 · answer #2 · answered by super_sexy_amazona 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a set "time" but more like a point in your relationship where you are ready to get married, b/c marriage is for couples that love each other, or you can just say it and not get married, it all depends on you hun, if you want to say it say it, but you risk him not saying it back and then having him feel uncomfortable and dumping you because he doesn't feel the same, or he likes you a lot but not necessarily LOVES you. you know. OK srry if it doesn't help you.
2006-06-15 07:38:23 · answer #3 · answered by blonde nd totaly sexy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, there is never a set time. You should say I love you only when you feel it in your heart, when you know that you really do love this person. Odds are they will feel the same. Go by how you feel and by what your heart tells you, not how long you've been together. Good luck :)
2006-06-15 07:33:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the best time is when your heart tells you they want to hear what you are feeling also. You know when it is right and have to let your heart feel it from them. Too soon can scare someone off, or maybe it can tell you if you are wasting your time also, you have to protect your heart also and sometimes the best answer other than yes is a quick no. Good luck in Love:)
2006-06-20 07:35:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes i realize that it takes me about 3 months the earliest because by then you really get to know the person. So i guess when ever you really feel that you love them, then that means you do so say something. But of course everyone is afraid of rejection. But you have a 50% chances, so take your chances sometimes or read the signs. That's all i have to say about that.
2006-06-15 07:36:08 · answer #6 · answered by jaychazus 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes when you feel it in your heart, and you've been together long enough to know that it is not infatuation. Most can confuse that with love. I was going to say when your old enough, but love doesn't really hold an age. However rest assure when you know your in love and really feel it. You will know it's the right time to tell him!
2006-06-15 07:35:12 · answer #7 · answered by davinne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lord girl, as soon as you get that skip of a heart beat, and a tingle in your stomach. When you know love being around this person more than anything. Go for it, never hide your emotions for someone you love. Let it come naturally.
2006-06-15 07:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by sicilygal2581 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, just whenever it feels right. If it is difficult for you to say it, don't because that means you aren't so sure about it. If you don't feel that the other person feels the same way, it might be best to wait a while longer to say it too.
2006-06-15 07:32:42 · answer #9 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not obligated to say "I love you" in any relationship unless you really mean it. Go with what is in your heart. When you are in love you will definitely feel it....there is no other feeling like it in the world.
2006-06-15 07:33:29 · answer #10 · answered by Dianne R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋