The girl is six, and she used to be very happy. Now she crys about everything, and says I'm not a big girl.
2006-06-15 06:28:34 · 35 answers · asked by lynnotnet 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
Many things, but if the change was that severe, than something definitely happened which has traumatized her to the point of making her feel different. If you are close to her, ask her questions, like "are there things that scare you, I get scared of (give her examples), so like that you can relate to her and she sees that she is not the only one sharing... Also, start talking to her about, how there are people that are bad in the world and that when someone does something bad to us, we must always tell someone, because like that we stop people from doing wrong things... start in that way, but communication is the key., talk to her alot, so like that she feels comfortable asking and answering questions to you... I mean, unfortunately, in today's world, things happen and maybe she could have been a victim of some type of sexual abuse...
2006-06-15 06:34:16 · answer #1 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Any time there's a drastic change in behavior something is definitely going on. There are many good answers on here. I agree with most of them. It could be problems at home. Or it could very well be that there's a new baby coming. Maybe her mom is pregnant and they're telling her she's not the baby anymore. That she's a " big girl " now.
2006-06-15 08:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by paintr77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did something happen where an adult might have said "oh your not a baby" or "stop acting like a baby" Or maybe even a playmate at school said this to her. She's obviously had her self esteem knocked down by someone.. Kids at school can be very very mean. Next time she says this, say "well, I think youre a big girl, why don't you" hopefully with a big of gentle coaxing you can get some more info out of her
2006-06-18 03:54:52 · answer #3 · answered by ames018 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my granddaughter is doing the same but she is 3 parents going through divorce and different homes and rules and people in her life. i can see the change in her behavior pushy not wanting to share and fighting with the other kids around her we know it will take time and love for her to adjust to everything.
maybe your girl should see a doctor they can help sounds like some type of abuse from somewhere, school, neighbor, sitter, day-care or other parent. check it out soon!!!
maybe someone called her a baby for some reason just keep asking questions. if that's the problem (being called a baby) she will tell you when she is ready
just keep talking to your child.
2006-06-20 06:42:32 · answer #4 · answered by montanamom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might want to consider abuse from a family member or a close friend of the family. Try to remember when this behavior started and who was around or involved in her life.
It might not be abuse; it also could be an event that was traumatic for her. Again try to remember when it started and what was going on at the time.
2006-06-18 16:20:23 · answer #5 · answered by akknaley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a niece that age and it is probably due to being told she is bad all the time..But abuse or troubled household could cause it try to easily get her to confide in you sometimes that is the sign of bad things that might have started happening and she might be being told that is she says anything people will know she is a bad girl....So dont push her but let her tell you things as she feels comfortable doing so but always watch for signs....
2006-06-15 06:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by shell b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously a big change has come into her life. perhaps she has lost her innocence and found out about the real world. the one where there isn't rainbows and butterflies or bunnies. she has probably seen or heard something to affect her.
it could also be that maybe a close family member molested her, and she can't do anything about it. so she takes out her anger on someone else. children are hesitant to discuss these things and embarassed. try to reach out to this little girl. you might be surprised. you never know what can happen.
2006-06-15 14:20:25 · answer #7 · answered by hellohellohello 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch who she is playing with. It sounds as if she is told "she is not old enough" too many times. If she has a bicycle, think about , (with her permission of course) taking off the training wheels. That will make her feel like a big girl. Reinforce her when she helps with the dishes or find things for her to do where she is empowered.
2006-06-18 13:17:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have there been any big changes in her life lately (moving, divorce, death, etc.)? These are all things that can change a child's behavior; they just don't know how to cope. She may be being abused...it's so sad, but a big possibility. If she is comfortable with you, simply ask her. If you suspect abuse, PLEASE notify the authorities! The sooner the better!!
2006-06-15 06:35:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be the victim of teasing, or someone may be telling her to stop being a crybaby. Talk with her. If her total behavior has changed, it could be a sign of something else. It is good that you care about her. Talk with her and if you are close with the family, ask her parents how she is doing and explain your concern.
2006-06-15 06:32:54 · answer #10 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋