Is it really worth it to have children?

Question

Kids really seem to be hard work, and kind of messy and dirty. Is it worth it in the long run..to be a parent and all?

Answer 1

Everytime my kids hug me, I'm thankful. I hate when they get hurt, but I love that they thing a hug and a brightly covered bandaid will fix everything. They help me relax and act silly when I'm too uptight. They remind me how much fun blowing dandelions and bubbles can be. They keep me moving and are very good at helping me smile. If I didn't spend the money on them, I'd prolly blow it on something useless or silly. They helped me grow up and be more responsible. They taught me the real meaning of adulthood, parent, maturity, patience, and love. I've come a long way in 9 years and its all because of my kids!

Answer 2

Well your mom/dad/guardian sure thought it was worth it to have you and take care of you when you were little and being messy and dirty all the time. Not to mention all those times when you were sick, I bet somebody had to take care of you as well. So that somebody took the effort because he/she thought you were worth it.

Now that you are all grown up and think kids are "hard work", then don't have kids. It's your life afterall, and if you can't bear the thought of taking care of little kids then don't ever have one because I would personally feel sorry for the kids that you have if you ever decide to have some, since you think that they are just "messy and dirty".

With all that I have just said or wrote, you can tell that I am a mom and I love kids. It's one of the miracles of life - motherhood and children - and I would not trade it for anything in the world. The messes and "hard work" that I deal with everyday are nothing when I get that hug and kiss and "Iloveyous" from my little one. Parenting may not always be easy but it is a very rewarding job.

Answer 3

I think that it is but depending the circumstances., now a days, these young teens get pregnant and have these bastard children and of course, it is very hard, but when you are married with the man that you love, you have trust this person and know him to be a good son to his own parents, usually ends up being good husband and father... What that love is so intense between you both, you want to create that love into a baby, a baby that will have a bit of you and a bit of him and which will keep you united for the rest of your lives.. Once that child is here with you, it is not as hard if you have help from your partner who is living with you and is there with you all the way... That is why it is so difficult when you are pregnant without a husband, because you are not having help 24 hours a day, especially on those tough nights... therefore, it is worth every bit once you find that special someone.

Answer 4

Worth what? The hassle? It depends on your goals.
To answer this question, one might want to look the question, "What is the meaning of life?" first. The answers depend on the perspective. If you are infertile and hate children, then the answer is probably no. Why would you reinforce punishment with something punishing?
From the perspective of biology and as a species, the meaning of life is perpetuation in the face of the survival challenge.
Another perspective is in seeking immortality despite assured death - children are a form of immortality... yet this is also a form of perpetuation.
Another concept is that growth and development, which would include having children, is a good thing. This also ties back into perpetuity, the opposite being entropy / death and decay.

From my personal point of view, these things are only as good as the commitment of the potential parent. Many parents abuse drugs and neglect or otherwise abuse their children. These people should not be parents because such behavior raises children to be psychopaths. We have enough pain and destruction in society already. Sure, many children overcome such circumstances, but not enough and it is a challenge they ought not have to face.

Answer 5

If you already have it in your mind that kids are messy and dirty then my first response to you would be, to give it a lot of thought. Having children is a huge responsibility, you can't send them back. Not to say that life has to stop and center around your children, but finding a happy middle ground takes work and compromise for all. However, in my opinion, it has huge rewards that you cannot get in anything else you do in your life. But in all seriousness, put off any decisions if you have any uncertainties.

Answer 6

i understand the feeling. i couldn't stand kids until my siblings had kids. now i really love being an aunt, and i adore my nieces and nephews.... once they're old enough not to throw up. of course, it helps that when they need diapers changed, i can just hand them back to their parents.

i know i'm not at a point in my life where i want to sacrifice my time, money, and future for children. that's why i don't have any of my own. i may change my mind one day, but there's nothing wrong with pursuing your own goals and dreams in life. travel the world, go to school, do what makes you happy. then if you eventually do decide to have kids, you'll have an interesting life behind you, and lots to teach them about the world.

Answer 7

I can't even believe that you asked this question.

OF course kids are worth it in the long run.
I mean think about it. Just imagine if the whole world thought that it was no longer useful to have kids. Then when someone died and then more and more people died then there would be no one in this world. At all..... then our environment would die because there would be no on to take care of it.

I know that this seems alittle far fetched..... but it's true if you think about it

Answer 8

Yes, but you have to go into it wanting and knowing your going to be a good parent. With thoughts like yours i'm assuming is your age, believe me when you have a baby the love you feel for it doesn't compare to any other kinda love you ever felt before. If you have a spuse or boyfriend/lover that you are so in love with you could never live without, a love for your child is that x 5million
and it's still a differnt kinda love hard to explain.

Answer 9

There are days when all parents ask that very question. And the answer is yes! The rewards of being a parent far out weigh all of the challenges. The love of a child is incomparable.

Answer 10

If your worried about "messy and dirty" then don't have any. If you even have to ask the question don't have any. As for myself I have 3 and I wouldn't change a thing!