my girlfriend ended things between us around 4 months ago. since things calmed down she is the one who has been ringing me and crying everytime we meet. i have invited her out and she did not make a fuss of it- i.e. she has taken a day off work and hasnt said that it might not be a good idea. is she just so over me? or is there something there ?
2006-06-15 06:57:22 · 11 answers · asked by confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There probably is still something there. I assume that you want her back, so what you have to do is hang back and DON'T CHASE HER AT ALL. Let her ask you out and don't always answer her calls and be her little puppy dog...willing to jump when she snaps her fingers. Make yourself busy with other friends, family, TV watching, whatever. If you continue to be so available, then she will take you for granted and ween herself off you slowly over a month or so, then tell you "what??? you want to start seeing me again??? I'm sorry but we finished things months ago, remember??! I thought that we were just being friends over the last couple of months....didn't realise that you thought that we were back on honey. Anyway, I'm ready to move on now, so I'll see you later. Bye!" Trust me, if you want her back, give her a chance to miss you more, then when she admits that she wants you, you'll have the answer to your question. Don't end up being the average nice guy, and end up without her, but still wanting her. Good luck!
2006-06-15 07:11:36 · answer #1 · answered by Zane 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt take it so seriously. It is normal, especially if you dated long time, because it became in something like habit, and now when she meets other guys she compares them with you and mostly always you are the best for her. But it is like sea waves, at first it has high amplitude - like now, she cant live without calling you, and she cries and so on, and after time will pass (and if she will try forget about you) she will become less nervous and will understand where is past and where is future. You should date with her, because it is really hard to return to releations and this quarell will always between you. Just explain to her that you have different lifes and if she want stay friends she can call you lets say in 6 month. When she will really calm down.
2006-06-15 14:33:08 · answer #2 · answered by Prott 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is deffinatly something still there, i think you should take her out again take it slow but when you feel it's time ask her how she feels about you and if she thinks it was a mistake breaking up with you because thats what it seems like to me but i think she may feel a bit silly if she was to let you know because she was the one who broke up to you. It's a girl thing. but i still think shes got the hots for you. But there could also be a chance that it's like a habit because when your with someone for quite a long time it's a bit hard to get back to your old routine because it was all about you now shes gotta get back to normal, but y not take the chance. Good Luck
2006-06-15 14:33:46 · answer #3 · answered by xxsummerxx232 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I finished with my man and immediately regretted it- I've tried for over a year to get him back- I would say this girl is having second thoughts about ending the relationship, but she had her reasons for doing it in the first place.
You have to ask yourself what your feelings are, would you really want her now, was it so good that it is worth another go?
Good luck, whatever your decision.
2006-06-15 14:08:21 · answer #4 · answered by loobyloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could be something there but do you really want to go there again? Are u both just thinking about the good times and forgetting the bad? the reasons you split up? good luck
2006-06-15 14:10:22 · answer #5 · answered by ann B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does sound like shes still interested but be careful. Maybe the next time you are together you could drop it into the conversation casually. Hey its worth a try. Good luck. x
2006-06-15 14:17:37 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be afraid of being alone. If she ended it and you are over it or felt like you were over it I would move on and let her be alone. Do not get caught up in what she wants or what she does make your own decisions on what is best for you. you have youor life to lead and should not waste time playiong what if games with her.
2006-06-15 14:04:59 · answer #7 · answered by cmo1004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like there is something there because she still wants to hang out with you, she may miss what you guys had and realizes that she made a mistake. I have been in a simular situation. Good luck!
2006-06-15 14:03:16 · answer #8 · answered by mnj0012 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of course she wants u back,or why would she ring u all the time, have u actually asked her to go back with u lately
2006-06-15 14:22:24 · answer #9 · answered by sharon v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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to you question... there might be something and it needs time. do not hurry and do not let her know that you still want her. maybe she realised that she wants you to be her friend, not boyfriend
2006-06-18 06:38:56 · answer #10 · answered by Charlie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋