Okay, so here is the problem. I used to get along with my mom great. We would do a ton of stuff together, and she could make me laugh really easily. But, as I got to the age Im at now, I wanted to do less stuff with her and more stuff with my friends, and her jokes, etc, became less and less amusing to the point or, "Omg mom you are being really retarted." I have none of these issues with my dad. Why is this happening? I love my mom very much!
2006-06-15 07:08:36 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
it usually happens when kids grow up and dont have so much in common with your parents...just keep trying to do the things you do have in common with them....that will make it easier for them to accept that you are growing up and doing your own thing....parents dont like to be shut out even when they know you must go your own way
2006-06-15 07:13:43 · answer #1 · answered by susuze2000 5 · 8⤊ 2⤋
I went through a similar phase with my mother and we are super close. I think it depends what age you are to decipher why this is happening...for me it was right before I went away to college and my mom tried to control my life all she could before I was beyond her reach forever. But for you it might be different. I suggest the best thing to do is confront her in an honest, nice way. Let her know how you feel - then maybe she'll meet you half way and it will be a lot easier to hang around her and not get annoyed. Or you can just make it so one day a week you do something w/ur mom and don't blow her off for your friends..maybe sunday breakfast or something.
2006-06-15 14:14:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
These things sometimes to happen in a mother-daughter relationship but later on you will find Mom your friend for life. I think I call these stages of life, while you are going through these stages do not hurt the person (your Mom) in the process. You are a very considerate and kind daughter that most Moms would love to have because you aware of what is going on and you are seeking help from others. This by itself is a credit to your Mom, she raised a good daughter. Congratulations to you both.
2006-06-15 14:15:56 · answer #3 · answered by trykindness 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are growing up... As you get older, you want to be with your friends, and not your parents.. Things your parents do, that you used to think were funny, will start being annoying or embarrassing to you....
Don't be so hard on yourself, it's normal and part of growing up... Just make sure you don't hurt your Mom's feelings.. Let her know you love her, it's just that you are growing up...
I would suggest you guys doing different things together, like once a week. Something you like to do now.. Like getting your nails an hair done together, going shopping....
2006-06-15 14:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by Torres 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are growing up. Try to find time for just you and your Mom so she won't feel completely cut out of your life. It is difficult for your mom to realize you are growing up even tho that is just what she wants. Since you are becoming so mature---take the time to CALMLY explain to your Mom that you love her but already have a best friend. Don't forget to give her some time--you will benefit as much as she will. Good Luck
2006-06-15 14:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by Midwestgal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're a normal teen. You're just trying to find your way. Don't worry about it. Probably after college you'll be close again. The reason it isn't happening with your dad is you're probably not as close to him as you are with your mom. Just see if you can politely tell her you need your own space. Good luck!
2006-06-15 14:14:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's what happens to every girl growing up..they part away from their parents. but it's just a phase. at your age al you want to do is hang out with friends and hang out with guys. thats normal and i think your mom knows that. but thats how she's with you when you were a kid and that's how shes going to be forever. she will not change because thats how she loves you.
dont mess up your relationship with your mom because its really hard to grow up without one, like me. i learned evrything on my own. my dad was cool and understanding but a girl growing up always need someone to look up to for girl stuff.
you should just tell your mom that you're growing up and you changed a lil bit. but you still love her and you always want her to be there for her no matter how much you change. because you love her.
appreciate what you have.
2006-06-15 14:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by *sunshyne* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is hormones probly. sice u r growing ur inside is growing emotionally too. sometimes u r just pushed off the edge and nnoyed by small inimportant things. because u loveur mom u need to control yourself and not go over the edge. try 2 not let things bug u. try ur hardest to want to do things with ur mom. it will help!
2006-06-15 14:14:36 · answer #8 · answered by dani k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it is called growing up. Everyone goes through this phase. Yes, we still love our parents, but ur at the point of embarrassment. What may have seemed kewl to you what ur mum said, may not seem kewl to ur friends, and you start to think about it now. Just, don't care what ur friends think, and you'll be fine.
2006-06-15 14:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by hopper1172002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your growing up, just try to spend whatever time you have together with her because you dont know when its all over. your lucky, my mom was never funny, atleast you have that to look back on.
2006-06-15 14:13:22 · answer #10 · answered by purple_rme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋