need help about me and my gf?

Question

my friends keep sayin my gf and i r perfect 4 each other but like most guys i fear ill do sumthin 2 lose her and i rly love her and ive been very bad at luck in relationships so ive been hurt alot but all i want is advice on wat i shoud do/// i alredy talk 2 her evrychance i gt she comes ova on da weekends she thinks im rly cute and swt and she says she cares about me and i believe her but im afraid she mite still be in love wit her ex who she wud literally wait all day 4 him 2 call i dont expect her 2 do nething like that tho and i have this gift i want 2 give her but i dont no wen or how 2 give it 2 her and weve been goin out 4 a month but i need sum1 like her in my life cuz no1 else cares and we have kissed but im rly shy and weve only gone that far all im sayin is that i need advice on wat 2 do am i doin things rite or shud they b different and i mite sound obsessive but its only cuz i dont want 2 lose her and plz i want serious answers im not joking arond i appreciate ne help i gt

Answer 1

Just be yourself and everything will be alright

Answer 2

You gotta stop worrying so much about losing her. Focus on having fun with her and making her happy. But don't go overboard and be all clingy and annoying. And don't worry about how far you've gone with her. Kissing is great and if you respect her, thats all you need to do anyway. I dont know how old u are but at any age, a physical relationship outside of marriage just creates emotional attachments and and complicates things. Just remember that unless ur gonna marry the girl, you're gonna break up so dont get too attached and serious. Just be cool and hang out and focus on being a good friend to her and hopefully she'll do the same for you. good luck buddy. oh, and give her that gift...unless its an engagement ring...haha

Answer 3

Look you only need one answer from her to clear things up and then you need to try to stop worring about everything. First, does she consider you to be her boyfriend. A lot of stuff you wrote makes it seem like that's not clear.

Some time when you guys are on your way somewhere together, just flat out ask her, so do you consider me to be your boyfriend, then wait for her response, listen to it.

If she says yes say cool AND DROP IT, NOT TO BRING IT UP AGAIN!. Stop worrying and leave her along about the issue. Just say cool and that's it. The more you worry the more you will mess stuff up, just be cool. You have a girlfriend. If the girl thinks she is your girfriend, she will make sure you guys stay together, that's the way girls are. You don't need to do anything. Stop worrying about it.

If she says something more complicated, then ask her, ok, well would you mind if I dated someone else? If she asks you why you ask that just say "I'm just cuious".

If she says "no" or "I wouldn't stand in your way" or "I guess it wouldn't be fair for me to have a problem with it." then she is not your girlfriend, and you haven't been going out for a month, sorry guy. In that case you do not have a chance with her and you have to cut your losses. Be careful, your natural tendancy will be to waste huge amounts of time being her pathetic puppy when there is no chance for you. If she doesn't care if you date other girls then it's over and you need to get interested in another girl or you will not have a girlfriend like you want so much.

Good luck.

Answer 4

The answers so far look pretty good - be yourself, don't put pressure on the relationship. For the gift, a six month anniversary present might be nice. For the ex, has she brought the subject up? If not, don't bring it up - 3 outcomes as I see it:
1. Will remind her of good times, and start a split.
2. Remind her of bad times and get her upset.
3. Work to find out what went wrong and work so you don't make same mistakes, making relationship better.

OK - one out of 3 good possibilities, 67% chance of having wrong thing happen.

Good luck in keepin' it cool!

Answer 5

first of all, calm down...every guy feels this way abt his girl if he loves her. why are u worrying abt her getting back with her ex? she's with YOU now and thats wat matters. dont over-react if she talks or hangs out with her ex, they can still be friends.
what if you had bad luck in your past? this is a whole new relationship sp give it your 100%... i'm not saying it will be all fine n dandy (every couple has its fights) but you can make it work.
the important thing is that you keep on loving her and she'll obviously reciprocate your feelings. you can take things slowly, give it some time and you'll know what to do and when and how and all that.
good luck...

Answer 6

Play it cool, bud. If you're possessive and clingy, that will drive her away. Be sweet, but not overbearing. Be supportive, but not obsessive. As far as the gift, do you have a dance or something coming up? If you do, give it to her when you ask her to go with you. Maybe her birthday is coming up soon. Give it to her then. Or, give it to her for an "anniversary" present. My advice is just to be cool and don't freak her out.

Answer 7

Hi Friend,i can understand ur problem. First of all dont be shy & do what you really want to do. Girls can only change with love,if you really cares her,loves her so definately she will forget her Ex & be for you. It's reality but it will also take time so keep patience & trust on ur self. Love her & dont make her angry or sad.I am sure she will be yours.Good Luck.

Answer 8

Don't worry about it.....just don't be all over her all the time then she'll feel like she can hardly breathe around you...just show her that you love her, if she said you were cute and sweet i don't think she'll leave you...the way i see it if you think about it too much you'll end up doing something bad...just chill...have a good time but don't neglect her feelings either....listen to her and care about what she has to say. About the gift just tell her, "so i went to the mall and i saw something really nice and it made me think about you so i bought it and i wanted to give it to you..." girls love gifts, don't think that she'll reject it....just give it some time, you'll start opening up to her and hopefully you won't always be shy...

Answer 9

you're just paranoid! you can't ruin a good relationship unless you want to...
build trust. open line. you're still in your 4th month and there's this fear building up in you which i think you should get rid off...how can you go on with a relationship if you have doubts? how can you be open with each other if you haven't build the trust needed to make a relationship work?

Answer 10

Poor you. Love is hard. Just go with it BUT slow down. All far too fast and putting you both under too much pressure. It will go wrong if you keep this heat going. Learn to have confidence in yourself first.

Answer 11

take your time and just let things flow. if you think to hard about this you WILL become obbsessed and youre bound to lose her. Just let things fall into place. It called for fate for a reason. Just do your best, itll work out if she feels the same way about you.