my husband want to move me and our 2 daughters to mexico to be closer to his home!! im orginally from puerto rico and i understand the importance of our girls know where they came from! he feels they should be raised in all latino roots. what should i do about this and how do i explain to him that they are puerto rican also?? i would like them to know both heritages. what about just sending them to a latin school?? please help
2006-06-15 06:52:07 · 5 answers · asked by lifeis4eva_420 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
ok thanks for all the answers so far but hes deff. not controling so thatss not an issue!!! He wants our kids to know where he comes from we live in texas now and we make enough money to not have to worry ab out those issues we have loads of money saved up so please respond back!
2006-06-15 15:31:53 · update #1
Hey yall thanks for everything me and my husband abd our 2 beautiful girls have decided to move to puerto rico instead!!! im so happy cause now the girls can meet the rest of their family thanks for all the help!!
2006-06-16 04:28:13 · update #2
I agree with the control issue...
Latinos are known for being machista. In Mexico you will be at his mercy. He knows the area, his friends and family are there and you are the odd man out. This makes my hairs stand on edge. One doesnt wish to think of the worst but why the heck does he want to raise his kids in Mexico when there are so many daying to come here? The opportunities for a well rounded education, ease of life, medical care, etc are too important reasons to stay without having a really good motivation to counter it!
If all he wants is to imerse the kids in latin culture- move to PR! Or stay here and make sure to teach your kids about their heritage. Se puede, no es impossible.
Don't give up your comfort zone, Nena....
Good luck!
2006-06-15 12:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by An Opinionated One 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Its a joint decision, not just one for him alone. How you raise them counts more than where you raise them. If you are currently living in the States or Canada, there could be better opportunities here than in Mexico. Wherever ya'll now live, you chose there for a reason. He needs to think about schooling, jobs, housing, and education too. Its not just him, its the entire family that will be effected by this. Until you can both agree, I think ya'll need to stay put. Him forcing you to move could severly damage your marriage. If ya'll currently live in the USA, there are many states with communities that are heavily Latino. I know that San Antonio has a huge Latin population. So talk to him, get all of his reasons, and then decide. Uprooting your family needs to be a well thought-out decision, not a hasty one.
2006-06-15 07:13:39 · answer #2 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the answer above mine, but something also to be considered for yourself....what freedoms would you lose returning to there?
I know that my ex wanted us to move to a different country. After the fact I found out it was because he would have more control over me there.
2006-06-15 07:50:39 · answer #3 · answered by Chris L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your 2 children will always know what they are! so if you don't wonna go..don't! but they might like it!!
2006-06-15 06:56:17 · answer #4 · answered by whateva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok go wid da flow!
2006-06-16 05:36:29 · answer #5 · answered by cortneybby_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋